Prior to my getting engaged, she made comments about having to go to "another wedding"...like it was the worst thing ever. I wouldn't say that we are good friends but we are friendly and have spent time together outside of work. I've met her husband as well. I have a lot of friends that I work with, some are in the wedding and others are on the invite list. So, should I invite her? What's the right thing to do?
2006-10-06 07:02:40 · 28 answers · asked by SBean_29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Send her an invite then explain you know how busy she is and won't be offended if she can't make it
2006-10-06 07:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by phoneypersona 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't regret for a second inviting my boss to my wedding. But our relationship is unusual. I love him like a father. I even sat him and his wife next to my Mother.
But bosses come and go. You should expect that people you invite to your wedding won't even be in your life in 1 year. Make sure you invite your tried and true friends, and not just people you think you "should" invite.
Most people do not make careers at a single company. And you should keep in mind that you could end up hating your boss in a year. Trust your heart. If she's in your heart and you're in hers, than she will be a good addition to the wedding.
The day lasts maybe 4-6 hours, but the photos and videos last forever. Five years from now how will you feel about her being invited?
(Now throw all this aside if she is a spiteful, venegeful person. In that case, not worth the trauma, just invite her late.)
2006-10-06 14:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by egmontgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would do it to be polite. I am inviting my boss because I would like her to be there because she is a part of my life. It sounds like you and your boss have a good relationship and so if there is some room on the guest list, I would include her. You may have nothing to gain from inviting her, but you might hurt her feelings if you don't which might have disadvantages later on down the road.
My fiance didn't want his boss to really come but felt obligated because people at work were talking about the wedding. It sounds like you have a lot of co-workers attending and they may talk about the wedding after it is over and that might put your boss in an awkward place because she wasn't invited. Congratulations on your wedding!
2006-10-06 14:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Molly1015 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boss may have said it like she did simply because of who the wedding was for at the time she said it. I would invite the boss if you two are that close. I would put the ball in her court, send the invitation and if she doesn't come, I wouldn't take it personally. Look at it this way, you are the better person for stepping up to the plate and inviting. Plus do you want her there? If so INVITE!!! If she doesn't come, her loss!
2006-10-06 15:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by tigrpawwz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are under no obligation to invite your boss, but if you are inviting others from work and have socialized with her outside the office environment, it would be common courtesy. Don't dwell on her comment, she really isn't worth the effort. But it won't cost you anything other than the expense of one invitation and a postage stamp to show you have class in extending the invitation. If she doesn't show up . . . . what are you out? Absolutely nothing. If she does, perhaps you'll reap the benefits of a nice gift. Best wishes to you on your upcoming wedding!
2006-10-06 14:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by cincymom513 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on your relationship with them.. with me, I'm pretty good friends with my boss, so I will invite him to the wedding... the owner of the company, my boss's boss, I will no invite, I do not know this guy that well, or care too.... if I invited him, it would be to just suck up to him, which I wouldn't do in the first place, and the thing is, most bosses would know you are just trying to suck up to them, which might be a bad thing..... so just ask yourself, do you want them there for non-work related purposes, if so, then invite them, if not, don't.....
2006-10-06 15:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might as well invite her. Just tell her if she can't make it you will understand, and then at least she won't feel left out. I mean she is your boss and you want to do the right thing. It is always a good idea to so a bit of respect, you know.
2006-10-06 14:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is absolutely no reason you must invite the boss to your wedding. You can always ask if she'd like an invitation, but let her know she's under no obligation to say yes.
2006-10-06 14:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I invited my boss and his wife. He would never say anything like that and actually asked at one point if he was going to be invited. We're a small office so I'm glad he came. He and his wife are wonderful people, and probably got us the most expensive gift of all.
2006-10-06 15:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite her, it's up to her to attend the wedding or come out with some excuse, who knows maybe this person who married on that wedding wasn't much of her like (a client or something like that)
2006-10-06 14:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lil' Gay Monster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since other co-workers are invited to your wedding the courteous thing to do would be to invite her. Her comment was uncalled for yes, but you have to think about the after effects if she is not invited.
2006-10-06 14:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋