My son screams when he is mad, when he is happy, when he is out playing, basically doing anything. I can't get him to stop. We have tried timeouts, we have tried spanking him, we have tried taking things away, we tried grabbing his mouth, we tried making him go to bed. My sister-in-law work for social servies she suggested most of these things and none of them worked. So now what do I do I feel like I am Losing the battle with him. My first was so easy but do is so hard. He is always going, He breaks everything, his is big and stong for his age and he has a good heart. I just want some serious answer and tips of what I can try. Please no answers about how I am a bad mom I already feel bad enough.
2006-10-06 07:31:33 · 4 answers · asked by missy mae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to remember that YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER!!
That said, I'm not sure what your rescources are where you live but, perhaps you could look into some kind of local mother's group or even perhaps some kind of counselling for your child?
I'm not an expert by any means, I'm not even a parent, but I have been a child... a child that had MANY problems growing up. So I have a little experience in what NOT to do at least! For example...
DO NOT ever tell your son that it's his fault or that he's a bad kid/bad son. This will only serve to make the problem worse.
DO NOT treat your son like he's damaged goods or act as though he needs special attention. If you DO decide to proceed with therapy, make sure he knows it's not because he's a horrible kid, it's just because you want the best for him, and say it like you MEAN it. But don't make him feel too much like he's different, or "broken" in some way. Try to make him feel as much like all other kids as you can.
DO NOT treat him differently from your other child/ren. This will only make it obvious to him that he's different and, even if you tend to 'favour' your son over any other children you might have, he will stil see this as a bad thing, either immediately or in the future.
Like I said, I'm not any kind of child expert, but I know what I went through and I'[m just passing on some advice I wish someone had've given MY parents.
I wish you the best of luck and please, PLEASE, remember, you are NOT a bad mother. No matter what anyone else might say, or make you feel. If you feel bad about yourself, adn feel as though you are a terrible mother, your children will pick up on this and that can only make eveything worse.
2006-10-06 07:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by tazzyspamazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is screaming for attention, and it is working for him. If it is at all possible for you to have him an area where his screams will not annoy others then for about 3 days ignore him when he screams, do not react, after a while he will see that it is not working for him , if he breaks things start him off in a room with a bed only tell him when he behaves he will be given a toy, but he will loose it if he misbehaves and do take it away. This child needs to know who is in charge, and what behaviour is acceptable, and you are going to have to teach him as well as your self. You are not a bad mother, you just need to take charge of the situation, You are in for a few bad days but he will get the message, and you have the power to enforce it
2006-10-06 15:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very much that you are a bad parent. It sounds like you are a VERY good one. You mention another child doing very well. If your little one has this problem of screaming, I would take him to his pediatrician, if you haven't already. It sounds like he may have a hearing problem. Seriously. He may do that, just to get a "feeling" of sound. Our niece is 90% deaf, and she squeals loudly almost all the time. Also, your son may have other problems. You say "he is always going. He breaks everything. He is big and strong for his age." I would take him soon. The problem could be solved as simply as a daily medication. And with that, the sooner the better. You don't mention how old he is. So, alot of this might just be a stage. A professional would be my recommendation. My prayers are with you and your son.
2006-10-06 14:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Just Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids are like that your not a bad mom taking care of kids is hard what I would do is let him scream until HE gets tired of it if he screams when his mad ignore him he'll stop if he screams when he wants something ingore him until he stops ( well depeneding on how old he is of cores if he is like idk 3 or older I would if any younger don't ) the more you show it bothers you the more he is going to do it if he thinks it doesn't bother you he'll stop little kids can sence when there parents are stressed sad mad ect so by doing that you are letting him win make him think it doesn't bother you he'll stop
2006-10-06 14:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋