My sister can be really mean and alot of the time b****y and it can upset me some of the time. I am quite an emotional person and try not to show I am upset infront of her but it is hard. Any tips?
2006-10-06 07:38:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sister is really mean. I am embarassed by the fact that she can upset me when she is 2 years my junior.
2006-10-06 07:44:08 · update #1
She can annoy me by just doing those things that bug you, and just be's generally b****y and horrible. she sometimes lashes out (physically) but not very often.
2006-10-06 07:48:17 · update #2
try your best not to show your emotions in front of her, thats why she keeps being nasty because she know she can upset.
just try and bite your tonge and ignore her.. that will drive her mad, ignoring people works every time. good luck
2006-10-06 07:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Raine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old the two of you are... but sisters will be sisters... me and my sister are still like we were when we were kids and she's in her 30s and I'm in my late 20's. When we were kids we were best friends but let me tell you we fought... we would knock each other out until we were both black and blue, we use to argue all the time and there was never a moment of peace between us.... the older we got we didn't change much.. we don't knock each other out anymore but she'll punch me in the arm or something like that for no good reason..... We argue constantly and we have fights.. No one is ever good enough for me she makes every guy that she ever meets feel like crap until we breakup - but we are still best friends and probably always will be. She's the person I go to when anything is wrong.... She's mean and she's rude to everyone but that's just the way she is.. I've learned to live it and I do warn any guy that I take to meet her how she is and that they shouldn't take it personally.... Sisters will always drive each other nuts.. even though I think my sister is the crazy one and completely mean and out of her mind.. and I'm the sane rational one she probably somewhere in her warped mind think the opposite with me.
2006-10-06 15:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by katjha2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sibling rivalry you may have heard this a million times but best advice i can give you is each individual has a different personality you may find she's more aggressive or stronger willed than you. While your more sensitive and open. Each person wants what the other has. Best advice is be who you are ignore criticism and opinion you are who you are as is your sister
2006-10-13 16:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mick D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i have a sister, 2 years my senior, that can really annoy and embarress me, with a look, and yeah for years she bitched about my weight, having a baby to young, drinking etc, then i realised something, she didn't have close friends like i had, and it was just a jelous ploy, to make me feel s**t about myself, once i realised this, i turned the tables, and she backed off, not saying that this would work for u, my sister had so many chances with me, and she blew everyone, i spoke to her for the first time, 6 weeks ago, in 2 years....
Your older and wiser, and one day she'll look up to you for support because someone will put her down, and make her feel small about her-self!
try not to let it get to you, keep ur head up and ur spirits high. x x
2006-10-12 16:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister who is also younger than me used to hate each other with a passion, we really didnt get on, we couldnt escape each other as we share a room. we get along better now though, we grew out of it. Just spend time with her and be nice, dont rise to what she says. If she bugs you just walk away, if she dont get a reaction they soon go away. I hope this helps x
2006-10-06 15:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by pinkpetal86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had no less than 3 sisters, i used to bug my dad to swap (at least my eldest sister) for a brother, any boy!
my eldest sister was such a bully, she was quite abusive actually. i on the other hand was sharp-tongued. She's only a year older but she's had a hard time because she often said my parents "loved me more" because i topped my class as far as grades were concerned. she went around telling people that when we were teenagers so she could excuse her rebellious nature (sleeping out and not letting my parents know where she is) running up their clothing card bills, starting sexual relationships in her teens, not helping with baby sitting (like i did) she was very irresponsible and from an early age did things to shock, things which make chuckie seem tame.
she used to break all my toys (after she'd broken hers) and once she asked me and my cousin to run liquid mercury over our tongues (we were not yet in high school) and she said she'll tell us what happens afterwards. she then started laughing in a sick way saying it could make us go mad. my cousin nearly swallowed it but she at least did the humane thing and told us to make sure we dont swallow it. (!) i wasnt perfect, and because i was not naturally aggressive, i lashed out verbally, and because she wasnt witty, she lashed out physically. it was awful (that part of my childhood). she fell pregnant at 16 or 17 and then (because its under age to get married in south africa where i'm from) she threatened suicide when my parents wouldnt sign her marriage consent forms. nice person eh? when i got depressed 2 years later because of her continued "niceness" she smacked me about one day and said "well go see your psychologist now" for me that was the final straw. i felt too defeated to say or do anything, i just felt a sort of deep twist of internal pain and stood there looking at her dumbfounded. last year, about 15 years after all this, she had 2 nervous breakdowns and is now on antidepressants coming out of her ears. i've been cured of my depression many many years ago. i hope your parents take better care of your problem, before it gets out of hand like this, but what i helped myself to cope was to not speak to her for about 5 years of our childhood and maybe 2 years as young adults. it is only now that we can forgive and forget...but as you can see, i've my sharp memory...
2006-10-06 15:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do know by getting upset your giving her what she wants?
Look I am an Emotional person to well shorta anyway you NEED to learn to fight back she says somethng rude to you say something back but make it worse if she hits you nock her on her azz she'll be shocked and she'll stop for a while belive me I should know I have 2 brothers and 4 sisters! *sheaks head*
2006-10-06 14:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do your sister do to upset you? You did not said so how can we help you we need more details. will what ever she do do not get upset just do not be around her when she act like that
2006-10-06 14:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER ABOUT HERSELF
and stand up for yourself or she's gonna walk ALL OVER YOU..............FOREVER!!!!
and try to say to yourself mentally "i must not cry..i must not cry". once you do that a couple of times you will build up a defence to her horribleness
i did ,when older sister was mean to me but she not any more because i showed i ain't a cry baby no more......i'm a big girl now.lol
but for real try to say to yourself mentally "i must not cry..i must not cry".
and you'll feel a lot better lots of love girl
2006-10-14 13:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by L£X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called 'growing up' I am the youngest so my piers used to bug the hell outta me...gets better as you get older...I know that's no consolation at the moment..failing that..beat her at her own game......annoy the hell outta her! As a drastic measure...bury her up to her neck so she has to listen to what you have to say...can guarantee she will listen it she wants out !...Sisterly love...bless NOT!
2006-10-14 01:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Cockneyrebel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋