because I'm in a relationship, a dysfunctional one, already. I'm so scared of breaking up. Does anyone else feel this way and what to you do? I'm not married, been with this guy for six years and know it's not going anywhere. Sheer frustration...
2006-10-06 07:22:43 · 22 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have actually been in your situation and i want to say that im really sorry your going through this. When i broke up with my ex after he hit me they said why didnt i leave him sooner? people who havent been that situation just cant understand. Look i broke up with my ex when i was 19 been with him nearly 2 years and now look at me now im with a guy who loves me i feel great about myself, your best bet to get out of there is to plan it a week in advance and go when he has gone to work and ask a friend or family member if you can go there. just get as far away from him as poss, because this relationship isnt fair on either of you and a relationship should be fun not hard work, so i hope i have helped and you can chat to me on email and we will be here for you
Angie n Loz x
2006-10-06 07:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Angie Cooper 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a dysfunctional or abusive relationship, you MUST get out of it for your own happiness and peace of mind.
I know breaking up is scary - a fear of the unknown and practicalities especially if you live together and/or have children.
You must ask yourself WHY you cannot break up. You know it is not right for you. If you are not living together, this should make it MUCH easier for you.
Go on, there is a whole world out there and lots of lovely people out there to make friends with and form relationships with.
Find someone to speak to - a friend/colleague/family member or even the police if you are being abused.
Good Luck.
2006-10-06 07:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sally J 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You only can't be with him because you really don't want to... if you really did love this other person and you know for a fact that you current relationship is on a one way road to no where... dump the zero and get with the dude who will make you happy... but remember... THE GRASS ALWAYS LOOKS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE...
2006-10-06 07:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by MsBusyBody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have one life chick. Live it wisely. If you truly feel it's not going anywhere, get out of it. You will never know about the other guy if you don't try. Happiness is a lovely thing.
2006-10-06 07:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by daria 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was once in love with someone who was also in a dysfunctional, abusive, going nowhere relationship... after getting to know her and having developed feelings for each other, she ended up leaving her partner for me, saying she was in love with me and after 3 months she went back to her partner of 7 years......my advice is if you are truly not happy in this dysfunctional relationship be brave and leave...if there is a realistic chance of things working out with this person you are in love with its a lot less messier if it happens when you have had space on your own to figure out what it is you really want....good luck!
2006-10-06 08:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by trixiecat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with your current boyfriend and go for it with the person you really want. I've been in the opposite situation to you, where I wanted to be with someone who was in a relationship - and I would have done anything to be with him! So if you're sure they feel the same and it's what you really want then go for it.
2006-10-06 08:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by woo hoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to stop you leaving your current relationship? Being with someone you are no longer in love with is no joke. You are not doing yourself or him any favours. If you stay with him any longer you will only start to resent him. Get out while you can - life is far too short.
2006-10-06 07:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then its the right time and after six years and not going anywhere its the right time to act and do the right thing... be with the one u want to be
2006-10-06 14:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by CowGilr Kassie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are frustrated now, with the time it will be even worse. Try to forget him. You're young and can find someone to be with, as much as you like.
2006-10-06 07:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Elisa D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a life threatening reason for not breaking up I say tell him to get out and move on with the one you really want to be with.
2006-10-06 07:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by camryn010703 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋