Should I even bother trying to potty train my 3 year old son with a baby due in Late. Jan. 2007?

Question

I am 6 months along with our 2nd son. We have a 3 year old son, Jason who has no desire to be potty trained at all. Now it isn't that I haven't tried. We have tried big boy undies, pull ups. Going to the potty every 2 hours, having Daddy show him. I am trying to teach him to sit for both. A. I think that peeing standing up is gross and I don't want the mess. B. I have trained my hubby to sit,. And I find nothing wrong with a boy sitting for both.
He just dosen't care. We have sat on the potty and read potty books, sat there for 30 min. nothing. We put him in his diper or big boy undies. And he pees. I don't think he gets it yet.

We have another son due Jan. 25, 2007. So, now I am not going to press it becuase I have heard that just potty trained kids will go back to dipers after the new baby is born.

So, I have 3 monthes to go before our little baby boy, Cody is born. Should I even bother at these point? I am hopeing that Jason will see that " Babies use dipers". Thoughts

But, if he dosen't want to do it you can't force him. This is something he has to want to do. He has never seen another child go potty. I have tried everything but, treats ( candies, sticker charts, etc.) which I don't believe in. I was never rewared for going potty why should my son. He will get " What a big boy!" " Good Job!" and lots of hugs and kisses for rewards though. That is a new daycare ( Candy for going potty or sticker chart) thing. Which is one of the reasons I will never put my kids into daycare.

I have allowed him to go potty in big boy undies. It dosen't bother him. he notices it but, dosen't really care. I have told him that if he uses the potty he can get any "big boy undies" he wants. But, he just dosen't care.

Answer 1

Yes! The kid is 3, you are depriving him of his own independence if you don't. You have to do it now or later, get it over with!

Answer 2

I potty trained my daughter a month before she turned three. My son was born a month after she turned three, and she never went back to diapers. I have found out that boys are harder to train than girls, so I would start now. I was the one to train my son because my hubby works 12 hour shifts and I tought him to sit. But he decided two weeks into the training that he wanted to stand. He has done very well with this. I also had to jump start him, because he had no desire to go on the big boy potty. So I took all the diapers away from him and just put on the big boy undies. It was very messy at first, but after a week he got the hang of it. Good luck and I hope this helps some.

Answer 3

I would potty train him now. Try to put it in his mind that he is going to be a big brother and he needs to learn so that he can later teach his little brother how to go potty. Give him independance. About the peeing when sitting down why would you do that to a boy. What about public bathrooms? When he goes to school he will be looked at funny cause he is the only boy who goes in a stall to pee. I would say let him stand up. I would also get a sticker shaped like a bulls eye or a sticker that he likes and put it just under the water level so that he thinks it is cool cause he can pee on it. That could really help. That is how I got my husband and son to pee in the toilet not on the rim. Cause I know the mess that it makes and it is gross. But please do you really think that your husband pees sitting down in a public bathroom or when you aren't there. That is femmy and he probably only does it when you are there. Let men be men and boys be boys. Just make them clean the mess so they won't make the mess anymore. That is how I trained my man and son. They wipe the toilet rim after every pee cause they know that I won't clean the toilet unless they do.

Answer 4

Really, never mind "what you heard."

Why would you NOT continue to try to potty train your son? Imagine, your next son might still be in diapers at 3 years old, that means your older son will be in diapers at age 6! Believe me, they won't let him in school if he's still in diapers.

So what, if he reverts to diapers for a while? In the meantime, you, as parents need to teach him what he needs to grow up. If you manage even a SMALL bit of progress by the time the baby arrives, the older boy will still have a memory of what is expected of him.

There will be a LOT of "three steps forward and two steps back" for as long as you raise kids. You can NOT give up just because you anticipat a step back.

Answer 5

Yes... My son grew to become five in April and has most effective been out of Pull-Ups and in lingerie considering his 4th birthday, so a bit over a yr now. My son has had developmental delays (will get speech medication, occupational medication, and bodily medication), and has Autism Spectrum Disorder, however even you are not able to drive potty coaching even on a "traditional" baby with out a delays... I could try to potty teach this four yr historical however I could difference him if want be. Some youngsters simply take longer to potty teach than others and even though he's bodily competent to potty teach he will not be emotionally competent. My son has been out of Pull-Ups and diapers for over a yr now however has nonetheless oftentimes had injuries inside the beyond yr or so. Only change here's his mum and dad traditionally have him in diapers considering the fact that they recognize he's going to have injuries and they do not desire to manage it. Either that or they're purposely babying him considering the fact that they do not desire him to develop up. Or they're simply lazy mum and dad no longer short of to potty teach their baby...however both manner I could difference this four yr historical if want be.

Answer 6

Your son should have been potty trained a long time ago so please do it now and don't wait any longer. Never mind what he wants, you and your husband are the parents not your son. It is natural for a male to urinate standing up so let him do it this way or he will face a lot of unnecessary embarrassment when he's older and other boys see the way he uses the rest room. Please don't put your child's potty training off for a moment longer.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with rewarding children with tangible things when they are initially learning a new concept. In fact, it's a good thing. Take a few children psychology and child development classes if you don't believe me. A child should be potty-trained by 3 years old. Are you going to allow him to miss all of his developmental markers for the rest of his life? If people didn't do things because they didn't WANT to do them, nothing would get done. There are some things in life that we just have to suck it up and do. Peeing and pooping like a big boy is one of them. When their poop looks like mine, it's time for them to take care of it like I do.

One strategy I've seen work for girls is to let them play outside without wearing undies or shorts. They'll soil themselves and become disgusted with their sticky bodies. They're potty-trained in no time. Since you're raising your sons like girls anyway, you should give it a shot.

Answer 8

if he doesn't get it right now very soon after the baby's born he will because he will figure out hes' NOT a baby just keep reminding him he's going to be a BIG Brother and BIG brothers can't potty their pants. Make a reward chart and for Everyday you don't have to change his diaper he gets a star and since he's 3 when he gets 3 stars he get something he likes (Ex. Toy car $1 sundae at McDonalds Etc.)

Answer 9

this is a mess. you did what to your husband? trained him to sit when he pees? that's so disturbing to me, sorry. most kids don't have a desire to be potty trained. but, he's 3, i think it's time. and don't wait until after the baby is born. when are you going to do it then? get a head start now, for crying out loud. he's not going to see that babies use diapers. he's going to see that you are babying the baby and he's going to feel (like most kids with a brand new younger sibling) that he needs to revert back to his baby ways to get the same attention and doting that you will give to the new baby. potty train, now!

Answer 10

Yes, he's old enough to be trained. Plus why would you want two kids in diapers at the same time? Better off to get the three year old trained before the baby comes.

Answer 11

I would say it is best to wait till he is ready. It seems that he still isn't quite ready to start potty training. I have 3 girls and found that they let me know when they were ready. I believe that age doesn't matter when potty training starts. If a child is not ready can lead to more harm then good as they will not go at all. It is best to let them give you hints as to when they are ready. With a new baby on the way maybe best to wait awhile. Take care and congratulations on the new one coming in January/