Someone has just cheated on me & i'm livid. how do i control my anger?

Answer 1

Do you run or work out? I find the best way to express my anger is physically - not by hurting someone or myself - but by getting it out tiring myself out. Works for me.

Revenge is not good - it usually bites you back!

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Answer 2

The previous comments are somewhat incorrect. First, counting to 10 does not work for all thing. An angry person does not think to count every time they become angry. Second, excessive anger is not necessarily an illness...I would suggest converting the anger to a different form of physical energy. I used to hold great amounts of anger inside, but I found that I could effectively release it through a simple form of exercise such as running. Perhaps lift weights or participate in a intramural which involves your mind and body. Something that will exhaust you and make you feel better overall. Violence is never a solution to anger though, for it will only manifest and become worse. A few years later, a poor girl may be abused senselessly by a man who's anger has grown over his life. Do not resort to violence. Convert your anger into another physical energy, and if that does not work I suggest seeing someone and explaining to them what happened, someone who cares.

Answer 3

go away on holiday.

It might sound stuipid but that's what i did and it helped me get my self contron back. It's hard and normal to feel anger but don't direct it at the other person it's you that will come out worse believe me. Take yourself of and then when you return you'll be still angry but hopefully more settled.

My husband ran of with my bestfriend the day after i'd had a miscarriage following 11 months of ivf treatment. They'd been haing an affair for nine months of that eleven. I was very very angry and treatend to kill my bestfriend, i punched her in the street and was completly uncontrolable . Then one day i had a major run in with my husband and the following day i'd had enough so i booked a weeks hoilday to florida, i live in the uk.
The following night i was visited by the police who had actually come to warn me that my treats were taken seriously (to be honest i wouldn't hav done anything it was total anger) but on seeing my suitcase they realised this. I flew on my own 4500 miles spents 6 days riding rolleracosters and just having fun and alot of my anger went not all though. I'd have never been to florida if i'd been still with my husband now i've been twice.

Like i said anger is normal let it out but not at the expence of yourself.

Answer 4

Keep your cool....I found that the best way to p**s someone off is to be happy act as though it hasn't bothered you. Even if it means giving the oscar winning performance of your life.... be happy but as soon as you feel able and strong enough in yourself move on you dont need to be around anyone you can't trust. There is never any need to lower yourself to the standard of the cheater you are a better person than that and revenge isn't always as sweet as you think it is going to be. Escpecially if you have a conscience . Remember no one cheats unless they wanted to, He/She went off with their eyes wide open.

Answer 5

By telling yourself, however much you are hurting / angry at the moment, that at least you have found out the true character of this guy now....and you have therefore been saved from being messed about by him no doubt many times in the future....

And you can also tell yourself that it is his biggest loss....and his come uppance for such behaviour is to lose the best girl he could ever have.........

And it's a Friday night....so try and get yourself out there, forget about him, let your hair down, and have a good time. U still have your friends, your health and a future to live for.

Go for it!

Answer 6

Just remember don't stoop to their level. If they are being that stupid they are not worth it, not even the revenge. Go out with your friends and move on. Working out and running always helped me for the rage part (plus if you do it enough you look more fabulous and makes moving on easier). No matter how crummy you feel dating is always the best revenge because he will be hurt by how easily you moved on. Just don't get too serious too fast, remember no matter how many distractions you have your heart does still need time to heal.

Answer 7

I don't think you need to control it. It's a valid expression of your pain and an important step in moving forward. Only if it becomes destructive to yourself and others you care about should you worry.
Otherwise: meditation, prayer, talking to others in similar situations, taking up a hobby, writing down your feelings

Answer 8

Well, eh ya dont!! Dont control your anger!!! Punch something (preferrably this persons face, just jokin) or if your like me cry! Cant help it start of sreaming and shouting but I get so angry I cant do anything else except cry

Answer 9

Gin.

Time is the only true healer. It hurts I know. Wait 6 months and then go for revenge. That's a great buzz.

Answer 10

3 deep breaths and I mean deep breaths.. then go wash your face with cold water and shake it off don't wipe it. Let it dry on your skin. The refreshing effect of cold water will help you calm down a little... Then come back in here and talk to me