How do you forget about an ex?

Question

Well one day out of the blue he just said he didn't know anymore. I know it was not b/c of another girl, but now i wonder what happened and how did I not see it coming?

Answer 1

First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.


The biggest “cure all” every time you miss them, or are thinking about them with sadness, is to VIVIDLY remember the times they treated you like DIRT, and ask yourself: “Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?” When the answer is NO – then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.


Every time thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above, AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS. Do that every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.


Really TRUST that everything DOES work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the growth you’ve made, and how the situation worked out for your highest and best after all, this will help you realize that this situation is no different.


View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life!


Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! THIS is the most powerful thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a PAST situation, when you can really be making significant and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives of others!


Every time you start to think about them, and begin to play your drama of the past in your mind, consciously CHOOSE to focus on the NOW, and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and expressing your highest and best self. Remember that you don’t NEED them at all. YOU are the gift. They may be a gift as well, however, if they are out of your life, your life MUST carry on in the most vibrant, positive and life-renewing manner possible. This is ALL within your conscious choice and control.


Really thank them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference they DID make in your life. Realize that THAT was their purpose for entering your life. So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.


Someone that I personally know that is going through the throws of emotional agony in trying to let go of a relationship that just ended said: "We need to know WHY We SHOULD Let THEM GO TO BEGIN WITH!”

The Answer is so that YOU can be FREE FROM PAIN, and misery! So that you can attract someone into your life that will treat you incredibly well, and because you DESERVE to be happy in a real relationship!

Why should you hold out for crumbs from someone similar to a dog waiting on the doormat for a couple of crumbs of attention? Don’t you really deserve to have a fantastic relationship? YES! You do! Everyone does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner peace, and grow with enough self-love to attract your true counterpart.

You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.

Don’t you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: “Hey, get me out of this, because IT HURTS!” And the only way to remove yourself from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a COMPLETE break.

It’s like keeping your hand halfway in boiling water! If you take your hand out completely, and heal it, then you will be free from pain.

If you choose to keep dipping your fingers into boiling water, this is the same as continuing to return to a painful relationship. One is physical pain, and the other is emotional.

There is no judgment at all. So please do NOT judge yourself for allowing yourself to be treated far less than you deserve. The only thing that matters is what you do from THIS moment forward. Love yourself – a LOT!


The only one you will EVER need is YOU. The only one that will NEVER leave you is YOU. So place ALL of your energy on being and expressing all you came into this life for. It is NOT about them – it is all about you and your growth. That is the most important thing. Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved more as a result of all you have been through. As you come to fully awaken to all of your grand possibilities, you really won’t have the time, or the care to focus your attention on a past situation. It is like focusing on anything else that is in the past. NOW is your time to re-claim yourself, and shine as the beacon that you are. You will feel so much better once you take all of the above steps – as long as you really apply them.

Hope dis can help u..........

Answer 2

I don't know how long you two were together, but it is a hard event to get passed. I know from experience you can't help how you feel and I'm sure you have friends telling you to just get over it. You will but, it takes a long time you have to keep yourself very busy. Go out with your friends meet people, not men, if your not ready. Just to talk hang out do the things that you always wanted to do but, couldn't.Take up hobbies that you like, take a class. Most important thing is remember the good times, not the bad this will help you get through, cry it's not bad you need to get the sadness that is in you heart out. I know this is hard you feel like your life is over and you will never find any like him again. But you will find someone 10 times better. in time. Right now you need to love yourself heal your heart, you are a good person you deserve the best always remember that. You will find the right person for you when the time is right. Looking now will only bring you more sadness and frustration. Because you will compare ever man to him and then think why did he hurt me like this. I know been there, it sucks. But you will get tough like I did and look back on this as a learning experience. Good Luck and Love yourself you worth it!

Answer 3

If he was the one of the most important people in ur life that u've had theres no way u really cant hes always gona have the part of ur heart but all u can do for now is throw away things that remind u of him and dont listen to sad slow songs go out with ur friends .... and every time u start to think about him distract urself by doing something als = /

Answer 4

Go out with groups of friends and over time you will NOT completely forget about him .. but it will fade to the point where you are able to find a new person that you can love again. Good Luck! :)

Answer 5

It is always hard having a relationship end. You can't be sure that you will never think of an ex again. There is always something to remind you of them. Just go out and try to have fun, and enjoy yourself. It will take time. Just try to go on, and live life. Good luck.

Answer 6

Involve yourself in your work, school or a friendship. Go to church, meet new people. You might find someone who sparks your interest and you will wonder why you had so much trouble getting OVER your ex!

Answer 7

You throw yourself a big pity party, cry it out, sit on the pitty pot and then FLUSH. Then you go out and make new friends and build new relationships, join a club, gym, whatever, and build a new social life. It just takes time. You will survive. Be patient.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, my ex and I have kids that tie us together, so all I can tell you is that you never really forget about the ex---you just 'move on.' It takes a while.

Answer 9

dont even give him/her your thoughts honey....if you are lost in your self and happy being YOU and single, someone will find you and u will fall in love and be happy, it takes about 3 months to get over a true love. sooner if u keep really busy. dont look for it though..when a person wants you love will happen on its own. pretty soon u will be wondering y u liked/loved that person

Answer 10

Get yourself involved with some kind of activity. Don't date anyone to get over someone because it's not fair to the person you wind up dating. And contrary to what they say the best way to get over someone is not to get under someone else.

Answer 11

drive so ****ing far away and she'll never cross your mind. its that simple haha, i don't think i will ever forget any of my ex's they'll stay with you forever even with your next i say. unless your next is super awesome. haha, i tend to talk about ex's alot though it's hard to forget if your talking about them all the time. so i say drive far away and only refer to them as your ex. don't say names or anything. thats what i do