Just wondering how common this is an whether I should start thinking about settling down with someone. I am an attractive female and still get looks from younger men, but I am just so afraid to settle down with one.......what should I do??
2006-10-06 03:17:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Numbers are just numbers - they shouldn't have any "power' in and of themselves. Numbers divisible by ten seem especially important in our culture. Don't pay any attention to what you think you should be doing if it's based on what you think someone else thinks you should do. You will know if and when it is right to get married. Don't let your age get into your decision.
In other words, you don't need to use the word "problem" to describe your situation.
2006-10-06 03:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by doug k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle just to settle. That's misery!! Please don't do that. Too many people are in relationships only because they are afraid of growing old alone. That is no reason to be in a relationship. Relationships are hard, sometimes much harder that being single.
It seems like you have your head on your shoulders enough to know that you can take care of yourself until the right person comes around. Just have faith, if that is what you want, but don't let it stop you from living your own life.
My aunt was 40 and a professional, never wanted kids, etc... until all at once, it hit her. She jumped too fast, got married and had two kids before she realized that her husband had been in prison most of his life for murder and child molesting-- he's in prison now again for a drug deal gone wrong and for shooting a cop-- and he "seemed like such an upstanding, nice man!!!!!"
2006-10-06 10:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Realmstarr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
46 and not counting. I've had close calls. I think some people are just wired that way and there's nothing wrong with it. There are plenty of valid arguments for not introducing more little squirming humans into the world (ha!). I figure if I run into that irresistible force I'm more likely this time around but it doesn't spend much time on the front burner. I don't really care that it makes some people wonder, most of those people would be wondering about some other aspect of my life anyway. Follow that little voice that tells you the truth.
2006-10-06 10:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are single and you are asking someone if you should settle sounds like you are not the settling type. What would your reason be now? Most people want to have one partner in life because they choose to and enjoy having to share life with someone and maybe want to have kids and the family and the whole bit. If you don't want it ..you should not. Sounds like you don't want to be with one man so then you should just keep doing what you are doing cause you are comfortable with it. why make a man miserable if you live the way you want to live with more than one man?
2006-10-06 10:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't marry 'til I was 37. I still get looks and comments and sometimes think maybe i shoulda stayed in the game. Then again i wonder what it would be like to be old and single........yech!
2006-10-06 10:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by jose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a problem?
If you think it is, maybe you should do some introspection.
I recommend Barbara Sher's books. She has various titles, but they have similar themes, and maybe you can find some answers.
2006-10-06 10:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Iridium190 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to meet more people, make some friends, involved in knew things, write me if you want, good luck
2006-10-06 10:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by jav3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call that a problem? Marriage is not all that fun:)
2006-10-06 10:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by AQHA34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should stay free
2006-10-06 10:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋