This question is for the people who have been dating for ever and a day.
2006-10-06 03:33:38 · 9 answers · asked by :o) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The situation is we have been dating 6 years. I Love him he loves me but we argue. Everyday I try to earn his love but sometimes moods clash. I feel like each argument sets me back and then it's good thing we aren't married. Neither of us wants to leave. I just feel like I am earning my way.
2006-10-06 03:38:37 · update #1
I don't think that you can earn your way to marriage. I think you either get it or you don't
2006-10-06 03:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't just stop with dating. I have been married 18 years and try to earn her love every day. So far it seems to be working out for us.
2006-10-06 10:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not in the sense you probably mean. My last relationship lasted 5 years and I kept thinking that if I was a loving, helpful or whatever enough girlfriend, he'll want to marry me because I do so much for him. It doesn't work like that. I finally left that relationship when I realized we wanted 2 fundamentally different things out of life. I wanted to share my life and love with someone who wanted to do the same, while he wanted someone to love when he felt like doing that-on his terms and his terms alone. That just wasn't good enough for me.
When I started dating my current BF, I was very straightforward with him & said I am in this for the long term, and my goal is to get married and be a part of a family, and I don't mean now or even this year, I'm just saying this is what I want out of life and if you don't, that's alright, but I just don't want to date someone for the heck of it. I'm not dating to have someone to eat dinner with. We've been on the same page from day 1 and I think that's helped us tremendously.
2006-10-06 10:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't EARN your way into someone's heart, or make them buy you a rock along with a piece of paper stating you own each other. You can earn someone's trust, love, or respect, but you can't earn the right to MAKE someone marry you.
2006-10-06 10:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something given not earned. If you feel this way then maybe you should start a "Marriage Union" and file a grievance. They all seem to think they are owed something.
2006-10-06 10:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by DS143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, to earn is not to love.
2006-10-06 10:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is given, not taken, proven, earned, etc. Give him your love and trust you will get love.
2006-10-06 10:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is not earned. it is agreed on by both parties. if you think you have earned it, then you have screw loose
2006-10-06 10:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have LOVE there first dear.
2006-10-06 10:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋