Women who date "just for the free Meal"?

Question

How can you tell that a girl just wants to eat with you just for the meal she's getting for free? I can't stand women like that! They make you think they like you, wink at you, and all they're doing is hustling a free meal. Any tips ladies on how to combat this?
What I do is eat before a date or tell em I dont eat full meals after 6pm. I'm down to spend money but not for some hungry girl who's not gonna return the phone call after the date. ( I"M NOT CHEAP)
I'm a tall attractive black male, 6'1, dreds, business owner and in my 30's. I shouldn't be dealing with this with women my age.

Answer 1

ur date is a disdgrace to womanity....
hey thnx for the laughs...
are u the black version of mr. bean?
i think what u shld
do is bring a home cooked meal with u, n let her eat that outside while ur eating ur caviar inside the resto..
and once ur done with ur meal, u can ask her in...

Answer 2

I hate to be the one to tell you this but....

1. There have been times when I have gone on a date and the only thing that went well was the "free meal" however since I'm employed luckily I can get another meal without the poor company.

2. Your question implies that you have a lot of preconceptions about women which probably is easily picked up by any reasonably intelligent woman who would not want to subject herself to that kind of person again... hence no 2nd date

3. This "free" meal that you are talking about is not in any way free. When I am at work I get paid for the effort that I put into my responsibilities... on this date my "responsibilities" are to look good (so factor the cost of the outfit, make-up, accessories, products like perfume or lotion, any grooming like waxing or nails or hair, etc all so that you will have something pretty to look at across that dining table), to provide interesting conversation (meaning that I have read books, newspapers, or magazines which I have most likely paid for), AND to keep you engaged & entertained. My job pays me per hour to do the same thing for clients and what is a date if not a job interview for the position of "girlfriend/boyfriend".

And lastly...

I'm sorry that you have had these bad experiences with women however the only constant in this equation is you... look into what it is you are presenting to these women that make you feel that you are somehow being used. It may be that you give the perception that you are "owed" something for the date as opposed to it being time shared to learn more about each other while having a good time. And if you have to lie on a first date to avoid paying for a meal maybe you shouldn't be looking for a relationship because how long will you mislead her? How do you think she'll feel when she finds out that you really do eat meals after 6 you just wasn't sure if she was worth the meal at first? I also can commensurate with you, I am also in my thirties and encounter people that I feel should have outgrown some of their issues already but dating is about searching for that person who is right for you... and every journey has bumps in the road... Good luck in your search...

Answer 3

I have never heard of a women going out on a date for a free meal. Are you dating poor women ? or is this something black women do ? I would say the best way to combat this is to make the first date for coffee and perhaps the second date for drinks. Other than that I would say choose women with a job who can afford to feed themselves dinner. And are you sure that's what's happening ? Maybe they just decide after the first date that you guys dont gel and your thinking its for a free meal ????

Answer 4

For a first date, take her somewhere that can be played off as "romantic" like a walk on the beach or at the park or something. Keep the first date more casual and that also helps to relax both people. Then go for dinner on the second date.

*Make sure she knows that you aren't going to be eating on the first date so she gets something herself.

You might ask her out saying that you have to work late Friday, but would she like to go for a Saturday afternoon bike ride, walk on the beach, or park. Then, if things are going well, you can extend the date into dinner.

Answer 5

Dude, the "free meal" is actually compensation for her company and the opportunity to get to know her better. If they are not returning your phone calls after the first date, it's because they either have decided they don't like you, or for whatever reason, you didn't hit it off.

If it happens often, you need to get with your buddies or a female friend to find out what you are doing wrong.

Answer 6

My boyfriend in elementary words takes me out on dates even as he funds. I instructed him i do not care about that...that i'd fairly bypass to the park and run round or bypass to a museum or some thing, yet he in simple terms would not get it. He thinks you want to spend funds as a fashion to have relaxing. And even as that's authentic often times, that's no longer authentic each and every of the time. I wish he'd take me trekking as a date in some unspecified time sooner or later...:/ Hell, i will in simple terms take HIM on a date. That way i'm getting to do what I truly have needed. :P

Answer 7

Then stick to women who won't do that to you. And excuse me, not all women are looking for a free meal. I for once even give guys money so probably it has to do with your person.

If all's said and done and you still can't get a girl who is not after your pocket, be a monk.

Answer 8

Hey, just ask a woman out for a drink, or something to that nature...

it might be YOU ... and you need to consider the fact that if you are repetitively getting NO SECOND DATES...it's probably not ... the female with the "issue"... but something that you are doing that is turning them off.

You're question appears as if you've already got a "chip on your shoulder"... and that, my friend, will reflect in your personality.......and IS A TURNOFF...

Answer 9

ANNA quit spamming!

Answer 10

send me and email at [e-mail] and i can explain it all to you. i have a few friends that are that way.