Am i nuts??!?!?

Question

Am i crazy for doing this? lol okay so for the past 2 years ive been doing daycare for a little boy. I only asked for 1$ an hour.Yea just 1$ an hour.This little boys parents are in their 40's both are mentally challenged to an extent.he was 2 hes now 4.Ive been concerned the whole time, He doesnt talk, he isnt potty trained. Hes really far behind and i thought i would try to help him along, we have four boys and i know kids learn so much from eachother. I use to bathe him and give him clothes after my boys grew out of them.I gave him snowboots (north dakota) because his parents sent him in tennis shoes all the time and you just cant do that up here. Hes ALWAYS sick.They NEVER clip his nails. I know his parents are good to him. Im not doubting that, they just arent all there. Thats the main problem.Well the other day the boys mom came to get him...and she asked me if i ever heard of giving children something to make them sleep. She told me she was going to try it

so anyways she was going to try it so when she got home after working all day, he would fall asleep so she could get a nap in? what do i do? Turn her in?!?! i have no idea how to handle this

Answer 1

first of all, i m really impressed that u r doing all of this and taking so much pain. i understand that u have the boy's well being at heart, but according to me u should first get both the parents together sit them down and have a heart to heart talk with them. tell them what they r making the little boy go through isnt right.he doesnt deserve what they r doing to him. its not ur responsibility to teach the boy the things that the parents r supposed to do. tell them strictly but polietly that if this behavious continues u will have to take some strict action in the wellfare of the child who was brought upon this earth for some purpose which the parents r spoiling...and then report them if they dont listen to u
oh and if they do ask for a pay rise...heck! u r doing everythin for that kid...

Answer 2

Corn Nuts

Answer 3

You might or might not have to report them. I would be blunt with the mother and tell her that if she EVER did such a thing and someone found it out, she could lose her child FOREVER. I think even a mentally challenged woman could understand that. Certainly she can understand something, if she is thinking of giving him some medicine. I had a similar problem, with my stepson, who immigrated here from Russia about 10 years ago. Some old bit## tried to persuade his mother that you could cure a sore throat by pouring "pure kerosene" down his throat. I told her flat out I would report her if she ever tried it. She isn't that far from being mentally challenged as she has drug and alcohol problems.

What I am wondering regarding your situation is this - do these people have any relatives who are not mentally challenged, who you could talk this over with?

Answer 4

i would contact the authorities and just let them know what has been going on. They just might need some classes, or special instructors to help them along with their son, like an in home nanny. I would definitely talk to them first and let them know some of the things this boy should be doing by this age. If they still don't change then i believe you should then talk to the authorities. Also tell her that giving her young child something to make him go to sleep is unhealthy and dangerous.

Answer 5

Advise her NO DRUGS!!!!! You might suggest she puts the child in a preschool. He might just need interactive skills. If his parents are challenged, it can't be easy for him also. Being around other children his own age, who are trying just as hard as he is to learn about the world, would most likely be very beneficial. My friend is also a challenged woman, she tells me she is just tired, her daughter sometimes scares her. She told me, "She is so much smarter than me" "I feel like I am failing her." But you are doing very well supporting this child and family. You seem to be very concerned, do what you feel in your heart is right for all of them. I'll bet the parents are sad also.

Answer 6

I think that you have to decide whether this child is in any danger due to his parents. If he is, then by all means call the CPS. It may be that they need some parenting classes and that they can help him. It sounds as though they do not know what is the best thing for their child.

Answer 7

If you can't get through to her then you have to do something. He could have an allergic reaction to the medication, could YOU live with that? It sounds like a visit from social services could do this family some good.

Answer 8

I know you said this boys parents are good too him, BUT..... They are both semi mentally disabled. You are taking better care of this boy better than his parents are. Call social services with your complaint. You can stay anonymous. They child may also have some disabilities.

Answer 9

You need to call cps. this child is in a dangerous enviroment. would you want your kids living in that kind of situation?

That poor child!!!

You need to do something right away. that child might be given too much sleeping medicine and never wake up. this child could die. you wouldn't want that on your concience. DO SOMETHING NOW!!!1 please, for the child

Answer 10

I think you should help this kid and inform the authorities about the way the parents are treating this boy...if you care for him maybe you could start teaching him stuff and potty train him and all that...he'll be grateful of all this in the future.