If anyone knows the answer, please, help. I have a relative. She've done a lot of good stuff for me, but she also have done a lot of bad things. She does not leave me alone. Because of her,my parents hate me, she keep saying bad things about me and my family to others etc. I know her "little" secret: she is a proffesional shoplifter and she hides her business income from government for years. I want to get her in real trubble so, she will forget about me forever. The only thing is stopping me is God. I'm not sure if he approves that. If anyone has a clue what I'm talking about, please, respond. Thank you and God bless you.
2006-10-06 02:05:35 · 15 answers · asked by rekesh 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's not right to seek "revenge" against people just because you are angry.
If you feel like turning her in for her crimes becuase you think it is the right thing to do, you should. But if you are only doing it because she is upsetting you I would call that "morals of convenience". When she is doing nice things for you its ok, when shes not, you want to get her in trouble. If you think what she is doing is wrong, it should be wrong all the time, not just when you are mad.
You should take the high road and also stop associating with her.
I have a cousin who is a really bad and selfish person, at first I thought she was just misguided and tried to help her, but then I saw how she really is... abusive to her kids as well. I did everythign I could to help her kids, but for some reason the government keeps believing her lies despite years of evidence.
She wanted to drag me into her drama all the time but I just made a point of staying away from her and being around people I can respect and who respect me.
She says stuff about me to cause problems in the family, but firstly, people know what she is like I know she is lying. Secondly, I really don't care what she says... I know the truth and you can't worry about controlling what other people do. Only yourself.
Good luck.
2006-10-06 02:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by baxterstuds 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her to leave you alone. You are giving her too much power over you by letting her bother you so much. I know the first and strongest reaction is to get even but that will not make you feel better for long. If she says something bad about you just say God bless you and go on. She will answer for her sins as we all will. You have to decide what you are willing to answer for in the end.
2006-10-06 09:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is God stopping you? Is it not God who made the commandment, "Thou shalt not steal??" Or is it that you are not sure if God would be happy about the intent behind your wanting to narc her off. That's something your going to have to figure out for yourself. If your telling on her because your vengeful, then that is the wrong reason to tell. You should turn her in because STEALING IS WRONG. Now you have the burden of proof. That is a pretty hefty accusation there, and I hope that you got some hard core proof backing up your accusations. If they find her not guilty, then your going to be in a worse situation then you are now. Make good choices for yourself, and try to lead others down that path. Never make rash decisions in a rengeful state of mind. We have a conscience for a reason, and I think that yours is trying to tell you something. Listen to it......take care.
2006-10-06 09:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't spend your time trying to hold your relative accountable for her bad behavior. From your post, it appears you're a Christian, so just trust that she will have to answer to God for her bad choices and leave the judging to Him.
Instead, spend your time trying to build a more positive, loving relationship with your parents, and indeed all your family. That's what's most important.
2006-10-06 09:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you know far more than she thinks you do!
Now you need to be very strong when you tell her, so she doesn't know you may have a few fears about her?
SO be strong!
And that may get her from you...I did say may.
After all, you want your family to like and love you.....DO NOT GO OUT AND GET HER INTO TROUBLE...
Not good....GOD would not approve!! believe me.
Now if she takes the bait, and leaves you alone....great.
If not...then I would seek someone professional-for help.
2006-10-06 09:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you shouldnt let her know anything about you bad that she can go gossip about to your parents. Also if that were me I would find a way to get her back for all the struggles she has caused you not saying its right or what you should do though. You should just sit down and really think about what you should do and what the outcome will be! : )
2006-10-06 09:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i can fully understand ur problems !! the problem there is that maybe she doesnt know the diff b/w good or bad ..like maybe she isnt that mature enough to know what talkin bad abt parents is morally bad n etc !! first try to get her understand this !! and if she still doesnt turn back , then leave her on her ownself !!! dont just FRNDS with her . like u can talk to her ( only if she starts it ,,, u dotn have to start it ).. n be good to her !!! i mean nice n kind !!! DONT BE HARSH or RUDE !!!!
2006-10-06 09:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by terrorismbuster 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually there is nothing wrong in doing that because by that you will helping your own country. But yes you will really hurt that person.but jaise ko taisa
but remember ' The person whom we hate, we also start behaving as that person do'.
so please control your anger, take a deep breath, and think again ,do you really want to do that.
2006-10-06 09:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry about it. go talk to your parents, but dont do anything rash like calling the police. becasue once the police are involved, no one will be happy. and then you should go talk to her, tell her how you feel and what you know. tell her to stay out of your life and business.
2006-10-06 09:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you have to make up your mind whether she is more beneficial or, more harmful to you.
Personally I would just tell her to leave me alone, if I were you.
2006-10-06 09:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by robert2020 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋