ok...read and tell me what you think....please....what am i to do!?!?

Question

ok tuesday i was at school when i got home my mom had 2 of my letters that i was going to send to some friends.she said she was looking in my room for some fingernail cutters but my letters were in my backpack so i know she was snooping.and in the letters i wrote about what happened the night she kicked me out.but it was verry detailed! (i let my verginity go & ect.) and i let this guy ive know for 3 years do a lot to me. hes 19 and im going to b 18 in a month.all this happened in augest.what should i do?my mom wont talk to me but thats fine i would rather not talk to her anyway.she finds anything just to yell @ me im always gettin hit im always grounded.when i try and talk to her about things it seems like she turns it all around as if its my fault regreted what ive done.but whats done is done i cant go back and change it!i was supposed to go to work on tuesday my mom didnt let me go im supposed to go today but i know thats not going to happen!im going to get fired!what am i going to

Answer 1

oh my gosh! My mom acted the SAME way towards me when she found out I lost mine( I was 17) she kept backhanding me, and called me a whore-a slut, a 2-bit tramp, and every other white trash name you can think of...(when she lost her virginity she was YOUNGER than me! Hypocritical, huh? What you need to do is GO to work, no matter what she says..(cuz' she doesn't think your going there anyways...go against her wishes, so she finds a reason to call you at work and sees that your there...) I realized later that her anger came from :
#1--I didn't go to her first and prepare to be sexually active by getting on the pill--she said she wouldn't like it, but that would be better than a grandkid..she wasn't ready to be a grandma yet--mid-life crisis!

#2--She had high expectations of what I was going to make of my life..she didn't want to see me struggle like she did, with being a teenage kid w/ a kid....she was REAL disappointed.

#3--she had thought we were closer than I felt we were, and it hurt her feelings that I didn't feel like I could talk to her..but she never said that, I figured it out when she all of a sudden turned on my friends, was rude to them, talked **** about them, and really got bitter at me all the way around. It went on and on, her kicking my *** about stupid ****...until finally I stood up to her-- I pointed in her face, was dead serious,(after being punched about 4 times) and said "If you try to hit me one more time , I will F---ing DROP you, ***** --You got it-??now BACK the f--off!!!" and she did....she didn't like it , ,, but I stood up to her,.. and she respected it.I'm not saying to do that, that's just my story when I was in your shoes. Keep me [e-mail] Good Luck!

Answer 2

Being a mom of two at the age of 18 i understand why your mom would be protective, but I dont understand why she wouldnt let you go to work. You shouldnt allow her to put her hands on you, you know you can call the law on her for that, especially if she hits you in the face. Maybe you should explain to your mother that you need her to talk to and if she doesnt want to listen or she wants to be critical then you want nothing to do with her when you become 18; emancipate yourself and get the hell out of there. Make sure she knows that nothing she does or says now will change the past and may not have much change on the future. well I hope i was helpful. Good luck honey and make sure you look at her side of the story too if she was your daughter.

Answer 3

First and foremost...part of becoming an adult is admitting your failures. Is your mom right, not necessarily. However, sometimes when we love someone we tend to overreact when we see them doing something that could cause them harm and they can't see it. You need to sit down with her and let her know that you already regret what you did...that shows maturity. Then talk about ways to avoid another situation like this happening. You will find that your mother will have more respect if you do that. I have two children (18 and 21). I don't like what they do sometimes but have learned to be quick to hear and slow to speak giving them time to tell me where they stand on the issue. Makes for a good relationship.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you have a parent that treats you like that. Snooping is not right unless a parent feels you are in some kind of danger. Seems that she may be the danger if she is kicking you out of the house. Do you have a father or a parent of a good friend that you can speak to about your situation? She should not be kicking you out of the house.Or hitting you either. As far as what you did with this guy.. well.... that's another story and we can't turn back time. There are places and people that help those like yourself. Ask a school counselor about a hot-line number to call. Or do a google search for kids in trouble hot-line numbers. They should have one. Good Luck!

Answer 5

go to your boss and explain what happened and tell him or her you will try to do better in the future. and your mom needs help mentally she sounds like she is so angry she loses control that is not okay even when you are 18. I am sure your boss will understand when he hears what you are going through he may even be able to help. i mean you and your mom need family counseling she needs to go and you need to go to talk out issues and get things resolved. She should not be hitting you that is never okay. Do you have any friends that you could talk to about this? If not then maybe a guidance counselor at school? Please get help and i hope all works out for you.

Answer 6

a million. i found out in the present day that I could pay for my first semester of school out of pocket. 2. i'm uncertain if i pass to break up with my boyfriend. 3. I nonetheless have not chanced on ideal finished time employment yet.

Answer 7

hunny...i know exactly how u feel. i wrote letters to guys ASKING why they wanted to screw me and i never got round to giving them to those guys. my mom found them. she took me out of school and i lost all my friends. i wasn't even writing to agree with what they wanted. i wouldn't talk to my mom for the longest time. she grounded me from EVERYTHING! i don't know what to tell you. but i do know it's totally wrong for them to be hitting you and not letting you go to work! no1 deserves to be treated like that no matter what you do. if u can hold off until your 18 and move out. that's what i plan on.

Answer 8

your nearly 18 a young lady,and what you did with that guy is up to you,your mum is just upset
tell her you have to go to work
my children are under 16 and i would not like them to not to tell me things,
itll take time but she will come round

Answer 9

get a box with a lock on it-put everything in there that you dont want anyone else to read-i did it-it worked great

Answer 10

You have some serious issues.