She has been the center of my world for so long I am afraid of how she will react. We talk about baby but I am not sure she realizes he will actually be in her house and her mother's lap soon.
2006-10-06 02:35:16 · 10 answers · asked by erin 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She's old enough to "help" you. Let her bring you diapers and other things she can carry to you for the baby. Have her help you listen for crying when the baby's asleep. Tell her that she is such a big girl for helping you, and praise her often. Give her lots of extra hugs and kisses, and try to do special things that's just for her, like bubble baths, buying pretty hair clips to fix her hair or making her fave dinner.
I know it will be a big transition, but if you integrate her in and show her that she is still part of your family, I'm sure that it will be OK in the end, and she will be happier for it. Congrats on the new baby!!
2006-10-06 04:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From years of experience, there isn't any way to prepare a child that young for a new arrival. 9 times out of 10, they won't even notice the new one in the house until the baby's big enough to start getting hold of big brother/sister 's toys.
Always an option to include your 29 mo old in the baby's delivery, though. Some 'pros' have said it eases the transition if Mom doesn't disappear for a couple of days, then reappear with a needy screaming bundle of joy.
We have ours at home and the older children have either been in the room or nearby when the newest one is born. One of them may help put the cord clamps on, while another cuts the cord. It's a pretty big moment in our house.
2006-10-06 09:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you bring the baby home, let her help to take care of him/her. Maybe help to change diapers, or help to feed the baby. But the most important thing to do is make sure you spend time alone with just her for atleast an hour or so a day. And not just when the baby is napping. Children can become very jealous, but as long as she knows that her Mommy and Daddy still have time for her she should be fine with a new addition to the family, especially if she can help "play" Mommy.
2006-10-10 08:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by dienna c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are all very good suggestions. Especially the one about getting your child a baby doll and equipment of their own. But the most important thing it to continue to talk to the 29 month old in terms that include "we". That let's the child think in terms of a team rather than being left-out.
2006-10-06 09:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by TERRYTOONS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her some child toy baby things like. Carriage, swing, baby baby diapers, fake bottles, make it be a doll that can get wet(so you can have her help you bath they baby.Get her a small doll basinet or crib. Make it as real as you can so when the little one comes she will have some experience feeding and changing and bathing. Because the best way to keep a small one from being jelous is to have them help with everything. make her proud to be the big sister. I have done this with my 3 oldest children and it worked every time i have 4 children. And they are great with each other and the new baby we have. They love being mommy and daddys big helpers. hope i have helped
2006-10-06 09:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by four2love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get her ready for the new baby by letting her help you make room and buy things for the baby. Show her the picture of the baby in your stomach. Try to make her apart of everything and keep it up when the baby is born. Then if you like you can do like I did by a puppy. That really help. The pup and my daughter were two peas in a pod that loved taking care( watching )of her lil sis for me. You know let the three of them look at movies together in front the tv. Now, I cant pull the three apart.
2006-10-06 11:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by funoburgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there done that. first let her be involved with taking care of the baby, commend her on anything positive she does with the baby and acknowlege it in front of her so she feels good about it. before the baby comes, buy a gift for your existing child and later when you have the baby tell her the present is from the new sibling. whenever you have to go out to do errands just take your older child so she still feels special. it will mean alot to her until she adjusts to the new baby. i did these things with my kids and it helped them to forge a healthy bond quickly. it is easy for the older child to feel resentment if you don't prepare ahead of time for them.
2006-10-06 09:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her "What do you want,a brother or a sister?".Then whatever she answers,she will receive the one you deliver:)Then,don't make the new baby the centre and cut off your daughter.Include her in the care of the baby.She may help with changing the diapers and giving you new diapers or taking the milk from the table and giving it to you.You have to continue playing often with her and doing things which you used to do while you were pregnant(or before that time).
2006-10-06 09:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Include her in as much as you can, let her be you "special little helper", there is 13 months between my two and my daughter used to want to nurse her brother, lol. and now they are 5 and 6 and best buddies in the world. Good luck!!
2006-10-06 09:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
include the little one in all that you can. Hold them both often together and show her how tiny it is and say will you help mommy take care of him, you are mommy's big girl now, you are the big sister and mommy is so proud of you. Continue to tell her she is sooooooo sweet and oooo and awww over her too. She will adjust, it may be hard, I used to let my older ones help powder, get diapers and things and tell them how much they helped me...............just little things, if you give her attention and include her it will be ok
2006-10-06 09:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋