Well we dated for 2 years...mutually split up..she got a new bf and drove me crazy...she broke up with him because she cared about me and my feelings...and now we are hanging out like we did when we were dating...but she told me that shes not going to date me anytime soon...(this was 2 weeks ago) we hang out ..kiss...fool around and everything a bf/gf would do...Should I assume she is falling for me again? or should I not get my hopes up and wait and see what happens?...or ask her whats up? im not sure because If I ask her...I dont want to hear she doesnt want me back...
2006-10-06 08:40:32 · 15 answers · asked by A Sad Guy... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she wants the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. It's up to you if that's enough for you because chances are she does doesn't feel the same for you, but you make her feel good and that's hard to give up. For your sake, I hope you find someone that wants you and the whole package.
2006-10-06 08:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is hesitant to get back into a serious relationship with you but it is apparent she still has a thing for you. I would make it clear to her that you care about her but tell her you do not want to "date" but only "hang out" be careful because sometimes when people think they are hanging out they are actually dating. Just relax and let the chips fall where they may.
2006-10-06 08:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude sack up and tell her what u want if u still love her if she is never going to take u back just take it for what its worth. fool around have sex or whatever. but dont put all yur eggs in basket and waste yur time. you should always have a couple of plates spinning at the same time. I think she knows that she has u no matter what so thats why she is doing this to you. If u were seeing some other girls she will see that u can move on and may want u back more then u want her. just please man up and see other chicks just in case she kicks u to the curb. u need to listen to tom lekis he has a radio show that will help u out on this one
2006-10-06 08:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by dunebugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the truth hurts. You have to stand your ground and tell her you can't act like a couple and not really be a couple it's not fair to you or her. Honestly, if you've broken up once there's probably a very good reason you're broken up. In my personal experience they do that because they're lonely and know you'll be there, but once they find someone else they drop you like a bad habit! Be careful!
2006-10-06 08:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by jill_valentine_otaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a woman. They need the commitment. Men don't.
Have fun with her and continue dating others. That's what she wants. In fact, if you want her, that is the only way you will be able to get her, may get her jealous and make her think.
Relationships should rarely be talked about but always experienced. So experience it and shut up.
Good luck.
2006-10-06 08:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jeffrey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you mean. I'm in the same boat buddy. what i did was, i got the courage to talk to him and asked what he wanted out of me he said he wanted to try again and see how things went this time around. i told him i couldn't be his friend because I'd be lying to myself and him, i also told him a wouldn't his "booty call". it was hard for me to tell him that because like you i was scared of what he would say. i missed him a lot and wanted to be with him, however with time i realized that he didn't want the same things i wanted because he still hasn't said anything to me since then. so my friend, i think you need to ask her and hope for the best. if it doesn't work out it's better to know now then find out when you've fallen in way too deep for her!
good luck!!
2006-10-06 08:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Julz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she tells you she is not going to date you anytime soon BUT does all the things girl/boyfriends do. THis tells me that she is doing you and whomever she wants WITH the fact that she TOLD you she is not dating you. This gives her the freedom to see and do whatever she wants without you having ties to her. Dump her and move on.
2006-10-06 08:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait and see what happens for 2 whole weeks.. i know it seems long but it isn't then if she continues the same way.. then ask her what's up? even though u might get heart broken u don't need to waste YOUR time with someone who is just usin' u for her pleasure..
2006-10-06 08:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kissss_My_Asss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way... tell you no foolin around or anything like that and keep it as just friends to see where she will go... and if she told you she is not going to date you anytime soon why are you smochin on her...
2006-10-06 08:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face the facts. things will never be the same no matter how bad you want them to. drop her now and move on. don't be a tool.
2006-10-06 08:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by sparky_dog66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋