rude teacher?

Question

my daughter was in school playing hockey she's 8,when playing she took off her school sweat shirt & put on the bench with the other girls sweat shirts after class was over she told the teacher that she had the wrong shirt the teacher then procuded to roar at her " tough deal with it " and walked off any body any ideas how to deal with this teacher

Answer 1

Quick trip to school, short meeting with principle and apology from that individual. Wouldn't stand still for that a minute. Teachers are employees.

Answer 2

I'm with Zana on this.
Yes, your daughter is a valuable human being, with feelings. I'm sorry her feelings were hurt. It was wrong of the teacher to "roar" at her.
Whenever you have a conflict, the best thing to do is to communicate with the other person.
An "I message" is very useful:
"I feel ------ when you-------because---------."
In your daughter's case: I feel hurt when you roar at me because I really needed your help.
If your daughter feels uncomfortable talking to the teacher on her own, go with her, but make sure she communicates with the teacher. Don't do all her talking for her.
I'm sure the teacher will appreciate getting a chance to explain why she responded the way she did, and maybe even offer an apology.
If you still don't feel the situation has been resolved, THEN go to the principal.

Answer 3

You are not going to like my answer, but I also have an 8 year old daughter and I am disappointed by how quickly the other answerers are encouraging you to jump into this situation and intercede for your daughter in what could be a huge learning opportunity for her.

I know it is early in the school year, but does this seem to be a pattern of behavior for this teacher? Did you meet her at Open House or anything...was she normal?

Assuming that she is normal and this is not a pattern, your daughter needs to address the fact that the comment hurt with the teacher. Speak with your daughter to help her calmly organize her thoughts; she should just state what happened (as briefly as you just did) and how it made her feel. Arrange for a meeting with your daughter and the teacher and allow for your daughter to advocate for herself (with you right there for support). Close by letting the teacher know that you feel that the event was unintentional, but that it was important for your daughter to let her hurt feelings be known.

If the teacher is even human she will apologize directly to your daughter without any further prompting from you. Then you can all shake hands and go on with the school year. If not, still kindly thank her for her time, and in the car, explain to your daughter that she will encounter these types of people in her life and ask her if she wants to talk with the principal about it (the two of you together) - and then respect her wishes either way.

You may want to punish this woman for hurting your daughter - that's a natural reaction - but it is more important to teach your daughter appropriate responses to these situations.

Answer 4

I think you'd better talk to the teacher first, If she is not repentent and does not seem apologetic, you must take the matter to the principal or other school authorities, try to solve the problem with self control and avoid a verbal fight with the teacher or the school authorities. If this is the 1st inappropriate behavior U see from the teacher, dont accuse him/her of anything,act as if it's a common mistake wich can happen to anyone and that the only thing that makes the matter look bad is that it was told to a grade schooler. Remember teachers are humanbeings too, they have good days and bad days like the rest of us. We cant expect them to be faultless.

Answer 5

Talk to the principle and demand that that teacher apologize to you'r daughter.Just cuz the teacher had a bad day does not mean she needs to put you'r daughter down a few noches.When thier young kids remember stuff like that.She needs to hear an apology too.

Answer 6

File a complaint with the principal, and the board of education. No child should ever have to be yelled at or humiliated in school. When I went to grade school it was the norm for teachers to yell and spank kids. In todays society it is illegal for a teacher to even raise their voice to a student.

Answer 7

I would try calling the teacher and set up a meeting first and if that doesn't work i would get the principals involved and something would get done about it. No child regaurdless of age needs to be roared at or yelled at in a degrading manner.

Answer 8

Just forget about it. Everyone has their bad days.
Parents are too quick to jump on teachers. Heaven forbid your kids feelings get hurt.
We are raising a bunch of wimpy kids. I had teachers say things that were a lot worse than that. I grew up just fine. Kids aren't learning how to deal with everyday things anymore. Life is hard. Lean to deal with it. My kid is.

Answer 9

first off talk to the teacher and if you do not feel satisfied with the response talk to the principal and if still not satisfied then go to the school board and find out how many times this teacher has had complaints made against them.Hope this helps.

Answer 10

SPEAK WITH THE TEACHER ABOUT THE SITUATION AND IF THAT DOESN'T WORK PLEASE TALK TO THE PRINCIPLE ABOUT THE PROBLEM. THERE IS NO REASON A TEACHER SHOULD TALK TO STUDENTS THAT WAY.MAYBE A MEETING WITH THE TEACHER, PRINCIPLE, YOU ,AND YOUR DAUGHTER. IF ALL ELSE FAILS CONTACT THE SCHOOL BROAD. JUST TEACH YOUR DAUGHTER TO DEAL WITH OTHERS WITH KINDNESS EVEN IF THEY DO NOT TREAT HER THAT WAY. GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH AND I HOPE YOU GET YOUR PROBLEM SOLVED AND THE ANSWERS YOU NEED!