Im 21 years old girl, and having have been working and going college and doing the best for myself, I still live at home, but have put up with so much pain from my mum, have tried running away, although this is difficult ,she shouts so much at me for no reason what so ever and uses abuses words towards me, Ive complained about her , and have been given some numbers , even if someone calls for me at my door she gets scared and stays back, today she was again starting on the bad words at me, so for the first time I said to her that ,im gonna call on someone on her, and went in my room , she was mouthing off and live on your own someone rape you nasty words like that to , but she didnt dare enter my room and say anything to me, she even started swearing at my brothers, so there could say oh she swears at us too, they were also angry at her behavour although she loves shouting at me behind thier backs if possible, but when I said im gonna call someone, she gone all good with me, what d
2006-10-06 03:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have never done nothing wrong always listen to her and be good and she says nasty and wrong things to me , now for the first time I said like this she behaved good with me, if I didnt say this she would have even more said bad things to me
2006-10-06 03:43:11 · update #1
you are so right SundaeG1rl i too think she said the rape thing so i wouldnt leave becasue i have tod her i want to leave and looking for a place
2006-10-06 04:02:47 · update #2
You are 21, get out! I see absolutely zero reason for you to feel the need to stay there. You are an adult, it isn't your mothers place to keep you up any longer. Yes she sounds like a complete mental case, and you should try to get help for her, but it honestly doesn't sound like she wants the help, so your beating a dead horse with that one. Find a roommate, find an affordable apartment, if you go to college aren't there dorms there? If you are miserable in your situation, and it sounds like you are, you will find a way to get out. No matter what she has said to you, you are worth it, and you can do it. Noone says its easy, but noone says it isn't worth it either. Good Luck Sweetie, and get out!
2006-10-06 03:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, sounds like your mum needs help. She sounds like she's brewing depression or similar mental problem. Also, is is menopausal? Because that is the kind of thing that sends women bonkers.
Trust me, my mum was a f*cking fruitloop when I was living at home, she was a nutter who a) didn't understand me, b) hated it if someone came round to call (and you never had any privacy), c) read my diary, d) gave me a good old-fashioned battering on occasion, etc etc. She threw me out @ 18, then started giving my sister sh*t.
I would say sod her, move out. She's playing mind games with you, saying all that rape stuff because she's afraid you really will leave. Call her bluff and get out, then call Social Services and make sure your brothers are safe. Also call your doctor and explain the situation - they might do a home visit if she won't go to them...
2006-10-06 10:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar up bringing my mum wasn't well either,she never got treatment just buried her head in the sand. I left when I was 18 I'm 34 now and she hasn't changed she's gone worse.So much so that I haven't had much contact in the last 12yrs.My dad was under the thumb and he was no help at all.Tell social services about your siblings and get yourself out of that negative situation,I wish you all the luck and if you ever need to speak to me more email me,take care.
2006-10-06 11:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out,and as soon as you can.
There is no good to come of living in such a destructive enviroment.
make a home for yourself where you can feel safe and proud of yourself.
And make sure your brothers are safe,if nothing lese you having a place of your own would give them somewhere to escape to.
2006-10-06 11:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call social services and get yourself and your mum some help. She is obviously not well and she is going to make you all unwell in the process. Do something for all of you now before it is too late.
2006-10-06 10:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 21 maybe its time you moved out and got away from your mom. Maybe she will mellow some if not maybe a good dr can help. Good luck
2006-10-06 10:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move out and get ur own place...you don't deserve the on and off abuse you get from ur mother. I also think you guys would probably have a better relationship if you were to get out - sometimes it be's like that...
2006-10-06 10:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor; maybe they can steer you in the right direction.
2006-10-06 10:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like depression to me. try and get a doctor around to see her.
2006-10-06 12:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by amy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go .... now
go now .... go
2006-10-06 10:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋