Three months ago my girlfriend sent me an email saying that she was very sorry but she no longer felt the same about me. We had had a few slightly off days but nothing serious so I was surprised and shocked when this happened. I tried to get hold of her a few times just to talk things over but she didn't reply. Although I was devastated I decided to move on, keep busy and to keep my mind off her. Now three months on I am still very much in love with her and can't stop thinking about her. Should I try again to talk to her or should I just keep trying to move on?
2006-10-06 06:53:32 · 13 answers · asked by james_evans101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Face it love, if she hasn't contacted you after three months she has obviously moved on - so that's what you should do. I know you are hurting and grieving your loss, but time is a good healer and there are a lot of girls out there looking for a decent lad, and you sound like a caring sort of person. Go for it mate and don't look backwards!
2006-10-06 06:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sue S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a ***** - dumping you by email. If you had done it face to face you could have got all the 'what if' stuff out the way and got it out of your system (crying, yelling, that kind of thing). Sounds like talking to her would help but can potentialy be dangerous - it will probably make you feel very bad for a few weeks after but at least you stand a chance of getting over it. But don't listen to me, I'm lousy at this kind of thing.
2006-10-06 07:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by baddatum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure call or email her
but this time hide ur agenda
just call or email to say hi and to see how u was doing
thats all
and if conversation starts
never talk about what went wrong
leave the past in the past
and also do not talk about getting back together
it will scare her away
just be her friend and little by little work ur way romantically
but it will take time and patience
i did it and i got my girl back
2006-10-06 06:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after all this time I would let her remain as part of your past, and try to get on with your own life, if she felt the same way as you do right now, im sure she would have contacted you before now sorry. xxx
2006-10-06 07:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by rosydog2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 21:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If you want, send her an email telling her she's on your mind and that you were hurt by her actions for some closure.
But she sounds like she wasn't deserving of even that anyway.
2006-10-06 09:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text her or give her a call and just ask how she is...she might have missed you and would be very happy to hear from you or else she is happier without you so be prepared for rejection....Good luck.
2006-10-06 06:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy this although sad makes me smile because it remindes me of my ex.
She lives in a different country and dumped me when she came to see me back in April
Dont get all pally pally with her, sure you do sound like me. She still holds a place inside you and thats nice but dont do the whole 'what if' thing to yourself its not worth it, ive done it and it drives you mental.
Honestly mate dumping you by e-mail is terrible it means she is gutless and is hiding something from you. Mine when she came to visit me didnt even tell me your dumped she kept dropping hints like "Everyone has got their favourites in their own country dont they?" and "No matter what we can stay friends even if I found another guy....(pause for 5 seconds as she looked sheepish) *then stuttered* not that I have im just saying"
In the end I had to say "you want me to love you enough to let you go" and she nodded her head and I kept pressing her for answers as to why??? and she got colder and colder
buddy there is no 100% cure because she will always hold your heart in someform and as time moves on so must you like I have. Im shy so finding someone else has been hard but flirt (harmless flirting is fantastic) you make a random woman feel beautiful (but dont go for one night stands cos they are POINTLESS)
flirt with women to boost your self esteem once more but time is a good healer and in time like me my friend you will treasure the memories of times when you were great together
stuff like songs that were your songs when you hear them will make you smile and for a split second you may remember the good times but dont go back to her my friend
she is not worth your love, you are better than her. You will always love her like I love my ex but youve been hurt and she is the one in the wrong.
If there is any chance of a re-kindled relationship then the fire will begin from her side
she is in the wrong you running back gets you nothing but grief
move on go out on loads of boys nights out just hanging out with your friends on nights out chilling and drinking
and when out with your boys if any women chat to you be friendly and flirty but dont look for sex from them its not the answer because you will think "ah my ex" you will wallow in self pity and its like will have won.
To beat her hurt that she has caused you -
go out with the boys and have a laugh and be lads
and flirt and trust your feelings because your feelings, heart and soul one night in the future will just feel right when you look at some one and when you know your heart feels more than the usual lust for someone then and only then do you know that she is the next gf for you.
Of course the next task is to win that girl with charm and compliments
I sound like a wise old man I know but im a young man 20yrs old in 10 days :) (be getting a pension next lol!!)
move on mate, treasure the good times and lock them away inside yourself but in the end move on
and if you ever run into her again you will be a stronger man for it becuase you wont be a doormat
she wont hold so much of a tight grip on you even though part of you will always love her
2006-10-06 08:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on huni.
you cant make someone love you and she might have someone else already.
plus she is a coward and possibly guilty of something by dumping you by e-mail and then not responding.
2006-10-06 07:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way just leave it now did she really leave you without an explanation mabye she was cheating move on u'll find someone special soon good luck ;o)
2006-10-06 06:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by lalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋