It bugs me that when she was in her mid teens she was licking & getting licked by girls. I don't hate homosexuals or bi's thats like o them hating me for being straight. We've talked about children & it's weird for me that th possible mother of my children knows what another woman tastes like. We are so in love, I love her & I don't worry about her past but it comes up every now & then & it's just strange She tells me that I'm not open minded & that love shouldnt worry about gender I love my male friends. These guys are my pals who've been there for me & they mean a lot to me, but I'm not gonna have sex with em! When I was younger,I didnt know her then but I'd be so turned off by her we wouldnt b together. But now I'm older & know what love is & I love her. she doesnt lick girls now. Lots o guys want bi girls so they can be with 2 girls at th same time. that is not love 2 me Thats just getting off. I'm not looking to get attacked by anybody who thinks I'm crazy, I just want some advise
2006-10-06 07:44:32 · 23 answers · asked by Ted M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's understandable what you're saying. Just try to remember all the good things about her that DO make you love her and DO make you want children with her. We all have our wild days as teenagers and young adults- it's a matter of realizing that she's not that way anymore and that YOU are her one and only. I'm sure if you really think about it there are things you have done in your past that you wouldn't necessarily want your kids to know about. If this is too serious an issue, try counseling to work through it. Just remember you two are in love for a reason, though.
2006-10-06 07:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't you realize you've answered your own question? It's because you really don't "believe" in this. I can only imagine what it would be like to be in love with someone under those circumstances.You say she's not "doing that" now, but she's "still" bisexual. I guess I don't understand . If you plan on getting married to her and are positive that part of her life is over, great. But if this is something that will haunt you at all times, I guarantee this will eat at you untill it changes who "you" are, and I don't mean in a "nice" way! That can happen with "anything" a person is tollerating which goes against their nature or personal beliefs. I don't know what else to say here, except look inside yourself and ask "you", why, and can you handle what it does to "you." Because you are in control of what happens next. Love is a hard thing to walk away from. But sometimes you have to walk away "because" you love that person. Hey, whatever you decide, good luck & god bless
2006-10-06 08:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...she licked girls, she knows what girls taste like...I just find that kind of hilarious.
I've dated "bisexuals" before. Look, it's like this. If you're committed to somebody and monogamous, you aren't going to go outside the relationship regardless of your stated orientation. If that's what's bothering you. But consider this: ALL of us are bisexual to some degree, even if it's not something we're normally conscious of. Your girlfriend has just been more cosncious of it than most, and has acted on it. If it's just the idea of her with another woman that gets to you, you just have to get over it. Everybody has a past. You don't seem particularly closed-minded to me, and you said you're not looking for some weird 3way or whatever (this is supposed to be a big guy fantasy but let's be real - most guys would NOT know what to do with 2 girls...lol). So just relax and enjoy being with the girl you love.
2006-10-06 07:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a bit insecure. The fact is none of us can go back and change the things we've done. If you really love this woman you need to face forward and quit scrutinizing her past. Be thankful for her open honesty.
I'm pretty sure you have some skeletons in your closet as well - we all do. Let it go, especially if she was with girls when she was in her youthful experimentation phase.
Judge not, lest ye be judged!
2006-10-06 07:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy who has had bisexual girlfriends i can see where you're coming from but some of the bi girls i was with and i had agreement of commitment that meant if she was seeing me exclusively that meant exclusively no other girls for her...or me. Other times we both agreed that she could sleep with other girls but only if i joined in and other times we were just having sex.
Let the past be in the past. It's kind of like a race what's behind you isn't important. My wife knows i have been with bisexual women in the past and she's not concerned with that because she's the one who ended up with me. The mother of my kids was in a bisexual relationship before she met me and she's a great mom to the kids.
As long as she is loyal it shouldn't matter. Some girls and guys do have hangups about past sexual relationships. I've had girls break up with me when they find out i've had sex with black girls.
It's the past...let it go.
2006-10-06 08:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by sprydle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm bothered by the same thing. basically i thought it was because that puts every person that walks the earth a target for her. had a bi girl and lost out to a girl and no one likes losing to a girl that's all i can really say. usually i was worried that when she was having a girl night she could be getting off on one of her "friends" which is silly i think and i don't really know why i think that way but that was the theory i came up with. maybe its the same for you?
2006-10-06 07:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it bothers you because you don't want to lose her, especially to another woman. My advice would be that she obviously spent time 'experimenting', but ended up with you, which shows she is no longer homosexual. Forget the past, live in the present and look to the future, you love each other a lot so talk through it, express your feelings and she will probably understand. dont give up.
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2006-10-06 07:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by porta_custos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it like this...do you mind that she was with other guys before you? If so, then you have intimacy and trust issues. Otherwise, you just need to realise that it was her lifestyle, her choice, and most importantly her PAST. As long as she is committed to you and not trying to have her cake and lick it too...what does it matter? Get over it and trust her, or move on.
2006-10-06 07:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the past go if not it's going to drive you crazy. Either you are going to accept the fact that you have a good woman and someone who loves you or let the relationship go because you can't get over who she USED to be.Why do you keep bringing it up she going to get tired of you throwing that in her face is it worth losing her?
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2016-10-02 00:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋