There's this girl...?

Question

There's this girl I really like, but I'm kinda the shy type, and i don't know how to ask her out. (Note: shy, not insecure)

I've also been told some things about here that I'd really rather I hadn't been. I dont know if theyre true or if the guy who told me was just being evil, but if they are, they seem very out of character, and i'm wondering if maybe I don't know her as well as i thought I did.

I don't know if maybe she's not the person for me, but every time I even think of her going out with someone else, its like (to coin a phrase) it's like some beast awakens within my chest, and I get random bouts of emotion (I mean REALLY srong emotion at that)

Help, I'm so confused

Answer 1

Here is the question you ask yourself......

"If a woman asked me if I was free on Friday and wanted to go catch a movie or some dinner, how would I react?"

I'm pretty sure your reaction would be
a) You are flattered they asked you
b) Not a huge deal even if you declined the offer

Knowing this, I would hope you realize this is FAR more significant to you than it will be to her----just pose the question, don't make a big deal of it and maybe you'll be enjoying her company tonight!

With regards to your Buddy's comments about her----Don't allow a 3rd party to paint your picture. Have you considered that he may like the person too and is planting the seeds intentionally?

Answer 2

I think you should get to know her and judge for yourself.

How about asking her to go out for coffee? It's a good first date type of place because if there's not a connection, you're not stuck sitting there for hours like you would if it was dinner. It's also a more casual way to get to know someone. There's also no pressure to have a first kiss (or more I suppose) because there's no alcohol involved. Sometimes that type of pressure is what makes first dates so awkward.

Answer 3

Honey you need to just ask her out just suck it up and ask her sure you'll probably be nervous as hell but you'll thank yourself in the long run and as for what ever that guy told you you need to ask her if it's true because it might just be a lie and you never wanna assume so Ask her if it's true or not first then if you still wanna date her ASK HER OUT! really don't be shy just do it! get it over with before some one eles asks her out

Answer 4

when I first saw my husband we were both working at a grocery store and i thought he was cute so I started to ask other people about him and they told me that he had a girlfriend and that he is always at the bar drinking like every night. I almost didn't talk to him because of it but I did I said hi and asked if he had a girlfriend he said no and as for the bar not true either he went one night for his 21st b-day. so don't listen to other people. and as far as asking her out keep it simple ask if she would like to go grab a burger or ice cream after work/school and see what she says.

Answer 5

Could this guy want this girl for himself?,it could be why he is saying these awful things about her to put you off.

Ask some of her closer friends to tell you what she is really like, or you could just ask her out and find out for yourself.

Answer 6

hey i had the same happen to me,tho 4 me, he had already asked me out you know.we stayed in different towns,but i did my college in the same town wer most of his pals live,one of them was a friend to me before we even started dating,and he kind a liked me,and wen he heard i was dating his friend,he sayed alot of crap about me and pretended he knew me so much than my boyfrend did,he called a ****,all sorts of worse things.my boyfrend took it so much at heart he behaved the same way u do,wen all.... beliv me was bull,this guy was lying.so this guy is jst jealousy.i broke up with my boyfriend because of lies,dont do this to yourself,his just jealous

Answer 7

first of all,when it comes to the person you love......take 70% of what your heart thinks,20% of what your family thinks and let only 10% for your friends.......despite what they have told you about her,you have to understand that its in her past or that she's doin it without you in her life so that should not be the main issue...people change............and so might she for you....so take your time and talk to her.....tell her what you think of her and slowly but surely she will understand............
don't jus sit around and let love pass you by and in case she doesn't feel the same about you,atleast you tried and what's life without risks??? goodluck!!!

Answer 8

if i were you i would just ask her out, coz she can only say no, right. If the guy who told you the rumours is ur friend ask him more about it, but if he is someone you don't like don't listen to him and just ask her out!!

Answer 9

Take a cold shower

Answer 10

Get to know here and then you;ll find out what is true or not - simple as...