My mom is sick and now I have all the resposibility?

Question

My mother has been sick for quite a while and my little sisters room is under construction. She sleeps in my room and always goes through my stuff. My dad is under soo much stress that he feels he has to take it out on me. I can never get away and its constantly sit up sit down now. I wish the doctors would figure out whats wrong with her? Im going crazy... help me find a way to get away?

Answer 1

be relaxed. we pray god for your mother's speedy recovery.

Answer 2

Sweety you are her only hope right now,I wish I could have gone through that experience.See when I was 16,sisters(15-12)brother(20),it was a horrible situation on Valentines Day of 2000.She didn't tell no one in the family that she was sick and before we knew it she was dead,she bleeded from 7 different places in her body and and still to this day at 23 years old I yearn for my mother and it's still hurtful because I miss her so much.Just be there for her the best way you can,and with your sister learn how to talk to her and let her know you will at least consider in letting her borrow some of your things if she ask first.I will pray for you and your family hoping you all can over come this.

Answer 3

I feel for you so badly. You never really miss your mother until she gets sick. I know, I know!!!! Your question is hard but I would say try to do all you can do around the house. I know it is hard and your lil sister and father are gettin on your last nerve but try to be patient. That is easier said than done but look at it like this. Your mom is already worried about herself and her health so why put even more pressure on her with her listening to you guys arguing. Try to calm down...clean up, cook (if possible), and have a talk with your lil sister about going through your stuff. If that doesn't work, set up something to scare her half to death and I bet she will stay out of your stuff. As far as your father goes, have a talk with him. Let him know that he is doing all he can do and you love him and you will try to help out as much as possible but he is hurting your feelings when he hollars at you b/c he is so stressed out. Do you have a grandmother or somebody house you can go over for some quiet time? If so, try that. It is always good to go some where for a few hours to calm down and have some time to yourself. Try that and I really hope that everything work out for you. I feel so sorry for children that has to work so hard in the home when one of the parents get down and sick. Good Luck sweetie!!!!

Answer 4

I know the situation is difficult. But for now you need to think of your mom's health. Could you imagine life without her? Probably not, althought she is being annoying now, it will eventually stop. Just be patient and hang in there. Try to go to the library or do some extracurricular activities at school. Just find a way to not spend as much time at home. If you are of age, how about getting a part time job. This will help you financially and will also make you spend less time at home.

Answer 5

Grow up! You have a responsibility to both your mother and your father. Yet here you are trying to get out from under instead of taking it on the chin and doing what's right and what's expected of you.
I don't see you turning down any meals. Don't see you packing up and getting out if you don't like it. Nope...rather would be selfish huh?

Typical youth of today. I'd be wasting my breath telling you that this type of experience builds moral character and steels you for other events in life that will make this one look like a walk through the park.

You aren't ready for responsibility. Probably never will be either.
You should be ashamed of yourself. Lets see how many dopes try and come up with a solution to this instead of attending to your responsibilities like a young adult should.

Answer 6

there's no get away here hon, as a child of your parents i dont know how old you are but sometime you need to help out your parents as you should, take the responsibility to take care of your younger sisters, they need you while your parents is stress and sick. show them that you are a responsible kid, i think you love your parents there's nothing wrong with that. just hang in there strong things will be ok, good luck and hope your mom is getting well soon so she will appreciate and proud of you....

Answer 7

Do you have a church you attend or a friend that does? At least at a church group you could get away and be with others your own age and your sister could be in a group with her age. It would be a good place to meet others as well that may be able to help in your situation.

Answer 8

I TOTALLY feel you... My mom had Breast Cancer two years ago...my dad is gone and I had to care for my little brother...I don't wanna' be like a religious freak...but meditation worked WONDERS for me... Also I read the book "the art of happiness" Influenced by the Dalai Lama. You'll get through it babe, Peace, luck and happiness to you.

Answer 9

Family counseling. Start by talking to your school counselor. They should be able to direct you and the family to the right counseling. Best of health & wellness to you and your family. You may also, consider getting the church involved to help with the family crisis.

Answer 10

i totally understand your situation
when my mom got a tumor removed and my dad was out of town i had to do everything
i fealt trapped
what worked for me was relying on my friends for support and help
i promise it will get better

Answer 11

maybe a bit of out side help will help your dad with his stress.eg(a home help)if you leave your mum will worry about you,and not get better,stay your mum needs you and loves you,
if your dad dose get home help they will help him with the house work ect