My partner is lovely.
However, we are apart often due to work.
i have medical problems i feel i need to deal with on my own and not have my partner lumbered with or worried about.
How do i say goodbye without being nasty, or coming across as a selfish person?
Dont want to break their heart...... I am breaking up for the right reasons.
2006-10-06 01:54:29 · 24 answers · asked by squaddysam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went throught exactly the same thing as you. Just tell him what you've told us. You are not being selfish, you are being selfless, and you're being honest with yourself which is difficult to do at the best of times. Husbands and wives sign up for 'in sickness and in health'. With BFs &GFs, it's a whole other ball game. You're doing what's best for both of you.
You have to sound certain about your decision though, and not leave any room for doubt in their minds. Don't make it sound as if you're pretending to break up with them just to seek the reassurance that they're going to stick with you.
I hope everything works out for you and your health improves : )
2006-10-06 02:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second line of your question bothers me..WHY if this person is lovely, do you want to throw away, what sounds to me as a wonderful and caring person. We all have things to deal with in our relationships & medical problems amount to one of the most common. I would not rush into this if I were you, as I think from your words YOU will regret it. Sit down and talk to your partner, tell them your concerns and that you feel that you would be lumbering them with worry & the feeling of having to help you with your problems...I bet you will get a big cuddle and told to stop being daft. good luck
2006-10-06 02:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you dumping him because o fyour medical reasons or because you dont love him anymore?
If its the first - then you have no justification in ending it, Im sure your partner will want to stand by you in your time of need and help you - i realise you may be ending it to prevent him from suffering through whatever medical problem you have - but seriously talk it over with him first. I hope you'll be better soon xx
2006-10-06 02:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow scary I am going throught the same thing sorta, it's hard to break up with someone. Just tell them everything that you have explained there and they will understand, the hardest part is saying goodbye and moving on. When you love some one, you have to let them go at one point.
2006-10-06 01:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime, a break up is involved, it is never easy. I'm sure if you are the one breaking up with them, they will take it harder. You have to stick to honesty and just tell them the truth just as you did to us. It will take some time, but both you and the one you broke up with, will eventually move on......Sorry, there is no good way in doing it, it sucks sometimes, but it's something you have to do. You do not want to keep leading them on, it will only lead to more hurt and time to heal! Good luck and take care!
2006-10-06 01:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
or is that so you can have some "steak"?
I'm very surprised you are so bothered about being nasty when
from one of your other questions you said your tempted to cheat! and what a stupid question it was anyway! she's better off without you.
you ARE selfish if you want to cheat on her, so be honest and tell her that.
hopefully she will find a respectful man and not another scum bag
i bet all you are worthy of is a "burger" and only a slag would want you
2006-10-07 09:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say the same things you just did, your partner might try to talk you out of it but if your mind is made up stick to your decision.
Good luck
2006-10-06 01:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Solitary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you wont share life when things go wrong...why? Relationsships are for the good and bad times both.. Just tell her how you feel but be sure first that you want to part with this lovely woman..
2006-10-06 01:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is so lovely why not let him support you through your illness?? Seems like you are leaving him for reasons that are not really there. Of course it will break his heart but if you feel it is right..sit him down and tell him how you feel.
2006-10-06 02:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now tell the truth. Do you want to break up with her cause you no longer love her or is it just because of your health problems?
If its only because of health issues, shouldnt you talk with her about it first. if she loves you she will be supportive of you through it all, and you shouldnt worry about her worrying about you.
2006-10-06 01:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋