How do i get over my ex, and find someone new?

Question

We were together for five years, we recently broke it off but it still feels like we're dating, we're still doing it..........help me.

Answer 1

STOP DOING "IT". Stop seeing and talking to him. Get busy with new friends, make new friends, get a new hobby, take a class, volunteer for a good cause.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel! I was with my ex for 5 1/2 years and we were engaged. It's the hardest thing ever but trust me, you'll make it through it. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, don't sit at home alone. I had a lot of support from friends which helped me a lot. Start dating when you feel ready. I started dating about 5-6 months after it happened. Take your time getting into a new relationship.

Answer 3

Its hard because I still can't get over my ex we hook up every three or four years for about six months and then I get feelings for him and he leaves for another three of four years and we do the same thing over and I move on and date other people in that time frame but when its our time its our time and I put up with it because I love him but I hope that one day I can finally let that go.

Answer 4

well
if there s no hope of restoring the relationship and gettingback together

u need to stop seeing him
its the only

i was in ur shoes and i did the same thing
i was wishing for us to get back together but she didnt want too
she was using me for the pipe and no commitment
so i preventing myself from meeting new women while she was out meeting other men
so i cut all ties with her and decided to not deal with her
and now i feel great
like the ball and chain broke loose

Answer 5

You can only get over him if you stop having sex with him... because that is a big part of the emotions that you feel... find a guy to hang out with as friend so your time will be occupied....

Answer 6

STOP DOING IT !! THE MORE YOU DO IT MORE FEELINGS POP OUT!! Why are u doing it with a guy WHO DUMPED YOU? Are u that desperate? JUST STOP IT !! .. You don't need him.. get help from friends they are the most people that can help u.. and keep ur self busy AT ALL TIMES!! :) Good LUCK! Bt nvr forget.. STOP DOING IT WITH HIM TO STOP UR FEELINGS!!

Answer 7

YOU WILL NEVER EVER GET OVER IT IF YOU'RE STILL "DOIN IT"....TRUST ME. I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION. AND YOU GUYS STILL DOING IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE WANTS YOU BACK EITHER, HE'S JUST HORNY. ALL HE WANTS IS SEX. HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS OR WHATS HURTING YOU. ONCE YOU REALIZE THAT THEN YOU CAN START TO MOVE ON. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

Mcdonalds is always trying to keep the black man down

Answer 9

First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.


The biggest “cure all” every time you miss them, or are thinking about them with sadness, is to VIVIDLY remember the times they treated you like DIRT, and ask yourself: “Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?” When the answer is NO – then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.


Every time thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above, AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS. Do that every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.


Really TRUST that everything DOES work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the growth you’ve made, and how the situation worked out for your highest and best after all, this will help you realize that this situation is no different.


View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life!


Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! THIS is the most powerful thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a PAST situation, when you can really be making significant and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives of others!


Every time you start to think about them, and begin to play your drama of the past in your mind, consciously CHOOSE to focus on the NOW, and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and expressing your highest and best self. Remember that you don’t NEED them at all. YOU are the gift. They may be a gift as well, however, if they are out of your life, your life MUST carry on in the most vibrant, positive and life-renewing manner possible. This is ALL within your conscious choice and control.


Really thank them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference they DID make in your life. Realize that THAT was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.


Someone that I personally know that is going through the throws of emotional agony in trying to let go of a relationship that just ended said: "We need to know WHY We SHOULD Let THEM GO TO BEGIN WITH!”

The Answer is so that YOU can be FREE FROM PAIN, and misery! So that you can attract someone into your life that will treat you incredibly well, and because you DESERVE to be happy in a real relationship!

Why should you hold out for crumbs from someone similar to a dog waiting on the doormat for a couple of crumbs of attention? Don’t you really deserve to have a fantastic relationship? YES! You do! Everyone does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner peace, and grow with enough self-love to attract your true counterpart.

You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.

Don’t you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: “Hey, get me out of this, because IT HURTS!” And the only way to remove yourself from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a COMPLETE break.

It’s like keeping your hand halfway in boiling water! If you take your hand out completely, and heal it, then you will be free from pain.

If you choose to keep dipping your fingers into boiling water, this is the same as continuing to return to a painful relationship. One is physical pain, and the other is emotional.

There is no judgment at all. So please do NOT judge yourself for allowing yourself to be treated far less than you deserve. The only thing that matters is what you do from THIS moment forward. Love yourself – a LOT!


The only one you will EVER need is YOU. The only one that will NEVER leave you is YOU. So place ALL of your energy on being and expressing all you came into this life for. It is NOT about them – it is all about you and your growth. That is the most important thing. Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved more as a result of all you have been through. As you come to fully awaken to all of your grand possibilities, you really won’t have the time, or the care to focus your attention on a past situation. It is like focusing on anything else that is in the past. NOW is your time to re-claim yourself, and shine as the beacon that you are. You will feel so much better once you take all of the above steps – as long as you really apply them.

Answer 10

come my way