I feel very lonely?

Question

I am so lonely and bored. I have no school, no job, thus no friends.
I have not recieve any emails or phone calls for days.
It's like everyone has forgot my existentce. I really hope someone can pay some attention to me.

I went to forums, to talk, to hope to get people attendtion. I got some reply, but very short. I did email a girl (know her thru the forum), we email each other for a while. But now I have not got any email. I feel so lonely and bored again. I know I am depending on the internet to get attention, it's not real, not stable.

Now I am depress again, because I feel no one give me any attention.

Please don't give me answers like: 'go see counsellor', 'doctor', ' go volunteer'. I am doing all these already.
I did try to join some hobby class, but it didn't work out.

I don't know how to make friends. I am not greedy. I just wish I can have some friends I can hang out with.
I am constantly checking cell phone and email, but no one contact me.

I did try to get to know some people. I did try to ask people out. I am not sit and wait for chances to come. But things never work out.

I feel like I am stuck in an island, no one is on the island. I really need to social. I am so depress.

Loneliness and boredom feelings are driving me nuts, they are killing me.

I 'was' and 'am' trying everything. I tried to get a job. I try to go to groups. Everything. I am not lying on the bed and not doing anything. But no matter what I do, how hard I tried, and how many times I tried. Nothing works out.

to bmac:
I did not let people see my 'unhappy' side. When I talk to them, I am not talking about 'I am unhappy, etc etc...'. I am regular, common chat and talking with people.

Try to understand how hard I am trying.

I am not trying to make people happy or praise them, but I am not let them feel negative when they are around me.

anyone reading my questions? I said I was and is still trying to get a job. I have not find out yet.

I did not act desperate in front of people.

I need to interact and social.

I think I am addicted to the internet now, I am keep checking forums and email, to see if anybody reply to me. It's like I cannot stop.

Answer 1

Sometimes I feel the same (and I DO have a job!)

What are some of your interests?? You might consider joining a group on Yahoo with people interested in something you are and making some online friends through that.....Make a MySpace account and seek out similiar people or people near you? Liek you said though, the only problem with email/the internet is that even though its contact it's still easy for poeple to get sidetracked....

Why don't you have a job? What would you liek to do? Perhaps you should begin focusing on getting a job that you'd ENJOY or going to school for the same....working with people/going to school with poeple normally provides LOTS of possible friends!! This would also help take up some of your time so that maybe you can be free when your friends are.

I myself go to church, so that is where I've got most of my friends. Perhaps this could be a possibility?

If you're an introverted person (like me, i only talk a lot on the internet! lol) it's really easy for others to overlook you and go on with their business. Try to start conversations with poeple...don't stress if they rebuff you or make you feel dumb...every conversation is a learning experience!

If you have friends, and they aren't calling you....try calling them?? Don't bug them out of their minds, but maybe they think you're as busy as they are so they just don't think to call.....

I hope this all works out for you....good for you to ask and get advice! If nothing else, you can email me through YA!

Good luck.....

Answer 2

Are you over 18 with a high school diploma? If so I have a great job for you, of course you will actually have to learn a skill and work. If you don't have a high school diploma you need to get that done right away.
Big problems are best solved when you break them down and attack one small portion at a time. Your most important mission is to support yourself and not live off your parents or someone else. Devote 4-8 hours every day to looking for a job or making money. Networking is most important, talk to the people at your local grocery store, gas station, and places you go. If nothing else get your lawn mower out and walk around with a $10 an hour sign on. Yea seems stupid but we can all respect someone who is willing to work. (or you can be a bum at the interstate exit with a cardboard sign) Pick up aluminum cans, go to job sites where they are building houses and ask for clean up jobs. When I had a little truck I used to pick up junk and furniture people set out, then sell it on the weekends at local flea markets.
Exercise 30 minutes every day, running will help boost your energy and help despell your depression.
Seek imporvement, you put yourself on the line here and took the critisism of people you don't know, ask the people you do know and have chatted with to give you an honest critic of your assets and faults, throw out the BS about how nice you are and look at the fault at the end of the page, that will tell you a lot.
Look good and smell good, be motivated and happy even if its false motivation and happiness it will rub off.
Boredom brings on laziness which brings on more of the same. You will have to make a consience effort every day to get up and DO SOMETHING, once you get started you will be fine.

Answer 3

First thing - I sense that you are trying

thats it right there in your words - you are trying

there is no try - you do or do not do

Also being alone is a blessing - the most popular people I know are the most airheaded and liars about their feelings - indifferent to the truth and only want to stick their heads in the sand when important issues confront them - they are very popular because they consistantly lie.

also come to realize 95% of communication is non-verbal.
the background frequency of your trying is exactly what propels people away

its like this - when you want something and try to reach out and get it - it runs away - when you stop trying - truly stop - simply say I want something and then leave it alone - not running after it - you will find that it runs after you

Answer 4

Difficult, but I wonder if you could try to find some way of expressing who you are, perhaps through dance, singing or music, some kind of art or craft, study of something that interests you, something that involves your body as well as your mind.
By finding something like this, you begin to explore your own potential, which is what other people want to know about.
You have a lot to offer, but you have to put in some time and effort to develop your talents.
It all starts with one step.
You just took it by asking this question!

Answer 5

Maybe join a fitness club, you can get out and meet people and alos work out to feel better about yourself. Try activities that will boost your confidence. Confidence is the key to having lots of friends.

Answer 6

hmmmm. well, i'm paying attention to you right now. don't feel bad. there are other lonely people too. i'm lonely, but that's not because i don't make friends. it's more like everyone hates me because i'm brutally honest sometimes and offend people.

hey, you can have friends to hang out with. when you meet some people, just hang out with them sometimes. quit waiting for them to call you and call them up. i know it's hard and it's probably not what you want to hear but, it's all up to you.

Answer 7

I can tell you exactly what is wrong, but you aren't going to like it. People stop hanging out with you, emailing you, calling you because you are a DOWNER. And it's contagious. Being around negative people will bring anyone down. You need to stop relying on other people to make you happy. It never works.

Answer 8

Hey have you ever tried "My Space". I did and found lots of people to talk with. I even found people to hang out with. All you need to do is find people with the same intrest as you, then Bam!!!! Friends!!!

Answer 9

I don't know what to tell you other than just relax. Don't worry to much about it and then you will notice that things start to change. People can tell when you're desperate and that's why they usually don't respond to you. Just relax and focus on yourself and before you know it you'll have lots of friends.

((Hugs))

Answer 10

GEt a job doing anything! It's the first step out the door to meeting other people. How do you support yourself if you do not work?