Ok. Say your husband or your boyfriend wanted to have anal sex but it goes against every thing you believe in (physically and morally). He says that if you love him you would do whatever to show him. He also says that he would do anything for you to show his love for you. Would you go against your belief or would you tell him to hit the road (even after 5 years of marriage or dating?)
2006-10-06 03:50:14 · 30 answers · asked by Marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If that was my man asking for anal sex, I'd be glad to experiment with him. But he would have to convince me that I will also benefit from it. Further, it would be a rare occurrence and not constant because anal sex loosens the elasticity of the rectum. You know what the implications are.... You should be happy he is not going elsewhere but is willing to talk to you about intimate things on his mind. Have a go but make sure you are comfortable with it...
2006-10-06 03:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 09:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by killeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know hitting the road over something like this can seem a little extreme. But if your husband/boyfriend knows this isn't something you wont to do. Then he should be ok with that. If he loves you as he says he doesn than he would never try to make you do something you don't wont to do. So it's hard to say. But if he's just gonna keep messing with you about it. And saying those childish things like if you love me you'd do it for me. Than yeah I'd drop him. Cuz ur supposed to love someone for who they are and what they stand for. Not for what you think you can change them into... Good luck!!!
2006-10-06 03:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it if you don't want to. Even after 5 years of dating. Don't go against your belief and stay strong to who you are. IF you give in to this What will be his next demand? And when will it stop? Sorry, but if he does not respect your wishes he does not respect YOU. Dump the loser. OR just say NO and see what he does.
2006-10-06 04:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by JustLynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why men feel like you have to bend to their wishes when you're married. Anal sex is not fun for everybody. My ex wanted to try it and my own personal curiosity allowed him to do so. But when we both saw that it was not a good experience for me, he let it go. I mean can you say Ow! He didn't like it when I shoved something up his _ss either. It's not worth it to degrade and physically hurt yourself to please someone who says they love you. If such a small thing is threatening to ruin 5 years of marriage, it's a question of wether he really loved you to begin with. If he wants to do you, he should let you do him first so that he can experience what he's asking you to do. Good luck.
2006-10-06 04:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy's position is pretty lame. He says he would do anything for you. If he really means that, maybe he could show his love for you by dropping the subject of anal sex.
As for the five years you have already spent with him, why throw good money after bad. I'd say cut your losses.
2006-10-06 03:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he'd do anything for you, than suggest that you stick something up his bum, and see how much he likes it. Hopefully that would kill any suggestions about doing that.
That, or he'd agree to it, and you're dealing with a real freak.
He really should respect your wishes. Real love is NOT about doing any weird thing that your partner may want. He should understand that. I don't necessarily think that you need to break up over it, but if he's willing to break up with you for not doing something that you're not morally comfortable with, then you should let him go. He doesn't really respect you.
2006-10-06 03:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, i may be a freak when it comes to that type of thing, but to tell you the truth i will not do it just to show that i love him. if i was to do it, it will be because i wanted to. if you feel like he is pressuring you to do something that you do not feel is right, then you should just not do it and let him know that if he loved you that he should show you by respecting your choices.
2006-10-06 03:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loaded question to me. Like the one partner is trying to convince the other to do something that he knows she doesn't agree with. I have nothing against this form of participation if both parties are willing. But to try and persuade a woman with the old line "if you loved me you'd..." is plain and simple horseshit.
2006-10-06 03:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unn uhh girl stick to your belief...if he loves you he wil lunderstand and it can't be that serious for him to leave you for that. Tell him there are other options...like the hole in the front :) And if he doesn't want that then you have something to think about...
2006-10-06 03:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋