O.K, here goes,
I am going to be turning 18 next month and I am really looking forward to it.
One of the reasons is that I will finally be able to lose my virginity with the guy that I have been seeing for the last 10 months.
The part that worries me is that I have seen him naked, and he has a very, very, small penis.
I did see it when it was hard and it was still small.
About 3 inches at the most.
My question is this, Does size really matter.
I know that things will be a little different for me because I am a virgin but I have masturbated A LOT and my vagina is kind of used to having large dildo's inside it.
Im just trying to figure out what if it really really really makes a big difference if the guy is huge then that means that I will probably still sleep with him, but I will not want to marry him.
I believe in keeping the wedding vows and I would not want to cheat on him.
Also, what does it feel like when a guy ejaculates inside you?
2006-10-06 06:17:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, is it possible for the sex to be just as good if he uses his fingers. I dont think he is the type of guy that would be willing to use his mouth. Can I still come?
I dont know to me I want to be able to *** with the guy's penis inside but does it make a difference if he makes me *** with his finger rather than his penis.
Does it feel different?
Please help, I would be embarrassed to death to ask anyone this in person and I NEED HONEST ANSWERS.
THESE ARE LIFE CHANGING DECISIONS THAT I AM MAKING HERE!!!
2006-10-06 06:20:16 · update #1
size (to me) rarely matter except in the cases of a very small girl with a large man, or vice versa.
I know from personal experience that it's not size, my ex was much larger than my current boyfriend, and my current boyfriend is actually amazing in bed.
Since you masterbate a lot, and use large dildos.. yes it may be a problem. For a while before you two go at it, stop masterbating, or try only clitoral stimulation and lay off of the larger dildos - go for smaller ones or just simple vibrators. and do kaegle exercises (tighten and hold the muscles in 30 second intervals) that should tighten you up some.
Size mostly matters in girth rather than length anyways.
as for ejaculation.. I don't know how to explain it, usually i can't really feel it unless he comes very hard or for a few seconds/min.
feel free to contact me with any other questions or someone to talk to - i'm about your age just a little older.
2006-10-06 06:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, most women i know would prefer width over length, because only the first few inches of your vagina have all the nerves in it---i mean if you want that totally filled up feeling, then length and width is good, but short can be good if the guy knows how to use it----i guess it all depends on what your requirements are for this----i feel so blessed that my fiancee is long and wide, and he definately knows how to use them both---as far as marrying the guy, just think it through before you dont't marry him because of his penis size.....but the choice is totally on you......there is no right or wrong on this one........and when a guy ejaculates inside of you, you can only truly feel anything coming out if there is a lot or it has been a while and it sort of just explodes, but you can always feel his penis releasing inside of you, kind of a throbbing sensation......anyway, good luck!1
2006-10-06 06:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK. i feel that you should wait . you are giving it up for the wrong reasons. you asked if you will feel if he do his thing inside of you. i guess you are not really concern of what could happen after you give it up. STD and becoming pregnant are your options when you are not using protection. about the penis. yes it does matter. if you decide to go through this you will feel the difference because you are using large dildo's. your inside is already use to the size, so when your man have sex with you you not going to feel the same way you do when you are using a dildo. by reading this and other answers you receive you should know what is best for you. all i ask from you is if you do go through this make sure you are using protection. i hope i helped. good luck with your decision.
2006-10-06 06:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size if nice but the most important is if they know how to communicate with you so it feels good to you. I dated a guy with a good size penis and he could never make me come and I don't think he really cared anyway. My last bf had a smaller penis but I got off most the time.
If he can't make you come with his penis then fingers can be great! One or two inside and have him do a 'come here' motion with his fingers so it will hit your g spot.
Also I find playing with the clit in either situation can help. If he doesn't mind vibrators use a vibrator while he's doing you.
2006-10-06 06:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Size doen't really matter. It never has to me. In fact for me the longer a guys penis is the more uncomfortable it is. What matters is does he know what he is doing? How he uses his hands, fingers, lips, and tongue. A man or woman needs to know how to touch someone sexually for sex to really be good. As far as how it feels when a guy ejaculates in you, the only way I can describe it is that it is warm and feels good. Thats the best I come up with for that one.
2006-10-06 06:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Size can matter especially if he is too big. If he is small you may have to work on technique. Foreplay is very important regardless of size. You cane teach him what and how you like it. Know one ever said that you can't help with your handy finger to make things better. Work on angle, it makes as much difference as size. When a guy ejaculates in you. It is hot and wet.
2006-10-06 06:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small is a PLUS if you are a virgin, I mean, in case you dont like feeling pain, of course.
Dont think about taking it with fingers it would be a WAY too painful.
If you get unsatisfied, there will be TONS of chances for you be satisfied later if you find out you want more. You are starting early enough you will be plenty of time.
2006-10-06 06:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all, I think you are making a huge mistake on wanting to lose your virginity to him! Especially if you aren't going to marry him because of his penis being small! That is wrong on your part. Secondly, if you are going to lose your virginity, you don't want to feel him ejaculating in you becuase that would mean you are doing it with out a condom. Unless you want to risk getting pregnant or an STD I wouldn't recommend that either. If you are going to have sex have safe sex! But the best thing would be to wait!
2006-10-06 06:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Help??? 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
lets be honest. size does matter. more width than length though. id hate to see you disappointed, but at least u have never been with anyone else to compare it to. so u may not realize it. if things dont work out with your man, and eventually u r with someone else, that is when u may realize it. and who knows, if it is love maybe the connection will be amazing. and no u shouldnt feel him finish inside u, until u get to know him well enough and u will be able to tell his body language. good luck!!!!
2006-10-06 06:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by yankeesarethechamps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try reading the Kama Sutra. There are many different ways to satisfy a lover (that applies to both sexes). Yes, I'm a guy, and I'm leaving an answer - get over it.
2006-10-06 06:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋