I have been friends with a girl for years. She got closer to me, and I started to develop feelings from her flirting. She told me she never intended to flirt with me when I asked her, and I told her I had no intentions of going out with her, but I now catch her eyes sometimes in group settings. She does not get close to me anymore, but last night she asked me when she would see me next. Then when she left, she said "See you Tuesday!" What is going on?
2006-10-06 04:28:19 · 27 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she thinks you are playing hard to get
2006-10-06 04:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by dipset2205 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the above about thrill of chase and wanting what you can't have are true.
But another possibility from your story...
She may have felt some awkwardness after you expressed some interest but agreed not to do anything. Maybe she felt bad about having led you on, and wanted to give you some time and space to get over it. Maybe now she feels more comfortable getting close to you again as just a friend. The tricky part is whether you regard her way of being friendly as flirting again.
If she isn't annoying you -- and you want to be her friend -- then you should do so. Don't read too much into her actions and just see where it goes.
Good luck!
2006-10-06 11:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by dukkie27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people always want what they cant have. You telling her that nothing would happen between you two, made her think "why the hell not, oh yea? I'll show him!" So now she wants you, which is great if you think you want her also, but dont risk a good friendship if you arent sure that you want to go to the next level. You'll regret losing a good friend.
Good Luck
2006-10-06 11:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple. Its all about the chase and the conquer!! Just like men women like to conquer.especially when they are told that they can't have something! I think she really isn't getting the picture!! You need to be more upfront with her to save both yourself and her future embarrassments!! But be sensitive and smart about it these sort things can damage a person for life!!!
2006-10-06 11:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are an egomaniac and reading way to much into the situation. Maybe she just needs someone she can rely on right now. Don't think you are that great that now she wants you because you told her you would never date her. Besides, quit being so full of yourself and ask her what's going on. Honesty is always the best policy.....
2006-10-06 11:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you two discuss anything about tuesday?
if not then she might just miss hanging out with you from when you two were better friends or she might still like you and be trying to get you to feel the same way the only way you can find out which one it is is by hanging out with her on tuesday and see if she grabs your hand, waist, leg, butt, and etc. those are spots where people touch when they are trying to send a signal that they like you.
2006-10-06 11:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the temptation of having something she can not have. you are now a challegen for her. but your mistake was flirting with her in the beginning, it could had given her a sense that you liked her that way one time and now since you know better, she just might think everything is a joke.
be careful but be firm with her and dont let your guard down.
2006-10-06 11:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is sexier to girls than rejection. Trust me, I'm gay...lol...and girls literally throw themselves at me. I always tell my str8 friends to tell girls they're gay, and they'll get more action than they ever thought possible.
Seriously though. In general, when somebody rejects you in some way, you tend to obsess about it, and it becomes about more than just your original feelings for the person. You feel like if you can make them like you, you've "proved" yourself. That's the psychology behind "the thrill of the chase."
2006-10-06 11:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the thrill of the chase. When you show that your moving on, since she said no, it makes her feel like you do not like her any more. So now it is her turn to chase after you, and she might find this thrilling.
2006-10-06 11:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Casey M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we always want what we can't have. If you don't plan on dating, maybe you should make it clear again that you are just friends and leave it at that. Did you answer "Tuesday" to her question? That's where it probably came from.
2006-10-06 11:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all about status. When you dump someone or turn them down, you are lowering their status and they want it back. Likewise, when you hound a girl to go out with you, you showing her that her status is higher than yours and her interest level drops. That is why we try to be someone we are not, fake status. We always want to be with someone of greater or equal status.
It sucks to think of it that way, but it makes total sense.
2006-10-06 11:34:16 · answer #11 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋