A friend of mine from high school is getting married, and her bridal shower is in a week. I already planned to make her some jewelry for a gift, but I asked my mom if that was okay and she suggested that nowadays, bridal shower gifts should be for both the bride and groom. Is this true? It's hard for me to get a gift for the bride AND groom, since I have never met the groom, and after getting married in the states, they will be moving to London, so all gifts must be very small. I can't think of a lot of "couples" gifts that are small enough to pack on a plane.
Any advice?
2006-10-06 03:00:12 · 23 answers · asked by Amaunette 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
One thing I did for a friend of mine who is getting married for her shower was I went and got a recipe book that you can write in your favorite recipes. You can usually get one of these types of books at a larger bookstore (Barnes and Noble, Borders, etc). Then they can add all their favorite recipes as they celebrate their marriage together... all in one neat, organized recipe book! It still speaks as a bride's gift, but what groom doesn't like a good recipe... if it is cooked for him?
2006-10-06 03:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the wedding gift should be for both the bride and groom, the shower gift can be something for the brides household, or something personal for her. You can definitly give the bride the gift you made her. Jewelry=perfect shower gift.
Some showers nowdays are for both the bride and groom, but it will say so on the invite. I even saw someone here talk about a traditional shower for the groom! Not a bachelor blast, a shower!
The wedding gift is for both of them. Since they are moving soon, money in a card would be a perfect gift, and probably much appreciated.
Have a good time at the wedding!
2006-10-06 05:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It use to be that a bridal shower was for the bride. Friends came together and gave her gifts like nighties, sexy undies, and some funny gifts. Later, gifts became more of household items, i.e. sheets, towels, kitchen items. It depends on if you plan on buy a wedding gift. If you do, a gift for her only is what you should give. When it comes to the wedding gift, give something that will not wear out and be thrown away after a few years. Crystal and silver are always a gift that last and will be passed down through generations. Have fun with your friend while she is still here and try to visit her in London.
2006-10-06 03:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it should. Not unless you're talking about lingeree for the bride to be, which the groom will most certainly benefit from. The bridal shower is for the woman. Wedding gifts, given at the wedding or during the reception is where you'd get gifts for both.
2006-10-06 03:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually bridal shower gifts are given to be enjoyed by both the bride and the groom, so I'd give something small for the home (even a gift certificate to someplace where they can buy things once they get settled would be acceptable) and then give her the jewelry as a separate gift just for her - privately.
2006-10-06 03:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if it's a personal bridal shower or a regular bridal shower. If it's a personal shower with just close friends and relatives, something for the bride alone is fine. If it's the other, I usually try to buy something the couple can use in their home, like a nice towel set. Since they will be moving away, something particular to the state the bride is from would be suitable. My cousin got married and moved to another area and I got her a plate and mug set with the tartan that represents our area. Since they're going all the way to London though I'd stick with something unbreakable.
2006-10-07 10:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bridal shower gift is only for the bride. The wedding gift is for the couple. If you want to make the groom a gift and you make jewelry, make him some cool cuff links.
2006-10-06 03:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by damisaunders@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. The groom will get plenty at his bachelor party. It is completely acceptable for a bridal shower gift to be just for the bride. Save the gifts that are for both of them for the actual wedding, and don't worry about offending anyone. Believe me, that groom will be nowhere in the vicinity when the gift is given anyhow, and I doubt he'll be interested to see all the pretty presents her girlfriends gave her at the shower.
2006-10-06 03:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a bridal shower cos they don't give groomal showers. It's just not a man thing...She's a BRIDE and that's why it's a bridal shower. I give gifts for BOTH because she wouldn't be a bride without the groom! Pretty much common sense. A gorgeous picture frame for a wedding photo would be lovely and you can't fail there. They make wedding photo boxes, also. It's what my daughter chose and it's what I got her! BOTH can enjoy that and it's small enough for transport.
2006-10-06 03:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jan O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally a shower before the wedding is called a Bridal Shower. The couple generally register for gifts, and it is appropriate to choose a gift from their registry. Unless you are a close friend and would like to surprise the bride-to-be with something more personal, such as lingerie.
Sometimes people host a Couple's Shower---to which men are invited and they are usually themed. For instance gifts for the outdoors: barbecue grill/lawn and garden tools, etc. Couples' showers are generally unpopular because men hate the idea of a attending one!
Since the shower in honor of your friend appears to be a traditional one, I suggest finding out where she is registered
2006-10-06 03:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by catherine02116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give a gift for either just the bride or the bride and groom. A small gift that would fit on a plane hmmm maybe you should just give them money this way they can get what they need when they get to london.
2006-10-06 03:12:46 · answer #11 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋