I've been with my boyfriend for over 16 months and he's going away to New Zealand in Nov for a year. He's had it tough here in terms of jobs etc and he really needs a break. I have just finished uni and have a job here (in Scotland) but I'm worried what a year apart will do to us. I'm thinking of going with him but the only reason I would is to not be apart from him. I trust him and we don't want to break up before he goes. Do you think he'll change being away back-packing for a year?
2006-10-06 01:40:40 · 26 answers · asked by tired_girl84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I spoke to him about me going too - he's been asking me from the start to come with him. I thought it was best to stay and work but now I keep thinking: "Well, why can't I go with him?" He said that ultimately its my choice, but he'll be back in a year anyway.
2006-10-06 01:49:21 · update #1
I think you should go with him. But for yourself not for your relationship.
It's a great time to travel, see some of the world before you get stuck in the daily grind. You may well end up wishing you had gone later in life, regardless of whether you are still with your boyfriend at that time.
If you don't go, there are no hard and fast rules that say he'll not come back and be with you forever after, but 12 months is a long time apart from someone you love. It's plenty long enough to get over someone, put it that way.
Plus, if he's a good looking fella then travelling alone, care free and around lots of young, female backpackers then temptation will most definitely be there for him. But at some point I guess you have to trust your partner...
2006-10-06 02:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by nobby_piles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 02:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Morris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a job already lined up, keep it. He will change, that is probably the reason he is going to New Zealand. You are worried if he will still love you after a year apart. This maybe the best way to see if the love you two share is strong enough to have a long lasting relationship. What ever you do think about the pros and cons.... Right now you do have a job. Will you be able to get a job in New Zealand, just think about carefully, good luck......
2006-10-06 01:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really say whether he will change for sure or not...but, he will have a lot of time to think while he's away. He could be thinking about anything. There's no telling if he sees that being away from you for a year could make his life better. I honestly believe that you should go with him, and share the back-packing experience together. It would be a great experience for you two to be together..Cherish the time that you have.. and good luck!
2006-10-06 02:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by ..::Sierra::.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all u tryna follow him is not gonna save ur relationship.. if he says he needs a break then allow him that... and if u and him don't work out then it was for a reason and u should then accept it.. but if he doesn't ask u to go or suggest it then don't invite urself.. u have a job and home where u r, u and him r not married so why r u gonna jeopardize what u have going on for urself just so u'll be near him...
u need to sit him down and give him ur concerns....
2006-10-06 01:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is going to go without you anyway, that says it all, if he cares for you why is he leaving, you have a job stay. make your life there were you are, there is no future in back packing. get on with your life, things will all just fall into place, i bet when you split with your last boyfreind you thought the world was going to end and you wouldnt meet anyone else.
2006-10-06 02:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by darryn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one.....
wether or not you should go with you boyfriend..that is a choice that should be made based one your feelings for him. i have been in Iraq for one year now and i hate to say it but i have changed, and what you dont realize is that you will change too. Mabey it will be a good change but wether you want to or not you and him will change. Talk with him about it and see how he feels and what he wants to do
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-06 01:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by lefty_miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you think you trust him then i do not see the reason why you should be worry and moreover going with him is not big deal if that will make you comfortable then go ahead. but u have to asked urself if you go with him you now going to look for job at fresh.
2006-10-06 01:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will definitely change him, the question is if will be to your advantage or not.
But I wouldn't suggest uprooting yourself to just be with him and to try and safeguard your relationship. That's not a smart move at all for something that possibily is temporary.
2006-10-06 01:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in New Zealand and it's so incredibly beautiful, and known for its great backpackers. maybe you should do some research about NZ, and you might discover you want to go there too.
2006-10-07 18:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shelly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋