It's her third baby, why are people pressuring me, here at work, to buy her something? I dont want to.. She should have enough things already! What do you think? these people will not give up!
2006-10-06 04:44:54 · 13 answers · asked by sshhmmee2000 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i take it you are not a friend of hers. if she is not a friend, don't worry about it.
if you are a friend, offer babysitting hours. OMG those are more precious than a brand new bassinet! especially with 3 kids.
2006-10-06 08:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get a gift give someting disposable.... A basket with baby wash, baby powder, and baby shampoo.. along with a cuddly after bath hooded towel and baby wash cloth...
Just because it's a 3rd child doesn't mean she has all she could ever use... However if you don't wish to buy a gift don't... You are the one feeling the pressure so it is you who is having the mixed feelings... If you were so adament in your decision what others say wouldn't make you feel pressured..
You are ultimately the only one who can make your decision so make it and stop whining about what you should do...
2006-10-06 13:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's special at work to get together and give a gift to someone who is getting married, having a child, etc. whether it is the first or tenth....
Most office organizers recognize that not all wish to participate and will usually set up an envelope with a card so that those who wish to pitch in can sign the card and those who don't want to don't have to... They should never put pressure on those who do not want to participate...
The only time I don't participate is if I totally do not know the person being honored....
2006-10-06 11:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, You dont know if she has enough things already. I am having my 4th child and they are throwing a shower for me. I have absolutley nothing for a baby. Maybe her children are spaced far apart, or she sold her baby stuff and wasnt expecting to have a baby, but now she is. Does she have all boys? or all girls and is now having the opposite sex and needs clothes for it? YOu have to think of these things. But if you dont feel like giving her anything then dont. Im sure she wont care if you do or not.
2006-10-06 13:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While its not a mandatory requirement, it would be nice of you to feel good for her. However, if you are so grossly morally opposed to sharing in her happiness, then don't buy anything!
Just an FYI, every baby should be treated as special, regardless of birth order. Buy something for the baby, not the mother. Perhaps a nice picture frame or a toy or the like.
2006-10-06 13:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her something despite her already having kids. You could buy a nice outfit or receiving blanket. Remember she may have already sold some of her stuff from her previous pregnancies. And sometimes if children are born at different seasons then its hard to match up with new kids and you end up having to buy new anyway.
Don't be so selfish about it. Be nice, its a good gesture.
2006-10-06 13:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaaah - work politics! Well, if you think this is going to be a big issue with your image at work (which is important), then why not buy a small token gift for baby. A keepsake baby ornament, first-year scrapbook/photo album, unique picture frame, or something that mom can fill in baby's name and birth day details.
2006-10-06 11:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the gift only if you desire from the heart. Dont keep conditions in mind if its a 3rd kid or not. Personally i wouldnt appreciate if i know someone forced to give a gift to me neither would you.
2006-10-06 11:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by R R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only give a gift if you WANT TO, regarless if that is her 1st, 2nd, 10th! You can always find something she can use. Having two kids, lots of stuff is worn already. Again, you shouldn't feel pressured, it should come from your heart.
2006-10-06 12:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about a gift card at a grocery store? Money will probably be a little tight for awhile.
2006-10-06 15:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is to tell her congratulations on the baby.....its not a "need" thing. Who cares if she needs it - congratulate her by buying her a cute stuffed animal or something.
2006-10-06 11:55:47 · answer #11 · answered by amber 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋