Okay, so I'm an open minded gal. I know what men do when alone, with porn, and that's fine. I walked in on my b/f whacking it, and he acts like he was just caught with his mom. So, I got offended by being treated like I was that kind of asexual, "mood killer" as he described it. I don't actually care about the porn, but on the fact that I'm such a "mood killer."
I pointed out that some couples shared porn, even. That he needn't treat me like his mother in our own place. It was awkard for him, I'm sure, but if some couples share their porn, why is it so hard for him to not treat me like his mother, aka "mood killer?"
I dunno. Was that stupid for that to mess with me?
2006-10-06 02:09:07 · 19 answers · asked by Erin S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No reason to be embarrased when he knows I'm into it as much as he is! He wouldn't let me join. Oh well. haha
2006-10-06 02:11:47 · update #1
HAHA. I just asked him, he said he was just acting defensive. Okay, defensive for WHAT? Then he asked me if this had to do with the "night before." Yeah, you leave a gal hanging. Oy.
2006-10-06 02:44:04 · update #2
He was embarrassed. Still, men like to look at porn by themselves. My boyfriend and I share porn movies together but he also looks at the porn by himself. Men want to have their space alone sometimes. Even though it is okay to share some their most intimate moments with their mates they still want the privacy of doing something alone. Next time you walk in on him you should not even say anything just close the door and walk away. Better yet do not even mention it. Its kind of like you know he is doing it but its okay because he is at home and he is not cheating. Let him have that freaky fun by himself.
2006-10-06 02:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is stupid for you to be upset about that. I would've been very offended! You are apparently more open minded than me, because I would be wondering why he needed to "whack it" while watching porn when I was in the next room willing to give him the real thing!? Nonetheless, if you are open minded and were ok with the idea, I would think he would be wanting you to assist in the process. I'm sure he was embarrassed and reacted without much thought to what he was saying, but .......an apology would be nice.
Also, if you were upset by this, than it isn't stupid. You are ALWAYS entitled to your feelings. Don't let others peoples opinion make you feel as though you aren't.
2006-10-06 09:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you say or do when you 'caught' him? Did you gasp or give a little scream or something, like his mom would? There's not really a lot of "mood" involved in a man whacking it! He was probably just blustering because he was embarassed...But, you might want to take a little time to analyze and re-work your reactions to him in general. There is a reason he was involved with himself even though you were right there in the other room, and a reason he reacted so badly when you walked in on him, and it is either your general attitude and actions, or his, or most probably both. You might be able to change his attitude by changing your own. Although really, you could just move out and save these totally intimate things for a man you like enough to marry.
2006-10-06 09:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. There are some women who would be offended if they found their bf's masturbating / watching porn. It _is_ possible that he had some dealings with such women, so he is upset you may be one of them.
2. I think, once you walked in on him, you reacted rightly - telling him that you don't mind, and may even share the fun. Don't press the issue for now, just let him digest.
3. I can perfectly understand your being upset with his reaction, but you needn't be. Relax, don't be angry, and try to make it an issue that is easy to talk about - not something he need to conceal, but not something you nag about either.
Good luck!
2006-10-06 09:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes and Im just some female that knows way to much of the male brain (scary place Ill add)
What men do with their porn all alone is them and their alone time
not all men want to do this with their lover I mean its not like you want to be with them in the bathroom. Space for these things is a must.
2006-10-06 09:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by chexmix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a stupid comment about it, which maybe he regrets. I can see why it would have put him off if you walked in when he was jacking off, but he shouldn't have called you a "mood killer" and you are right to be pissed off with him, and you have the right share his porn collection.
2006-10-06 09:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by DS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now assure him that you are no threat.
But baby, turn on Porn and have it with him while its running. Do all you can to make him feel that you are better offf than his porn. He will be asking for your **** instead of porn.
Goodluck.
2006-10-06 09:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've walked in on my man inthe middle of the act, and from what you're saying, they responded the same way! He'll get over it, tonite, do something special for him!
2006-10-06 09:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by mysticalfairygoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he acts like he was just caught with his mom" LOLOLOL!!
anyway, he just felt stupid and thats all there is too it. Ive been caught before, I felt very dumb too. of course it didnt stop me from getting back after it when she went away, but for him to take issue with you over it is pretty lame.
2006-10-06 09:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh, you should of been hey, let me help you... and opened your mouth... If you didn't do that then, yes you're a mood killer.
2006-10-06 09:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by brazoian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋