the guy i lost my virginity had a girlfriend, but i really started to like him, now he want nothing to do with me.
2006-10-06 03:51:21 · 18 answers · asked by mzvirgo19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, I seriously doubt you actually love him. He is the first man you were with and there is a connection there and probably always will be, but it isn't love. I hate to say it, but you are probably feeling a little guilty for giving it up to him after you found out he was a dog. But don't be too harsh on yourself. We all make mistakes. That's how we learn.
2006-10-06 04:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got what he wanted and now it's time for him to move on....I know you've heard why buy the cow when u can get the milk for free. U are not in love with this guy, u just though he would choose you over his already existing girlfriend. As ladies we think if we give a man what he wants he'll give us what we want, but if you don't have that understanding at the beginning we seem to loose both ways. This may seem so unfair at the moment but, He said and did all the right things for the moment. it'll be hard in the beginning to move on because you lost something to someone that didn't feel the same way u did but u have to move on.......believe u me 1st times are ususall the worst one way or another.......good luck...........next time make sure a guy wants u for u not for what u can give him
2006-10-06 11:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can believe that you are in love with someone who doesn't love you because when you are physically intimate with someone it can lead to a feeling that you are emotionally intimate as well. For example, when you have sex your body releases a hormone called oxytocin which is often called the "bonding hormone." It's called that because it is what makes you want to cuddle and bond with the person that caused the rush of feeling. It's also produced when you breastfeed and after birth... SO you have sex... you feel this bonding hormone... and then you think... "wow, he's so nice... this feels so good, etc, etc, etc... Love however is a bit more complex than that... You chose who to love and the question to ask yourself is why it is easier to love someone who won't require an emotional commitment from you then to involve yourself in a equal give & take relationship... Sometimes it is easier to want something that isn't good for you then to actively work at something that is... Hopefully you'll decide not to waste your affection... good luck.
2006-10-06 11:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Virgo477 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know very well this kind of guys... u should forget about him even if it may be dificult... you losrt your virginity with him and had a good time or felt something deep so i know it won't be easy... there are two options. 1st is that he wanted to have a good time and that's all... 2nd he may like you but as he has a girlfriend he may be afraid of losing her because he loves her so he keeps you at a distance...
2006-10-06 10:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by venom7spider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ei if the guy doesnt want you af ter losing your virginty with him...MOVE on... yeah maybe its love but use your mind...sometimes after an itimate moment with someone(stranger, frend or wateva) we felt love...but come to think of it it.is it really love or maybe it is just a plus plus thing of your action... that kind of guy is not worth it of your love... so move on...use your mind not your foolish heart... before doing an act to avoid such unpleasant experiences.... learn from your mistakes and grow up with it...Godbless and good luck
2006-10-06 10:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it goes back to the fact that to women, love and sex are somewhat synonymous. Women tend to automatically feel an emotional connection to men they have sex with. Is it really love? I don't know.
I can gurantee you that he does not feel the same way towards you. It's best you try to get over it and move on.
2006-10-06 10:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great question. Why dont you tell us how you can be in love with someone that wants nothing to do with you, it makes no sense to me.
2006-10-06 10:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this honey its because all he wanted wat was in between you legs andhe got it and now that he had it he wants nothing to do with you he is a dog and hes gurl is a fool to stay with him he probably has been with her for a long time so dont think he is gonna leave her for you and dont think he is gonna like you cuz it is hopeless juss move on and make sure you avoid jerks like him and im sorry that happened to you honey if you want you can email me babynena53@yahoo.com
2006-10-06 10:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nena 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you have been used. Move on and find yourself a man that deserves you. Good Luck!
2006-10-06 11:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer you want to hear :
go for it! you have nothing else to lose anyway!
the answer you should know :
he's neither worth a brain cell nor a heart beat.
2006-10-06 11:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by jedi_rei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋