Christians?

Question

do you think it's rude of people in your church to say stuff to you if you haven't gone to service lately?for example in my case they say to me:"Jesus can perform miracles still,look who's showed up" or "you've been lost,where were you all this time?" do you think there's a way of telling those people that the things they say are hurtful to me,and that they should stop saying them? that really gets me down,and i don't want to go to church,because i don't want to see those people.any advice and prayers welcome!

Answer 1

That is unfortunate that people say those things to you. Unfortunately we all are far from perfect, including us Christians. The concept of church, in the Christian faith, is a place to gather for fellowship and worship with other believers. If you feel the congregation at your church embraces these attitudes it could be that you need to find a new church. My prayer goes out to you that would either find Christ's love within the church you currently attend or that you would be led to a church where you would find His love!

Answer 2

It's hard to say because I don't know the spirit behind the comments. A few people in my church would say something similar to that to someone they are friends with that has shown up in a long time and mean it as a joke. They wouldn't be meaning to hurt anyone's feelings. If that's a possibility, then next time it happens tell them it hurts your feelings. Hopefully they will stop.

If you think they intend to hurt your feelings or embarass you then maybe you should find a church where you are more comfortable. I am all for being faithful to your church, but if it's not working for you or you don't go because of the people then it's not doing anyone any good for you to be there. Find a place where you feel happy, welcome and loved.

Answer 3

I do agree it's rude and can be hurtful. They might be doing it to poke fun (although not knowing it's hurtful). Perhaps you are just feeling a little conviction from the Holy Spirit for staying away as long as you have (for what-ever reason). So when they say it you start feeling a little guilty. Let go of the guilt that's from the enemy. There is no condemnation in Jesus Christ!

Next time, just smile and say, I'm so glad you missed me, YES! Jesus does perform miracles, I was once lost but I found Jesus! ...and my fave...There is no condemnation in Jesus Christ! Then walk away :o)

Try and give them the benefit of the doubt. I know, it's difficult sometimes but it couldn't hurt!

((p.s. When I see someone I haven't seen in awhile, I will hug them and have said, "it's been awhile, how are you?" However, I go to a "large" church...I don't see everyone all the time. I don't mean it as, "You haven't been coming" I mean as, "we haven't connected in awhile, how are you?" You may want to pull them aside and find the spirit behind the question. Grace to you and God Bless!))

Answer 4

A friend of mine had an answer to people who would say to her if she missed a service, "I've missed you the last few weeks", and then the person would wait for the answer as if nosy to see where she had been. Her answer with a smile was, "wow, thank you for missing me. It makes me feel great to know that". ... and then she would just walk away without saying where or why she was not there. It worked for her and they quit asking.

Please don't stop going to services because of a few people who are not practicing true love, the way God taught us. God has a way of working those things out. However, He doesn't want any of us to stop fellowship with other believers. We can pray for those people who do state such things, and also pray for you because these people have hurt you.

Do you like this particular church otherwise? If there are other problems besides those you mention, it could also be a sign you may wish to visit other churches. With prayer, I believe things can change and hope that you do not need to change churches. You may also wish to speak with the pastor and let him/her know what others say. He may want to speak of it in the pulpit, not mentioning your name, but I'm sure he could also find a sermon around those problems.

My prayers are with you, and with the people that have approached you in that rude manner that God would change their heart and life. I pray that you would feel His love, peace and comfort. Don't let the problems others have steal the joy God gave you! {{Hugs}}

Answer 5

What church do you go to? They need a real teaching from the Holy Spirit. Real christians wouldn't say that to anyone. Find some place else, where they are more welcoming. I know my church isn't like that. I've missed mass a few times but no one's come up to me and said, "Oh, look who's finally here". I did, though, have one bible-thumper tell me that I was kneeling wrong. I go down on my left knee (it's the one that doesn't hurt as much) and she said I was praising Satan because of that.

Don't let a bunch of no-nothing spiteful jerks turn you from God.

Answer 6

Someone else pointed out that she didn't know what spirit the comments were mean to be said in, and that is a good point. But, if they are hurting your feelings, you might want to let them know. Or, you might want to just pick another church. It isn't their place to judge you for missing church. You probably had a good reason. And besides, it is not like they are doing everything right, either. One thing they are doing wrong is passing judgment on someone, particularly without knowledge of the entire circumstance.

It is hard for me to figure out why the Christian church has so many self-righteous people like this. They think that everyone has to worship the same way they do, they think everyone has to have the same spiritual feelings and experiences that they do--and if you don't, you're the devil's right hand man (or woman).

I was raised to reject other religions, particularly pagan ones. But I have to admit one thing: I haven't seen these self-righteous traits in as many of their followers as I have in Christians. Maybe that's one thing they have on us.

Answer 7

Weekly assembly of Christians IS NOT SABBATH. SABBATH IS GONE, THAT LAW WAS SET ASIDE.

BUT, the New Testament does place considerable emphasis on regular attendance. Hebrews 10:24 and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, 25 not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.

On the flip-side, they are supposed to be stimulating, not browbeating. It may be just the way you think about it. Consider it an encouragement and thank them rather than getting defensive.

Answer 8

Don't let what others say get you down. It is very rude of them. Just tell them that you are offended by their rude comments or just start crying in frount of them and make them feel bad for what they say. You should concider going to a new church before you just stop going all together. I will pray that God will give you the strength to stand up to those that hurt you.

Answer 9

Yes I do think that it is rude. If there are people in your church saying those kinds of things to you or anyone else than I do not think that they have grasped the whold concept of God. I think that your best bet is to confront this person or people and tell them how you feel and maybe you could say that it is not polite or Christian behavior to be saying things like that. I will pray for you to figure out the perfect thing to do. God Bless.

Answer 10

We havent been in church in 3 1/2 years. We went just a few weeks back and no one treated us like that. Its almost as if we havent left. I am sorry they say things like that to you, and personaly I would find a different church. Cause its by the grace of God they are not out of church like you. Don't go by how one church is, but look for another. One who treats you like your family. My advice is don't get out of church and fellowship like me. Stay in there.