I want to have 4 kids before turning 30/31, at what age should I start or how far apart should I have them?

Question

I am 21 and married.. I want to wait a a year or 2 before I get pregnant...
Do u think its reccomendable to have all your kids at a young age?

Answer 1

Im 30 and having my 4th child in March. I had my first son at age 20, I was almost 21, then I had my 2nd at age 23, my 3rd at age 27, and now Im 30. My kids are ages 9, 7, and 2 , and I think these are good distances between them. This is now my last child and I also wanted to have my last one by the time I was 30. Good luck.

Answer 2

Getting the cart before the horse a bit aren't you?! YES Wait a few years before having the first. Anything after that, you should wait to plan....what if you find out you have negative genetics that could be passed on to your children, what if your pregancy is difficult and doctors suggest you don't have any more, what if your husband doesn't want any more? What if one of you are injured and cannot have any more children? What if you have two and decide that is enough? WHat if one of your children has a health problem that is expensive and time consuming for you, which would mean you don't have much quality time to devote to more children? Just go with the flow and see what happens. Only time will tell what is right....what is good for you now, may not be so great 5 years down the road. Keep in mind that younger parents have more energy, but less patience. Also keep in mind that it takes about two years for the average woman's body to return to "normal" after giving birth.

Answer 3

If you are 21 now and want to wait 2 years to start - that leaves you approx 8 years to have 4 kids. So, you'll need to get pregnant each time your youngest is just over 1 year old. Sounds rough. Good luck if you can manage that.

Answer 4

In that span of time, you are kinda pushing it. My cousin just turned 30 and has 4 kids, all about 3 years apart. Had her first at 20.

Answer 5

looking after 2 babies on a similar time could be complicated. My step son is 13 years older than my a million year previous 2nd son. My brother and that i've got been a million a million/2 years aside and we fought over each and every thing. My mom went loopy yet she did say it replaced into much less stressful having us closer mutually because of the fact she had to handle stages close mutually somewhat than having to handle them a 2nd time. i think of a 2 year hollow is nice yet you're able to do what you experience you're able to do. do no longer difficulty approximately what people think of. 21 months isn't too close mutually neither is it too far aside like my little ones!

Answer 6

start trying to get pregnant when ur 24-25. i've heard the perfect spacing for ur children is 18 monthes. having them any closer is hard on ur body and won't give the child space to be an individual. a littler further apart is okay but if u wait too long between kids u'll be raising kids for the rest of ur life and never have any time for yourself

Answer 7

Start trying when you want to within the next 2 years then start trying for the next one when that one is 18 months old and so on.

Answer 8

My two children are 13 and 3 and i love the space, my daughter is also very helpful with my son. I couldn't imagine having 4 every 18 months . You are very brave.

Answer 9

most definetley have them young.That way you will up to the challenge and be able to enjoy your grandkids.You and your husband will also be able to enjoy each other before youre too physically tired or sick. waiting to have children and get married shows me you are responsible.So many women dont make good choices like that anymore..Pat yourself on the back and good luck

Answer 10

I had all 6 of mine before 28 and loved it! Now they are all
grown and I'm lovin the fact i get to enjoy the grandkids
P.S. I'm only in my 4o's...