my ex husband says that he does not want his daughter to be brought up in a home with my boyfriend, he has a criminal record that has 2 dwi, communicating threats, and assault on a gov't official should i be wooried about being with this man, or do you think that i have anything to worry about as far as my ex getting full custody
2006-10-06 07:32:09 · 17 answers · asked by brandi w 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
if your ex has no criminal record, he may provide the better household for your daughter.
Don't be selfish. Think of what's best for her, not for you.
2006-10-06 07:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are many aspects to custody disputes that have to be considered. and if you can't, or won't make decisions based on what is in the best interest of your kids, the court certainly will give it a shot. I lost my two kids for more than a year and a half simply because I trusted someone who I thought was a friend to look after my house while I was working 12 hours a day and spending time with my kids and my boyfriend. A nice enough guy on the surface... Worked for a hotel in some management position. 95% of the time I saw him, which was every other day at best, he was wearing a suit and tie. Then came the Day that I got a call at work from someone who had driven past my house and saw it was swarming with cops that were boarding up my house and turning my kids over to child protective services. Turned out my "friend" was using my garage while I was at work to make meth. Though I was never charged with any crime... Heck, I was never even questioned by the cops in connection with the drugs, my kids were put into foster care and it took almost two years to get them back. One of the things they used to keep my kids was the fact that I should have been aware of what was going on in my house, but since I wasn't... another thing that the state used as leverage against me was the fact that my little girl was molested by my biological father who I had only met a couple of years prior. Again, I had absolutely no idea that he had already done time for child molesting... TWICE... as I said... I'd just met him two years ago. And they didn't put any marks on him that would tell you what he had done. but it was my fault for not knowing... not the states fault for letting him out of prison... TWICE!
Think long and hard about everyone you let around your kids. A violent past is bad enough, but you mix it with some alcohol and things can get REALLY ugly REALLY fast. My opinion is that your ex has every right and reason to be concerned about your current beau. Probably, you should too. I hope at least the new boyfriend is getting, or has gotten some help with his issues.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-06 08:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will probably lose a custody battle if that man is living with you and your ex-husband has a clean record. You'll still get visitation rights, I'm sure, but not custody.
2006-10-06 07:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You selfish *****. How dare you be so stupid. Of course you ex is going to get full custody. He doesn't have a psycho around him. Think about what's best for your daughter. Choose, your daughter, or the stupid boyfriend that won't mean **** in about a month.
2006-10-06 07:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to give some serious thought to leaving that guy. Sounds kind of violent. Why would you want a man like that around your child anyway ? If you can't put your daughter FIRST, which is your job, then let her father have her. Sorry, but your new BF sounds like a loser.
2006-10-06 07:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by worldhq101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is under Hair?
The answer for your question I would do excatly what your x is tryinng to do. I would not want my child around any one that's been convicted of treats and assault. and illegal substance he's not stable, and has a bad temper, and if my child should ever piss him off, I believe he harm her. I'll file custody too.
2006-10-06 08:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts rule by what is in the best interest of the child. If the court deems you or the environment your child is in as unfit, he could be successful in suing for sole custody.
2006-10-06 07:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by mld m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm you should be concerned about your own safety since this guy obviously has a temper and can be violent. Drop the guy and spend some time getting to know why you are attracted to this type of person.
2006-10-06 07:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is this question in the "hair" section?
what's your story? we don't know his story either
why do you have a boyfriend when you are not yet divorced? what sort of example are you setting in the situation?
too many unanswered questions here - you need to think of your daughter not yourself and from your description, it doesn't bode well for her either way.
2006-10-06 07:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried about the kind of household that your daughter is growing up in.
And not so much about your custody, and / or your "rights".
2006-10-06 07:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by MK6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be a chance, there is such a fine line on custody battles. I would seek legal advice.
2006-10-06 07:35:04 · answer #11 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋