she broke up with me 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me
2006-10-06 03:18:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended . .and we broke up for no reason at all . . she said she wanted to date around . . . . but she has been with the same person . . .i guess i just want to know what she wants . . i know what i have to do . . .but i really still love her . . . but i want to know what she wants because im not gonna contact her unless i know for sure what she wants so i dont get hurt again
2006-10-06 03:19:06 · update #1
Continue to ignore her calls. Do not talk to her at all. If she shows up at your doorstep and you have not talk to her then that is considered stalking. If you talk to her when she calls than she thinks that she has a slight chance to get you back. If you are like me, once that door is shut there is no need to go back.
2006-10-06 03:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is she's not sure what she wants so she needs you to still be there just in case things don't work out between her and the other guy. She's jerking you around and it's not right. You got hurt enough and you'll only be hurt more. I think you're doing the right thing not contacting her. You can't instantly be friends with someone you loved and shared an intimate relationship with. All you do is get your hopes up and then get let down over and over again. My ex is doing the same thing and he's getting married but he still calls and rides by my house, invites me to lunch and buys me things. He doesn't care that he's just breaking my heart all over again. Stay away from her, trust me, as your heart starts to heal, you'll be glad you let her go. Good luck.
2006-10-06 03:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she didn't start this until you stopped trying to get back with her, right? Maybe she wants you to chase after her and be miserable while she gets her ego pumped. If this is so, she doesn't care about you at all. I would change my number or tell her to screw off. She doesn't deserve you or anyone else for that matter. Sounds like she needs to see a psychiatrist to find out why she needs her ego boosted and not being able to be by herself. Good luck.
2006-10-06 03:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't the answer yo uwant to hear but MOVE ON for your own good she doesn't know what she wants but she wants you to be her back up incase things don't work out with this guy she probably isn't happy but she wouldn't have went to the drastic measure of actually leaving you if she wasn't going to be able to leave again the minute she thinks she can get something better!!
2006-10-06 03:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...so like you, I think a small part of her still has feelings for you and unless you are ready to possibly go down that road with her again I wouldn't even bother with it. Don't put your self into a position to get hurt again. Trust me I did with my ex and screwed over really bad.
2006-10-06 04:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by MLP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as a soreness in the butt as this is... i could replace your cellular telephone #... She figures if she keeps calling you that it will avert you from shifting on...She may additionally think of that if she calls you each and every of the time if could scare off different skill females your attempting to get with.. she does not choose you to forget approximately her and because your no longer chatting along with her it is driving her loopy.. i do no longer think of this is a good option to be buddies with an ex..
2016-10-18 22:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by genthner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋