i also seem to run when things get serious, is there any good advise u could me or have i got no hope in love!!!
2006-10-06 02:56:28 · 22 answers · asked by X.hel.X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if it doesnt feel right then why force yourself
2006-10-06 02:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel this way because of what you have went through with past relationships or life in general. You have trust issues when it comes to men, and you don't want to be hurt. The most important thing your looking out for is your heart right now, and you freeze up or just don't want to take the risk once things reach a certain point. Love and life is about risks. Everyday you walk out your home you take a risk. In everything you do no matter how big or small there is a risk involved. It may not seem thit way, but it's true. At some point you have to let your guard down and just take that risk. There is not telling how many great guys you have missed out on that could have been great for you or would have truly respected you and treated you well. You will never have a good man if you continue in this path. Give the next great guy you meet a chance and let things unfold and get serious if it leads to that. Have your guard up until he proves to you that he's earned your trust and full love. You have hope were love is concerned, you just need to let go of this fear you have. If not you will never have the man that was meant for you. Take care!!!
2006-10-06 10:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Internally your probably not mature enough to be in a relationship. Your a shelfish person(No offense). So not realizing that when you **** up a relationship your hurting the other person. Maybe you might be afraid of getting hurt from something you witness or seen other people go through. It really has to do with the kind of person you are. You'll find the right person sooner or later. It takes time though. But you also don't want to past up on that right person either. If you need more advice hit me up at ninotyhol@yahoo.com and that goes for anybody else
2006-10-06 10:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by nino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're young, it's normal to be afraid of committment. You have a life to live and there are many options out there, but you need to go with your gut instincts. If you love someone, put 100% into the relationship ONLY if they are too. It has to be 2 sides. Always be honest and upfront. If you're not ready to be serious with someone, then tell them that to avoid future arguments or hurt. You have hope. Just listen to your heart. When you meet the right one, you'll know!
2006-10-06 10:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're afraid of committing due to either getting hurt or you're simply not ready for a "real" relationship with that person. If it's cuz you don't wanna get hurt, sometimes you just have to throw caution in the wind and go for it. The reward of being with someone you love and who loves you is well worth the risk. If you're not ready, then keep the relationship simple until you're ready or find someone who you will want to commit to.
2006-10-06 10:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is usually the reaction from someone who has been hurt before or seen others hurts due to failed relationships... let me put it this way, when you see a Old Couple still very much in-love, does it make you feel as if you want that? If so, you're going to have to that step into the unknown.
Just remember, your choices are half chance, so are everybody elses
2006-10-06 10:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
were you ever hurt in any of your past relationships and because of that now you run away from guys. let your past go as every relationship does not have the same fate.
Even otherwise don't be tough on yourself. may be you haven't met the right one for you. When that will happen you will have no doubts what so ever. good luck :)
2006-10-07 12:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
duuuh pllz dont do that to urself!
u act like my crush, he's afraid of being in a relationship & u have no idea how much tht hurts!!
come on, girl, u got nothing to lose! if things work out the relationship will give u everything u need, and if it fails, still u wont lose anything! on the contrary u'll gain a new experience...so come on go 4 it...it's fantastic to be in a relationship...u'll c tht 4 urself! :)
2006-10-06 10:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Drowned in English! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me babe - the thing i'm scared of is it going wrong and i always think the worst first - It's like i'm waiting for it to happen. And you feel like it's too good to be true!! The only thing you can do is take it as it comes don't panic just enjoy - if it goes wrong it wasn't meant to be - But at least ya gave it a shot - Eh?
2006-10-06 10:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by dudet_Jude: ) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its scary and sometimes it ends in heart break which in not a great feeling. So its natural, but at the same time your missing out on feeling one of the great feelings out there: love. Sometimes you just have to take that chance, if its what you want.
Next time just take that chance, dont fall too hard, but take that chance because it may be the best thing that ever happen to you.
2006-10-06 09:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just don't want commitment (could be an age thing) or you're holding on to some hurt of the past. but my advice would be to know what love means to you, define love in your words & idea, give that love........and I promise you'll get it back.
2006-10-07 10:50:29 · answer #11 · answered by Brains7733 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋