My best friend has a slight crush on her professor (**gasp!**, yeah I know, right)
Anyway, she's 20 and he's 28---- Now, I understand that perhaps in real life, such an age difference is not an issue, BUT
He's a Professor and She's a STUDENT
I'm not sure what advice to give her concerning the situation, but hypothetically (and I mean HYPOTHETICALLY) speaking IF anything (at all) were to happen between them, wouldn't it be more appropriate for it to happen when he is NO LONGER her Professor?
2006-10-06 06:31:41 · 42 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No,.. It isn't an issue - the difference in age.
But on a professional level, its wrong. Because there is a Conflict of Interest. If the professor pursues your friend and somehow has a falling out later, there can be compicatitions that can hurt his career and your friends future.
Its normal for some students to have an attraction or infatuation with a teacher, it happens all the time. Its been happening for centuries.
But its the How of resolving such situations that makes it so inappropriate, and problematic for both parties.
Its better that you try to discourage your friends pursuit of this teacher, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Get her to Grow-Up, and focus on the Why she is in school in the first place.
cheers babe!
2006-10-06 07:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend cares anything about this professor then she wouldn't want to compromise his career by getting involved with him. While the age difference isn't an issue, she needs to act her age and be an adult in making rational decisions and weighing her options. Both lives could be seriously disturbed if this goes any further than the crush.(all of this is hypothetical of course)
:)
2006-10-06 06:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not too old for her, but there is a line that shouldn't be crossed at least while he is someone of an authority figure towards her right now.
If she has a crush on him she needs to keep it to herself until she has completed her classes with him. There is too much than can happen if she was to try and have some sort of physical relationship with him not to mention all the gossip and rumors that people spread. I don't think she would want him to lose her job over something someone makes up that's not true and it happens.
2006-10-06 06:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for the too old thing, I don't think the age difference is too big.
But it could seriously jeopardize her education and his career for something to happen between them. Advise her to wait until he is not her professor before she does ANYTHING. Who knows, if it's just a crush, it may wear off by then anyways.
2006-10-06 06:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_lil_butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she's not attending college at said university, its wrong. Its highly unethical for a professor to date a student. The age difference is nothing to worry about though. My mom is 40 and my dad is 48; they have been married for almost 22 years now.
2006-10-06 06:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the age difference is no biggy.
In every profession, RULES are broke everyday!
You first say it's a crush. Crushes do nothing to cause pain for others. IF this professor finds her interesting, and decides to cross the line of ethics, then I hope she has a good time!!
2006-10-06 06:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see a problem in the age difference at all. If she is that interested in dating him, she need to drop the class and take another one in its place. That is my opinion b/c if she doesn't it will cause an uproar between his students and him when they find out they are dating. So to keep down confusion I would say to drop the class or finish it up and then ask him out. That way everyone is happy!!! Good Luck.
2006-10-06 06:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by jetta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not appropriate for a student and teacher to date as it is a conflict of interest. The professor has an obligation to protect and teach his students.
When your friend is no longer his student, then it will be okay to date.
2006-10-06 06:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age isn't an issue, but they shouldn't date if she's taking a class that he's teaching. He could get in big trouble, even end his career. If she cares at all for this guy, she should back off until the end of the term.
2006-10-06 06:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had no "gasp". And no thats not too old. my aunt married her high school senior teacher. He was 25 she was 19 and now they've been happily married for 10 years and they are still going strong. However, he didn't pick up on her to get her number until her graduation ceremony just so that it wouldn't look bad and cause rumors.
2006-10-06 06:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋