i think i scared my signiticate other, she left me, now what can i do to get her back. i let my imagination get the best of me and thought she might be cheating on me. i know she would not do this, but yet i spied around after her to she if she was. she found out ,the rest is history. help.
2006-10-06 08:33:17 · 15 answers · asked by jpknute1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she left you that is the second clue...
2006-10-09 14:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Capulet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That's a tough call. I'm not going to delude you: she might not come back. Betrayal of trust is a serious relationship killer. But there is always hope!
First of all, talk to her. If she won't talk to you, send her a letter. Tell her what was going through your head, why you thought she might be cheating. If it was personal insecurity that motivated you, tell her that, too. Be perfectly honest with her. Let her know you love her and promise to always trust her from now on. (And make good on that promise! If she comes back to you and you feel like she may be cheating, tell her you're feeling insecure and ask her to help you with it. And don't ever, ever spy on her ever again!)
I hope someone on here can help you. And I hope you're able to get her to come back. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-06 08:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get flowers, chocolate, sweet stuff like that. And write a note to her:
"Dear *name*,
I'm so sorry about what I did. I was completely out of line when I spied on you, and I guess I let my imagination get the best of me. You are the best thing that ever happened to me in my life, and without you, I am worthless. I feel like there is no reason to live without you. I love you more than anything else in the world. Please forgive me.
Love, *your name*"
Or something along those lines
2006-10-06 08:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shrinkydinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apologize, explain you just got scared. Tell her you know she would never do such a thing, you should have trusted her but you made a mistake. Then it's up to her. You can't force someone to be with you, just be honest about your feelings and leave it to her, if decides not to come back learn the lesson that being too paranoid can kill a relationship.
2006-10-06 08:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like you have trust issues and you should deal with them before getting into a serious relationship or it will just lead to disaster AGAIN. To get you back....show that you trust her, be patient-she jsut needs time to get over the shock. It takes time. If you push you, you'll probably just push her away. You showed a lack of respect toward her by spying on her, so show her that you can actually respect her. If she needs time, give her time but tell her also that you'll be waiting for her because you love her but you understand and respect that she needs time and that you screwed up
2006-10-06 08:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...take care of yourself. If you are experiencing paranoia, then you may need to take medications, or adjust your meds if you're already on them.
Then, you need to write a letter to your ex and explain that you had a moment of paranoia... go into detail about what it did to your thinking process. Just give her the info, apologize and tell her you are seeking help.
You can't force the issue and you need to be understanding that she may not be able to handle getting involved with someone with "issues".
Good luck and take care of yourself.
2006-10-06 08:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is that a bipolar moment, exactly? Either way, she probably is offended that you don't trust her, and now she doesn't trust you, so you'll have to attempt to gain back her trust somehow. Ultimatley, she might not want to waste her time with someone who doesn't believe her, especially because that type of behavior is very jealous and controlling.
2006-10-06 08:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not called Bi-polar, its called insecurity and jealousy. If she left you then i dont think theres gonna be anyway for her to feel assured that you will not do this again. Telling her, "i wont do it again, i promise" is not really gonna earn her trust. I think what you both need is time apart and dont bombard her with calls telling her to get back with you cause it wont help
2006-10-06 08:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dug yourself a big, deep hole my friend. You broke the seal of trust and that is a difficult thing to regain. Just tell her the complete truth, tell her you had a moment of weakness and admit you were absolutely in the wrong.
2006-10-06 08:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make yourself better cure those insecurities you have then go to her as a changed man. I suspect that there is more to the story for her to just leave without talking to you. You know what you did wrong so fix it. Good luck.
2006-10-06 08:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you blame her? You're insecurities are probably too much for her to handle. Just go find a girl that can handle you're down moments.
2006-10-06 08:35:46 · answer #11 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋