my ex calls me up all the sudden saying that he wanted me back and everything..saying that he was sorry for ever treating me like sh!t, and all this..ive told him no,,,but he says that he wants one more chance..thing is he left me high and dry the last time i was with him..so im asking was he just using me to take up some time or is he really wanting me back??
2006-10-06 02:53:35 · 18 answers · asked by *~Angel_Eyes~* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, what I find is that long term relationships survive on a foundational friendship. Your partner should be happy when you are happy and be there as a support when things get rough. You should enjoy each other's company, just for the sake of being with that person, and have some good times and laughter. And be best friends.
One day you will relize that the relationship has gone to a higher level. You will see this person through the eyes of Love. You will be crazy for their good attributes, and able to forgive their faults. This "in love" feeling ebbs and flows in long term relationships and the love that binds is based in friendship and respect.
Ask yourself if this person is deserving of you. Is he someone you can respect? Do others percieve him as worthy of you? Does he treat you kindly and with respect? It should be an honor to introduce your man to family and friends....do you feel honored?
It's really not up to him, is it? It's your choice. Be your own best friend and do what you would advise your dearest friend to do. In the end your future man will truly respect how you respected yourself for his sake. Be friends with your friends and be stingy about who you choose to have intimate relationships with. It's ok to be single, and free, and independent. Learn to make right decisions that do not bring you pain.
2006-10-09 04:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? That makes a big difference.
Under 28...don't go back with him. If your ex is generally responsible, and has led a responsible past, many men reach a point where they evaluate where they are in life. That comes between 28 and 40. They often make decisions about relationships around that time, and decide they want to get married, a serious relationship, kids....etc.
If he is under 27, the relationship is best left as history. He probably has a motive for getting back with you that only serves himself. You just have to decide based on your past with him.
2006-10-06 03:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no definite answer to that. I would say take him back and if he keeps up his shitty ways then dump his *** and tell him its over once and for all. He may have realised he made a mistake and really misses you. Or maybe he just likes the idea of having a girlfriend again. Either way, give him one more chance to change his ways.
2006-10-06 02:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For once I have read answers that had sense and respect in them than ever before!!! All of you deserve stars since you have bn sincere and open with your answers!!
Gal, with all these good answers, am sure you will now be in a position to decide if to take him back or not and how to go about it if you decide to take him back!!!
The ball is in your court and we all wish you the best dear! Remember, it's your heart you are hanging on this thin line called love and its this same line that can decide to chock that love so take care!
2006-10-06 03:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by clueless j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely not. I'm sorry but whether or not he is sorry for what he has done before to you....it doesn't excuse him for anything. Now..if you have heard your ex tell you the same story about .....i will change....never do it again....and so forth....that is totally not so true. Most guys really mean what they say.....but 95% they are just wanting to cover up their mistakes and hoping the same doesn't repeat.
So tough call.....but I wouldn't do it....besides you deserve better.
Take care and Good luck!
2006-10-06 03:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by cool_dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to get more and leave you high and dry again. Don't fall for it the second time. He had you and he made his choice. You are better than that and do not need him. You can do better and not have to worry if he will leave you again. I recommend against taking him back.
2006-10-06 02:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling. Don't get back with him just because you are lonely or feeling sorry for either yourself or him. I would be super wary of committing to him again after he hung you out to dry. If you want to try again, I would recommend taking it super slow so that you don't get your heart put through the blender again.
2006-10-06 02:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy obviously doesnt take u seriously coz he thnks he can call u out of the blue for a BOOTY CALL..all that sh*t he is saying is jst to get you to give him sum sugar..if he has left u once wats stopping him frm leaving a second time??
2006-10-06 02:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by missthang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv had an experience like this, and trust me if he can leave u like that once he will do it again. I couldnt believe i was stupid enough to give my ex a chance.
2006-10-06 02:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be a better judge on what he did to you. From what I gather, you do not deserve to be disrespected and he surely took your love and respect for him for granted. You deserve better. Don't let him back into your life. Be a friend, but not a lover...
2006-10-06 02:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋