shes 3, and knows that a vagina is a vagina...not a hoo ha, a penis is a penis...not a wee wee, and that she has a clitoris. She knows that boys have a penis and girls have a vagina, and she is obsessed with boobies. No the child is not being abused, just naturally curious, and as her mother I would rather her grow up with the proper terminology, and a healthy attitude towards her body, not a shameful one.
shes going to preschool soon, should i give her teachers a heads up, that even though we talk to her about only talking about her parts at home, that sometimes she will talk about them in public?
2006-10-06 05:11:00 · 11 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
LMAO....so its better to keep them hidden and make her feel ashamed when she looks at them...i don;t think so....
2006-10-06 05:15:45 · update #1
stands for *** dear, and when my daughter is older she can use that word if she wants, but for now she knows she has an anus
2006-10-06 05:20:21 · update #2
That's very good that your daughter is learning the PROPER words about her body, I HATE it when I hear parents say "Wee wee" or "Hoo ha" it's ridiculous! I don't think that you should give her teachers a heads up, it's just like asking "My daughter knows what an arm is. Should I tell her teachers?" It's just a body part!
2006-10-06 09:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with teaching her the correct words for her anatomy. My son is 3, and knows the correct words too. As long as your daughter knows that her body belongs to her, and that nobody can touch it without her permission, she's just going to have an easier time in health class :) I'd definitely give her teachers a heads-up though, as it might shock them. Some people (as you've been able to see on this site) get offended a little too easily by things.
2006-10-06 06:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jamila 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm doing the same thing with my son. Why teach them silly names for the body parts? It does make it seem that we are afraid to talk about them and therefore we should be ashamed when we should not be, it's all body parts. We don't have silly names for hands or feet. Anyway, it might be a good idea to tell his teacher just so she can be prepared. As you can tell, there are A LOT of adults out there that are not OK with it and are completely thrown off guard when a child says the word penis. Tell the teacher also that you would prefer that no adult "correct" him by using a silly word, just so they know you are firm on the issue. Good luck and good job!
2006-10-06 07:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a preschool teacher of twos and threes, and have two children of my own. With both the children I teach and my own, I use the correct terminology. My children know that boys have a penis and girls have a vagina, and use the correct terms at home. I believe that children should be given the correct terms, and we talk about things in a matter-of-fact way when in the bathroom. I try to make sure that there are no negative connotations about talking about our bodies and the things our bodies can do. A good daycare should encourage these things as well, so definitely speak up about the words that you use at home. It is ok that at her young age that she talks about the parts of her body in public areas... I know you don't want her to be yelling them out when you are shopping in the mall, but when you are in public bathroom, it is ok. Keep doing what you are doing... you are building her confidence and self esteem.
2006-10-06 18:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can mention it if you really feel the need to, but it's not necessary. Any good pre-school teacher will know that this issue can arise and be prepared to deal with it. Just reiterate to your girl that those are private things. Don't make it too important though, or she'll think about it more often and be more likely to say something at school.
Congratulations on using proper terminology and encouraging a healthy attitude!
2006-10-06 05:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_lil_butterfly 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I have a 2 1/2 year old and she knows that her vagina is a vagina and all the other parts as well. I don't think it will make her think they are "no big deal" on the contrary, she will hopefully have a good attitude about her parts and be educated about them. Not an ingnorant woman. Good for you for teaching her the proper way.
As for the preschool thing, I don't think it will matter if you tell her teacher about it or not.
2006-10-06 06:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by megmariew1 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not really. U are doing the right thing she needs to know the correct terms. After all if u don't teach her at home she will learn the very wrong things in the real world. I say good job!!!!!!!!!!!! and besides if she says something and the teacher has a problem with it believe me they will let u know and then u can explain to the teacher that u will spaek to your daughter about when to talk about her body and when not to
2006-10-06 05:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by honey-eyes 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
you may want to tell them, so you don't get falsely accused of something. My daughter is also 3 and knows about her vagina, i agree with you 100% on the way you parent your child. They are just kids and learning new things fascinates them.
2006-10-06 05:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I was with ya until clitoris came along. I was the same way with my son. Hey only makes them brighter know the correct terminlogy . Yeah give them the heads up.
2016-03-18 05:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with teaching them the proper terminology...the other names just sound ridiculous when they get older. You could just mention to her teacher that she is advanced, smart and knows all the correct words. As for her boobie obsession...totally normal at her age, most kids are curious.
2006-10-06 05:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋