I was discussing this issue with a friend, how much time do you and your spouse or partner get without having your kids around. The alone time she was referring to was time doing things like going out to dinner or drinks or a movie. Neither one of us has a set amount of time with our spouses away from our kids, and we don't feel it hurts our marriages. How much "alone time" do you get and do you think it is vital to a healthy marriage? Thanks!
2006-10-06 07:20:56 · 19 answers · asked by S. O. 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We don't have time away from kids. Luckily we are moving to a new home next week and we'll get to enjoy a whole day of unpacking boxes together! We're AF and our base has a program that if they make you move (they're demolishing our home) you can get one free day of care. That's a romantic day for us. LOL! I don't think it's important. Our kids go to bed at 8:30 so that's our time along--some nights we enjoy each others company and others we prefer to do our own things. I think a marriage can be kept healthy if you have the will to keep it that way. ("Where there's will there's a way.") If you make a constant effort to care and respect one another. I think it's great to have alone time but--it's not vital. Great question!
2006-10-06 07:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough!
Have 9 year old boy and 2 1/2 year old girl. Boy is hyperactive and my little girl is a firecracker. Add to that my husband (A Bi-Polar) and I both work full time and we get 2-3 hours together in the evening before the kids are put to bed. IF the kids go to sleep then we have maybe an hour before we need to go to sleep and get up to start the next day. He works most Saturdays and Sunday's the family (minus hubby) go to church. There are never enough hour in the day!
2006-10-06 14:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we will get alone time when the kids go to college LOL.... No seriously my husband and I are very happy and we go out about 3 times a year on a "date" without the kids. We spend weekend evenings together when the kids are asleep and have alone time at home.
2006-10-06 14:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by iamdreama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as much as I'd like.
BUT we make a point of having a "date night" once a month. We get a sitter and go OUT somewhere. You've got to work at it just like everything else and make it priority. It is very easy to let your work/home, children, and other life stuff take over. You think your spouse or partner will always be there but just like anything else that gets neglected, it won't be a good relationship if you don't give it attention.
2006-10-06 14:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by drleipold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have 3 kids and Im pregnant with our 4th. Honestly we rarely get alone time. I ask a babysitter to babysit for us maybe once a month(if that much) Last time I went out with my husband alone was Sept 2nd for our 11th year anniversary. We have a happy marriage and everything is fine with us. Just have to make the best of it with kids around.
2006-10-06 14:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it is vital. But, we do not go out. we just make sure and have a little alone time everyday. To focus on us. not the t.v., not the news. Just the things we forget to ask like, hey how was your day? Or how have you been lately? Just time to make sure we each know that each other is caring and interested in the relationship. Sometimes we just sit together. Oh, and we have 3 children 5,3,2. So going out is difficult.
2006-10-06 14:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband works away for 10 days and home for 4. On his 4 days off, we take one night out, and go on a date. Ususally 5 hours...go to a pub, have app's, go to the next pub, have dinner....go to another pub ( i dont drink but there are o kids there!!) before we go home, and we are usually home by 10, even though we try to stay out till 11pm! But my husband loves just hanging out witht he boys too. I think it is great for the marriage....so 10 hours a month, alone time!!! and we cherish every minute of it!
2006-10-06 14:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by bangbanks72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually about 30mts. a night after kids are asleep and 3 times a year my mother babysits(each of our birthdays, and our anniversary) Usually about 2-3 hours during those occasions. We are doing great. Don't argue to much and love each other more than the day we met.
2006-10-06 14:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I try to spend at least 1/2-1hour at night after the kids go to bed to just watch t.v., cuddle, or talk, we go out about 1 time a month to the movies or dinner
2006-10-06 14:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not get any alone time wih my husband besides the weekend naps that my daughter takes for an hour! LOL. But I do think it's healthy to have time for yourselves. It was our anniversay last week and we hired a babysitter to care for our daughter, so that was the first time since she was born that we've had alone time! She's 18 months~
2006-10-06 14:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋