What Wisdom Did You Learn From Your Grandparents???

Question

Let's try this again. If you posted a memory that was deleted, you may certainly repost. There were some moving answers to my previous question.

Thank you.

momofmodi.....that's a wonderful memory

Kathryn B.....I never mention religion.

Kathryn B...the only reason this even bothered me (I get deleted all the time) is that everyone took the time to type out really detailed, heartwarming stories. It seems so unfar to THEM. Every story was a tear jerker, and they deserved to remian on this board.

piraterachel...OMG..I would have loved to have been there! Everyone should have a grandmother like that. Lmao.

Answer 1

None they passed before I was born, but they were good hard working farmers, mule and plow by the way. They never became rich with money, but always had shelter and food as good catholics, the women and children went to church on Sunday by horse & buggy they didn't have a car and the men rested and drank wine, the men only went to church for specifi reason, like palm sunday, blessing of the crop and such, they stayed clean and had manners, also the children, My mother thought all 10 us that as I am the youngest and we were also cajun, so a little crazy, like to party but also new we had responcibilty to ourself to do for ourself

Answer 2

My older relatives told great pirate stories cuz they were from Barbados and passed down the old stories. You being a follower of that 2005 group must have a little interest in that but they are long and many times grewsome of lude. Here is one thing I noted about the stories. They had a code. Many politicians and power brokers of today would have walked the plank under that code, Also there would not be such disparity in the distribution of the spoils under their system.

An interesting point I noticed when reviewing the records from both sides of my family is that marriages often had a great diffenece in spouses ages. Only one had the woman as older. Some gaps as large as 42 years and yet these seemed to be infulencial elders, first the male who died leaving a woman with weath, and she being the strong in her generation. There were many marriages where the girl was under 15, and I was told that was common in those days. So what did I learn. Laws can not always be righteous since they have often disagreed with themselves in different generations. Pirating in the beginning was patriotic latter not so much.

The best thing passed on to me was the idea that the very young can not be spoiled by loving them too much. Disapline starts at 8 and is a valuable tool for survival and success. The fact that men at about 40 get attracted to very young women is genetic not psychological or perversion but a direction implanted for the perpetuation of the species, and last but not least that while the younger have the children it works better if the older raise thaem while the young spend time with each other enjoying their youth and this should be passed on generation to generation through the extended family born in and of agape type love.

Answer 3

I suppose that I indirectly learned kindness from my grandmother, as she was abusive towards my mother, which in turn caused my mother to be kind to me. (Mom not wanting to be anything like her own mother.) I didn't really know any of my grandparents.

I'm wondering if your previous question got reported because you didn't mention religion or spirituality in your question. Just a thought -- it's hard to tell what goes on in the bowels of YA.

Edit - what I mean by mention is "allude to" in some way, but perhaps I'm totally off track with this one since evolution questions always seem to "fly" here. Anyway, sorry the Q got deleted. YA works in mysterious ways.

Answer 4

1) Education is relative. (My 8th grade educated Gpa ran his own HVAC business)

2) Marriage is a holy sacrament...a covenant which is forever (My grandparents had problems like every other married couple, but they stuck it out for about 60 years until they passed away)

3) Hold you children accountable and you will have responsible children (All three of their children went on to be quite successful in their careers....ironically, all went to college as well)

4) Sounds cliche', but true....If you're going to do something, do it right the first time

5) Always treat customers fairly and honestly (I watched them give unhappy customers big discounts or freebies if there was an issue.....always came back in higher revenue for them. Word of mouth advertisement was strong.)

6) Regardless of how you feel, Dad....get your butt on the floor and play with the kids (Although they were tired after a 10-12 hour day and were old, they sucked it up and gave their free time generously to the little ones that visited. Result: Much love)\

7) Parenting doesn't stop when your children leave the home (There home was always the "safe place" when/if the world around you crumbled....a good place to recenter....stay for a while if you needed to.)

8) Real men put their wives and children first, above themselves....at all times, in all ways. (I saw this more times than I can count)

....much more.

Funny story: When I was around 10 and was playing "Hotwheels" (little toy cars) with my Gpa, he was actually getting into it...making "vroom, vroom sounds"...he loved cars...my Gma came by the room, raised an eyebrow at him in a somewhat humored face....he promptly looked at her and said, "I'm just trying to show the boy how they work!" She said, "yeah....sure" and walked on. Gpa turned to me, winked and said...."Girls, they just don't understand men, huh?"...to which I of course said, "Nope, they don't understand us men."

Answer 5

I wish I could say I learned some kind of wisdom from my grandparents, but never really have. I love all my grandparents, but my family has always been a bit disfunctional. My grandfather that lived with us my entire life was a drunk and still is, love him yes I do.

My Dad's parents, I'm there several times a month helping them out taking them shopping and what not they're super old, but they've never cared enough to teach us grandkids something only cared enough to put all of us down when they could point out only our bad traits and not our good ones.

I wish I could say I've gotten some kind of wisdom from them, but just haven't nor have I rec'd any wisdom from my parents, it's a vicious cycle that I'm am working on breaking.

Answer 6

My Grandmother was a very devout Christian. I think the things she taught me were always in the back of my mind, when I eventually became a Christian myself. So, her influence was part of what lead me to accept Christ.

She also lived through the Depression and the World Wars, and taught me a lot about valuing family, saving money, and being happy with what you have [i.e. not spending all your time wishing for something you can't have]. She was poor, so she had a lot of 'make do with less' mentality. She was a loving, wonderful woman. Thanks for calling her to my memory today. [she died in '74]

Answer 7

the only grandparent I ever knew replace into my maternal grandmother. She taught me to embroidery, crochet, tat, and make quilts. She taught me the thank you to play Books with playing cards and 7 Rock with dominoes. considering that she could no longer walk very a ways, a lot of those issues she taught me, sitting on her mattress along with her propped up against the headboard. She had a known asserting that has by no potential left me..."Use it up, placed on it out, make it do or do without". It has notably plenty been my Mantra my entire existence.

Answer 8

I wished I had some wisdom that my grandmother passed on. My grandmother helped us kids alot when we was young, but my mom and us was always the black sheep of the family. She gave my mother up when she was a baby cause moms step dad didnt want her since she wasnt his. Now that I am older I never realised what all she did to my mom and how she continues to do things to her. Mom got my grandmother a flower to wear on Mother's Day. But moms sister which is my grannys favorite bought her one too and she wore my aunts instead of moms. I am kind to her when I see her but this year instead of going down on Christmas Eve like I have done for many years I am not going. I tried to borrow money from her a few years back to help with my Bible College. I just needed it till he got paid. It was only 169.00. I had to have that paid before I could take my test. Just prior to me asking she gave her favorite grandson 1000 dollars. But she threw a fit cause I asked. I have never asked her for money till that time. She fussed at my mom cause I asked her for it. Its little things like that, that has caused me to walk away from her. I wished things was different, and I know I should forgive but I see it in I have done nothing to her. She is the one who needs to wake up.

Answer 9

My grandparent showed me what it was like to be in love. After 40 years of marriage, they would still smile at one another. They treated each other with love and respect, and they always supported one another.

What a blessing they were. I try and model them in my marriage and it seems to be doing OK after 20 years!

Answer 10

I never got to talk to my grandparents,I was young when most of them died..I did however have a granny(moms) who was so mean,,she was religious and I mean religious,I couldn't even wear make-up around her without her calling me a Jezebel..My other Nannie (dads) was very loving and she was Christain,I looked up to her because I wanted to love like her...she took in my sisters who are all halfs and she loved them as her own..I was very young when she past but I will never forget her...