Help...Would you be concerned?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 years is going on a work related trip with another female. Just the two of them. They have worked together for years and she is like one of the guys. I have met her several times and like her, but I am getting worried. She is married and Ive been to her home as well. She is very outgoing and acts like one of the guys in many aspects. She is moderatley attractive but nothing special. I never worried about the 2 of them before but it is driving me nuts. She left him a message and stated he had a "sexy voice" in a joking manner yesterday. I have never felt threatned by her before-she makes perverted jokes like the guys and is not very feminine. But you never know. AND they are going to one of the party cities of the U.S. That is where the conference is. I know that part is legit, but Im sure they will be going out and partying too. I told my boyfriend it bothers me that he is going to that city but not so much that he is going with her. What should I do?

Answer 1

I would be kinda worried too simply just becuase its another female and they're going away together. I would feel a little jealous and that's perfectly normal...it doesn't have anything to do with trust or anything just the facy. But there's nothing you can do but to trust him and once you tell him how you feel about the situation, and if he love s you a lot he would know what to do or say to make you feel comfortable and assure you that nothing is ever going to happen between the two of them...Don't worry!

Answer 2

Your alarms are going off for a reason dear. Is there any way you can go on the trip, too? Even if you have to max out a credit card or something - I would NOT let them go alone. blah blah blah about you have to trust him if you love him - BULL TACOS!! My ex-husband worked in a male dominated industry & I thought he wouldn't ever stray - damned if there wasn't a female dump truck driver in his crew & even tho she had a boyfriend, she decided my man was gonna be hers! So no, you can't be too careful. You go along & protect your interests - tell him since he's going to "whatever" city, that you would LOVE to go along & see the sights, spend time with him away from home & show him a wild time!!! he won't be in conference 24/7 so when he's out, you need to be at his side. I'm sure I'll get some thumbs down on this one - but you know what? I've "been there done that" & I can tell you the truth - out of sight is out of mind with men & if he chooses to fool around, his reasoning will be that you would never know cos it was in another city. They don't make those "What happens in Vegas" commercials for nothin, ya know?! yes, you can trust & love your man, but don't be stupid with it - don't send him to party city usa with another woman. Good Luck - get your ticket!

Answer 3

watch this woman! trust me. my hubby of 16 years had an affair. 60% of men will have one, so don't think it cant happen to you. but it doesn't have to happen. make sure to tell your hubby how much you love him and are proud of him. And also tell him your a little worried, see how he reacts. This will be hard on you I know. i hope he has never given you a reason not to trust him, but you will have to and just hope that it all works out. I will pray that it does cause i wouldn't want anyone to go threw what i did. yes we are still together, this was 2 years ago, and it has been hard, but you will just have to have faith that he wont give in.

Answer 4

All I can say is follow your instincts. Do you honestly trust your boyfriend? If you can trust him then don't worry. If deep down you are not sure then maybe it is time to re-evaluate your relationship. Trust is very important in a relationship. I would like to say that if she is married then you have nothing to worry about but that doesn't seem to matter to too many peopole these days. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I think you meed to trust him and ensure you remind him that your the one he loves before he goes, (with a big kiss or anything you like).

There is a trust issue here and if you can get past it you can get past anything.

I have many female work pals but I wouldn't ever sleep with them, remind him of his career too and that it isn't a good idea to drink too much when he is away. This way he can maintain his wits, should all around loose theirs

Answer 6

You are feeling very insecure, you need to come to grips with yourself. You need to trust him, he and she has never given you any reason, to think this way, and why would she ruin her marriage, she has more to lose then your boyfriend, so get a whole of yourself. People can be friends and not go to bed together. So stop putting so much pressure on your boyfriend, and learn to have some fun, and make him want to hurry and get back to you. Cool out!!

Answer 7

You talked alot about her in your question but mentioned very little about your boyfriend. It doesnt matter what she does or says it is ultimately his choice as to wheter or not anything happens between the two of them. I can see where you would have some concern but if you trust your boyfriend then you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 8

Try to put a stop to your "little green monster." People who work together tend to have a relationship where they can joke and flirt, but never go further.

Most of his day is spent with this person, so it's only natural to develop a close friendship. Your only hurting yourself by obsessing over it.

Answer 9

You're overreacting! They're professionals forced to take a trip together. Don't be worried unless he gives you something to be worried about, k? Take a deep breath and enjoy your weekend.

Answer 10

Either grow up and learn to trust him and trust in his love and commitment to you or go with him.