Alright my girlfriend and I are "taking a break" long story... Anyways she invited me to come and watch a basketball game with her on Saturday night. I am somewhat hessitant because she is the one that said she needed the space. I would love to go with her but I know that I would want to be able to hold her hand or kiss her, and I just know that it would be akward. We have been dating for 3 years and things have been fairly serious. I will provide any more information if needed.
2006-10-06 06:30:47 · 23 answers · asked by Poowoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go, tell her you want to respect the space she wants and you will find it too difficult to be around her as a 'friend' (since you still care and can't do the couple things while on this date). It will only frusterate you to be around her and not kiss and hold hands, especially if it doesn't seem to be bothering her. Let her know what its like to want to be with you since she wanted the space. Let her miss you.
2006-10-06 06:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go watch the game with her. Just because the two of you aren't in a relationship doesn't mean that you can't be friends. I know it might be hard just to be her friend because of the feelings you may have for her but it's better to have her as a friend than not have her at all. Who knows this break might do the two of you some good and may make the relationship stronger in the future. Nothing's wrong with holding her hand. Try kissing her goodbye on the cheek.
2006-10-06 06:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Curious One 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK here is what i think she is thinking don't come after me if I'm wrong or anything. i think she is feeling like you may not love her, or she doesn't love you. one thing i would do is every time i saw her i would tell her she is beautiful if you don't already. try bringing her flowers for some random reason. give her reasons to stay with you and to want to be with you all the time. all the little things count man. another thing you could try is writing her a poem, or something like that girls really like that stuff. if you don't want that approach you could always try the take her out for supper rather then having her invite you somewhere, if she's inviting you i would go. it's always nice to pamper your girl to try a manicure or something to do with her hair, if their is something you know she is not confident about try giving her a gift to make that prettier, for example most girls hate their feet so get a pedicure for them. this will not also boost their confidence but it will also give you bonus points for getting her something. if all else fails try dancing with her under the stars, one night, just you and her. even if you don't think your a good dancer at least you'll get to hold her in your arms she may like the feeling of being in your arms which will make her fall even more in love with you
2006-10-06 06:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun if she's the one who wanted the space and the one who asked you to the game maybe she's realizing it's not space she needed. maybe it's you. Don't put yourself out there without letting her know your thoughts. Be honest and whatever happens will happen. Ask her thoughts and what she is feeling towards you and make your decision from there. It's always awkward after any fight or any separation but those who over come the weird feelings are the ones who respect each other more.
2006-10-06 06:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still in love with her; GO!, but let her make the moves, remind her of her wishes and ask her if she's thinking about forgetting "THE BREAK" or what! Tell her how you feel about being around her knowing that she needs her space, and remind her how hard it is for you to be around her and not feel as if you can be yourself! Good Luck!
2006-10-06 06:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go... yes, it will be hard, but she invited you for a reason obviously. You're just going to have to restrain your urges to treat her like your girlfriend, since you are taking a break. If you don't think you can do it, or it's too painful, don't go... but be upfront with her and tell her why. Maybe she is trying to make an effort to patching things up?
2006-10-06 06:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dubs82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been a long break , then she has had time to think things over and obviously wants you back. Accept her invitation. Maybe she has something to tell you .. just ask her how she has been .. take it easy .. don't be posessive.. that is a turn-off for women. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-06 06:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go, because it will be hard emotionally, you guys have been together 4 3yrs, and It would be hard to spend time with her and not be able to show affection, either you can just tell her the truth and just say you are not ready to hang out as friends, or just tell her you have made other plans.
2006-10-06 06:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may still be interested. Ask her what she expects from you - make her tell you what she wants. That way you don't break any hidden rules that all of us girls have but never really say...
It is ok for you to set boundaries. Tell her if you can't handle being just friends right now because you can't separate your feelings for her quite yet. It may make her rethink her feelings for you - honesty is sexy!
2006-10-06 06:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if it were me, I'd be inviting my "boyfriend" because I missed the security of the relationship and because that way I'd know where he's at. If she truly wants a break, she shouldn't be asking you. Honestly, sounds like she's using you.
2006-10-06 06:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jen F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋