I have had a few dates with this guy I met from an online dating service. Both dates have went really well and we seem to get along great. We have met both times in public places.
He has now invitied me to his place for dinner. Is it to soon and am I putting myself in a dangerous situation? Or do you think it would be alright to proceed taking pre-cautions?
2006-10-06 05:01:58 · 20 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only u know whether or not you'd feel comfortable being alone with him. if u decide to go to his place u may want to tell a friend where u are going. his FULL name and address. that way if you are missing for a week the police know where to start looking.
2006-10-06 05:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you said a "few dates" and then said "both times" so I am guessing you have had only two dates with him. I would advise you to still play it quite safe with this man. I would NOT go to his home for dinner at this point. It IS too soon. Can you have a back ground check on him? Have you looked up the sex offenders data base? All sex offenders are NOT listed so don't take this as "he is okay, if he doesn't appear". Please, keep meeting in public places, have your cell phone, and let your friends and family know where you are going. Play it Smart. If he is a decent guy, he will certainly understand and admire you for your prudence! Good luck. Be Safe!
2006-10-06 12:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Royallady1947 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking this question because you obviously have concerns. Always go with your gut instinct. You already met this guy and you think he is okay. He probably is. You still should do something public until you totally trust him. No shame in that....
Since you already went out, it is likely that he is a normal guy. If he was a creepy predator he would not have waited to do something. Plus he would not risk having other people know him. As a woman you most likely told girlfriends about him. He would be known. My guess is that it is an innocent request to go to his place but you are obviously not ready to take that step. Go with your feeling and always remember to be safe rather than sorry.
2006-10-06 12:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by mollymolls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to go to his home, give someone his name, address and phone number. Take a cell phone with you and set up a time for this person to call you and also have that person be parked right in front of his place. Have them ask "Is everything going ok?" Tell them "Oh yes, that's fine." You can tell him oh that was a friend of mine wanting to borrow something and I told them yes that's fine then change the subject. If everything is not going good, tell that person, "I'm on my way." Then leave with the explanation of having a family emergency.
2006-10-06 12:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have another couple for dinner at the same time. After hearing about the woman who chopped guys up and put them in her deep freeze this would probably go a long ways to setting the poor guys mind to rest.
2006-10-06 12:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating involves a lot of risks, granted most are emotional, but they have to be taken for things to go forward. Just don't do anything your not comfortable doing. You have instincts for a reason. A homemade dinner at his place is not too early for the third date, though, I don't think.
2006-10-06 12:07:10 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're asking this question tells me that you're still not 100 percent sure about this guy. Keep things public until you feel safe. Freaks can appear quite normal for just two dates.
2006-10-06 12:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...don't go to his place. You could definetly be putting yourself in a very bad situation. Go out to a public place until you get to know him more or if you do go to his house then arrange for another couple to be there. Just don't go there alone.
2006-10-06 12:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you that hard up for a date that you had to go to a online dating service. BE CAREFUL.
2006-10-06 12:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No defiantly not. Let him know you just met him and you would feel more comfortable going out some where. If he is truly a nice guy he will understand.
2006-10-06 12:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋