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Question

my now ex boyfriend and i are trying to be friends but we argue still all the time. he has slept with someone else and he has deicided to tell me about during one arguement. why do men do this he told me she was wild in bed and that the condom broke on them. he says he dont want a relationship with her but why would he tell me about how they had sex? is he doing it to make me jealous

Answer 1

He is doing it to show you you are not the only one in his life.

i think he really doesn;t care about you.

Take this opportunity to leave him

Answer 2

There are some Men with some awefully girly avatars on this question.

Men, and when I say men I mean men and women, who bring up infidelity in a fight aren't trying to resolve a problem. Just from what you're saying it sounds like he said it to be hurtful. Odds are there was a reason why he felt the need to hurt you, this sort of things happens a lot when you're fighting with someone. I'm sorry he cheated on you, it's pretty hard business to take but the fact that you're not looking for revenge or walking out shows that you love him a lot, and if he's botherring to fight I think he loves you too. Decide if you can deal with his infidelity and do what needs be done to make sure it never happens again.
Good luck.

Answer 3

First things first. The condom breaking has to be one of the biggest urban myths out there. Those things can be stretched over the length of a broom stick without breaking. ( I saw a report on TV for all you dirty minds wondering how I know)

Secondly he's a vindictive little son of a you know what. He's probably also very insecure and in order to try and make himself feel better he is trying to put you down. We've raised our 7 year old not to be mean and spiteful. I guess your ex's parents didn't do such a good job.

Anyway, I suggest you break off all ties with this loser. The sooner the better.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Maybe he feels geniunely sorry? Not sure why he told you about the condom though?? I suspect it's a denial thing and they actually didn't use one.

Men are weird, we can quite easily have sex that means nothing whereas women do tend to attach more emotions to it. I don't agree with what he's done at all, personally once the trust has gone, the relationship has gone but the cliched answer of men is "but she meant nothing to me", is a true statement.

Hmmmm, be careful with your heart. x

Answer 5

Yes he is and if he is young he really don't know any better. Some boy's or men are very in-mature until they realize they have all they need. My husband was very in-mature when we first met he let his friends talk him into everything. At the beginning I found out he was cheating on me from one of his friends girlfriends and, we had already been together for over a year and had a baby. Don't let him get to you stand strong and let him know that it is his lost and are the best he has ever had in any way.

Answer 6

Nahhhh, he wants an excuse in case you get back together with him...and she gets pregnant.

he can say "I told you the condom broke..." and that makes it okay....
back when I used to have extremely lame male friends, i had heard this story.

This is an immature man that does not seem worth your time nor effort. I'm sorry if thats disrespectful; but i think his commentary was disrespectful to you.

Most people here already know how I feel about men and women being friends anyways...so...I at least remain consistant in my philosophy.

Answer 7

I feel for those who desire to be with the daddy of your youngster and he's inclined to paintings matters out u will have to. A younger youngster demands either one of his or her father and mother. He will have been appearing loopy as a result of the medications that he used to be taking after which he stopped bloodless turkey. That has plenty to do with how someones angle is. I feel you ought to have an extended speak with either one of the imply and allow them to know the way you're feeling if neither realize than that's no longer who you will have to be with. Yeah he's going to be mad that you're with any one else however he tousled. U men speakme is a well signal that matters can get again to the best way they have been. Be precise on your emotions and your self.

Answer 8

he wants to make you jealous but then he realises that you are slipping away when he hurts you with those words so he gives in & says he wants you back. I dont think he had sex at all.

If I were you if you really want the fighting to stop & you want a normal relationship.. tell him its really over & leave him without making contact with him. Let everything wash out of his system after suffering a bit & after a few months (of not having any contact with him) hook back up with him but lay down the rules this time & tell him u not going to take any petty fighting again

Answer 9

well keep him your ex sounds like it could get messy...he might become a father then that makes things different,you will see how responsable he really is...he does nt want a relationship with this girl but she's ok to sleep with....not normal....dont trust him im sure the other girl will probably tell you the same..find someone worthy of giving your everything to dont waste it with someone that will obviously hurt you..find a man that will adore you and be for you like you need them to be cause if they love you for who you are they will try to be for you like no other can ..

Answer 10

Not necssarily, he may be just confiding in you.

When men brag, it's very obvious, and when people in general brag, they usually don't mention the condom breaking and the fears of the consequences of it.

Doesn't make logical sense, how would being in an screwed up situation make you jeallous?

Answer 11

You would do the same thing if you were trying to hurt him. He was being a jerk. Honestly I think you guys aren't ready to be friends yet. I think couples should part ways for a while before they can have a chance of being friends in the future.