We have not seen each other in a month, but he keeps saying "hang on", "give me time". He is studying for a certification test that only 50% of the test takers pass, and it is part of his job. He screamed at me about calling-only time I called today, and then preceded to ask me what was so damn important. By this point I was sobbing, my heart racing. I had been married to a wife beater before, and this has really scared me for him to treat me this way. Needless to say, I promised him I wouldn't call, only to call him back. He then proceded to say no, don't be that way. I'm still upset this afternoon. Should I give him another chance, or just let him go and say forget it? I love him, but he has never been able to say he loves me. Any thoughts?
2006-10-06 08:19:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you read the book 'Men are from Mars Women are from Venus'? You might find it enlightening. It is writtem by a psychologist and is all about communication between the sexes. I read some of it and learned that their words and our words are the same but have different meanings. Anyway according to this book....when women have problems they talk to each other to express themselves. Men on the other hand 'go into their caves' to think. It sounds like he has done this. Though a month seems extremely long to me. And females are encouraged to stay away/wait on them to come out of the cave. .Do not give them more problems to think about or they will stay there longer. So go do something that you enjoy.
2006-10-06 08:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even slighttly uncomfortable get out now before it gets more serious and harder to get out of. If you have been in a abusive relationship (and he knows that) then he should never treat you this way. If you can consider ending it that probably means that is what needs to be done! There are a lot of other fish in the sea!!!
2006-10-06 08:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Cookiemonster97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like he's under a great deal of stress. Please don't bother him. It seems like this test is really really important to him. Give him time and I'm sure he will come around. I know it will be hard but wait til he calls you. And be sincere with him and supportive. Also I would apologize about bothering him about senseless stuff. Good luck!
2006-10-06 08:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him he is a loser somebody that would upset you that much is not worth an ounce of you or your time. Get out while the getting out is good. Move on and I m sure you will find someone alot better for you than this loser. sounds like he cares more for his job than he does you . run and dont look back he sounds like a real head case.
2006-10-06 08:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give it sometime because he can possibly be stressed but you should talk to him and tell him how you feel about what happened. If he can't be mature about the situation and tell you the reason behind him blowing up at you then you might need to take a walk. I would talk first then, action later.
2006-10-06 08:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and enable him kill himself. seem...that's both him or you. someone is going to DIE. pick to stay, or pick to die. in case you die, it is going to likely be because he killed you. i'm intense. he's already come on the point of killing you much cases. It in elementary words takes a second of anger to kill someone. he will fly right into a rage and kill you. he will sense poor about it later. yet that isn't replace the actual shown actuality that you will be lifeless. you want to no longer in elementary words split with him, yet get a restraining order antagonistic to him and make it everlasting. it could be a good idea to undertake a rottweiler, also. One educated as a vicious attack canines, ideally.
2016-12-04 08:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by embrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go!! If he can't be more conciderate of your feelings--screw him!!! Honey, don't compromise yourself. He certainly can find SOME time for you, can't he? I'm sure he isn't studying 24/7. Do yourself a favor and move on. Even I would feel better if you got rid of that jerk.
2006-10-06 08:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by bunya00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! if he has the gull to treat you like that and making you cry than sure! Never settle for someone who can't feel for you how you feel for them.
2006-10-06 08:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Libby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband always yells at me ... it's come to my conclusion that i'm being mentally and emotionally abused ... this is no life for anyone. and to be yelled at for no apparent reason ... get out now, before it's too late. good luck!
2006-10-06 08:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Daisie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has anger problems and cant say i love you back, yeah, get rid of him. he wont change
2006-10-06 08:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋