How do you get over a jerk, you didn't even know was a Jerk?

Question

Me and my BF broke up recently for good and I am devistated, the reason why we broke up the first time is because he cheated on me, we got back together and reconciled but now i see that he is up to those same cheating ways. I caught him making plans to see an ex GF
the conversation between the two of them was pretty detailed with a long walk down memory lane. I know the standard advice for anyone who has been cheated on is to JUST LEAVE the person and there is no argument with that but usually the cheat story I have read about peoople say things like oh he or she was treating me badly ect. but that was not the case with me and my ex, because he added to my life and made me a better person, I have matured so much thouruout the course of this relationship which makes it harder for me, if he was a jerk all along I would feel better but all the way to the end, he was nuturing and such a good friend I am extremely confused and can't get it off my mind all day he has been e-mailing me and

and sending messages, we were planning to make a romantic trip out next year out of a wedding we were going to be attending for a mutual friend. , and he said that he had planned on asking me to be his wife on that trip and that he had told his family. I know he may be full of Shi* but never-the less-I am at work trying to hold it together and keep from crying. I don't really have a question I just am venting.

Answer 1

Yuu never want to do that to your heart. I been there trust me trust is the hardest thing to gain back.
I was cheated on and he ended up getting a girl pregnate and even his parents hid it from me as we were shopping for houses then on vacation he kept disapearing, Found out the girl he swore to stop talking to just had the baby he hid.

It takes time to learn to trust. Best thing to do is keep BUSY! Don't allow him to hurt you! Do not allow him to talk to you. Keep busy spend time with friends and family. If he bothers you tell him straight up. I am worth so much more.

It sounds like he tore down you esteem, build it up do things to make you more confident in your self! You don't need him to be a better person if you can not trust them. If they broke that trust once they will do it again and again. It hurts but moving on is best for you if you want to have someone love you and treat you like you should be. Best types of people to get to know are those from realtives around your age single friends or even your friends male friends or family members. It's easier if its someone they trust.

Don't even allow your self to open his emails, it leads to more pain and tears. Block him if you have to. Remember keep busy to keep him out of your mind.

BUSY BUSY BUSY!!!!!

You deserve the best don't to this to yourself. It hurts now, butto be happy you need to not allow him to hurt you like this, it's as bad as cheating and your allowing him to have this power don't let him.

Juleette

You can email me if you want to talk to someone whos been though this. [e-mail]

Answer 2

Men are human with character flaws. Sometime women tend to put a man on a pedestal. It's a man nature to have more than one woman. That is why they are called dawgs. you can not change the nature of the beast. some women turn their backs to their man's cheating ways, if he takes care of home. other women find it unacceptable. would u rather have him in your life as a nurturing friend or dump him and never see him again because of his cheating ways.

start dating other men. talk to several different men on the phone. in time you will get over him. time heals all wounds.