Should I be concerned about?

Question

I was bathing my son and my sisters son both are seven. My sisters son has a larger penis than my sons plus he is very circumcised. I noticed my son eying his penis when he thought I wasnt looking. When I came back in the bathroom after letting them play in the tub some, my son had his foreskin pulled back which kind of snapped in behind the rim. He said that he wanted his to look like Kevins. I didnt know what to say so I said nothing. It didnt seem to hurt him in any way. My sister said to just leave him alone and let him keep it that way or consider having him circumcised.
Could this hurt him in any way or should we not let the bathe together in the future and hope he forgets about this. How do I handle this?

Answer 1

I don't think there is anything wrong, but it would have been better if you took the time to explain to your son that everybody's body is unique. You could have explained circumsion in simple terms and told him that some boys are and some boys aren't because their parents have made different choices, just like parents have different rules for playing outdoors and bedtime, etc. It's just my opinion, but since there is a little body curiousity going on, it might be time for the boys to quit playing together in the nude.

Answer 2

Little boys have been sizing one another up since time began, and that's nothing new to worry about. No, your son can't hurt himself by retracting his foreskin. It would hurt long before he could do any damage and he'd quit for one thing. Actually, he should be retracting the foreskin back all the way behind the head to clean and wash himself, each day at least.
You need to have a basic biology lesson with your son. First you need to explain the difference in appearance- which he has already noticed. Do it straight forward, and use the proper words. He has more foreskin on his penis than his cousin because he was not circumcised and his cousin was. Explain that all boys are born that way, and it's done when they are babies if the parent want it done. You decided it wasn't needed, so his was not cut. If he asks about the size difference, or if you think it needs to be addressed, simply explain that people are not the same size and everyone is different. His cousin may be bigger now, but that doesn't mean anything because they are both still growing. Most men end up the same size anyway- regardless of how they start off.
I don't suggest circumcision at this point unless it is medically necessary. It's not a simple surgery, and it is extremely painful for men and boys past infancy.
I would not get too excited about the boys discovery or comparison. I wouldn't make anything of it at all. There's no reason why the boys can't bathe or swim together in future, as that will certainly make him feel something is wrong and you're not telling him about it. There is nothing wrong, with either boy, and certainly nothing wrong with yours. Just relax. They all peek at one another- it's a guy thing. Us girls do it to- remember the locker room in junior high? All that attention about who was wearing what size bra? Same thing with the boys, only they look to see whats in the athletic supporter. All normal all natural. Let it pass without making it a big deal. Just off hand teach the biology and make sure he knows to keep it clean. Let the rest go.
By the way, I know all this because I was a medic for 12 years in the Air Force, taking care of a squadron full of guys. Then I went on to have 3 boys and 3 girls. And every one of them peeked!

Answer 3

I wouldn't be to concerned. Thats pretty normal in young boys to look at each others penis. Altho your son may feel different because he looks different or could be the other way around and the circumcised boy may feel different because his is different from your sons.
I have twins and thats one reason I had them both circumcised, so they would both look the same even tho one of my sons has a tighter more pronounced look than the other.
I have known guys that were not circumcised and the foreskin stayed retracted all the time so I dont think it will hurt him, but better talk to your Dr. to be sure.

Answer 4

Tough Question!! Do what you as mom feels comfortable doing. Maybe it will just pass, and you will not have to do any explaining. Every male is Different and I think in time he will learn that. The older they get the better the question's get. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

To me I always thought that gettn circumsized was a good thing but it depends on what u wana do because I am tryna find out if I am pregnant and I don't kno wat to do besides got to the doctor and I still haven't told my dad. My mom don't live with me and I have been havin some very unusual things happening to me for abot a week or two. Can you write me back plz. And about your son i think you should do wateva feels best

Answer 6

If they are both 7, they are getting too old to bathe them together. Just let him know that both his and his cousin's are normal, but different, and leave it at that.

Answer 7

Children are naturally curious. I'm assuming that his father is also uncircumcised? So he probably has never seen a circumcised penis before.

I wouldn't worry about it, at 7 he is just thinking / experimenting. Don't think you need to go to drastic scenarios re. getting him circumcised just yet.

He's just a little boy.....

Answer 8

Curiosity is normal. Of course, it's gonna hurt if you decide to have it done but the health benefits are better. Uncircumcised is very hard to keep clean.

Answer 9

you should give your kid a private bath , he is not young now, maybe he will not forget about what happened, but he have to deal with it some how, its not a big problem, I think everyone of us had his own old memories about sexual situations he had in his childhood